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    Default Help, my girlfriend has an audition!

    Hi

    Im currently working on my degree down at bournemouth (South West England), studying product Design. Today i was talking to my girlfriend, who annoced that she is planning to become a sripper at the new FYEO in Croydon(South London). Both of us live there, me in Purley and she lives in Selsdon. We went through school together and have now been properly dating for a couple of years, both of us seem confident about the future and could easily see us spending the rest of our lives together!

    But due to this whole stripping issue??? Im so scared about what could happen to us and just want to find out what the industry is all about and what everyone else thinks?

    Im just worried that she is downgrading her self (no disrespect to any dancers out there)?

    Im worried our relationship could get damaged?

    Im worried about what other men will think of her?

    Im worried about her safty?

    Im worried about drugs?

    There are soo many things that i am worried about, regarding her becoming a dancer. Could anyone reply to this and say what they think or any tips to how i should approach this issue?

    Currently she does not want to talk about this whole thing becasue she does not want me to get annoyed at her. But its making it worse becasue i need to clear my mind of everything that is worring me.


    Thanks a lot

    Ian


    PS. if she is confident that this is wht she wants to do then i would respect her decision and support her all the way, its just im woriied about what might happen thats all!

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    I worked with a couple of girls who worked in FYEO in Bournemouth - it sounds like a good club, so don't worry too much!
    There is nothing degrading about stripping, it's fun and I personally think it's very empowering. Who cares what anyone else thinks about what we do anyway - it's irrelevant! I find that very few people have a problem with it anyway! Plus she may choose to not advertise what she does to everyone.
    At the end of the day it's just a job and should be treated as sutch.
    If you have an honest secure relationship don't worry. If you go and have a look around a few strip clubs you'll see that there's not too much to be concerned about! (-:
    Hope it all works out for both of you! (-:

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    Default Re: Help, my girlfriend has an audition!

    yer i am planning on going to the one in bournemouth, with my best mate who has been talking to me about all this.

    I dont no way i was socked but she told me about this two weeks ago and since thn i have started to see the positve side of things, i just want to tlak to her about somethings that could go wrong if we are not carefull.

    Anyway thanks for your adive! hope to hear from other people!!

    thanks

    Ian

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    I haven't been in your situation but maybe I can give you my $0.02 anyway. If you can't handle it do not ever go in the club where she works. Do not demand to know everything she did during her shift. If after a particular shift she doesn't wanna be affectionate with you, do not feel offended, do not force the issue, just accept it. Most important of all, always be supportive of her no matter what. [The most negative of human emotions are jealousy and resentment, they eat away at your inner being and that of the person you're with. Do not succomb to those emotions, ever!]

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    Yer i no about that, which is why i want to talk to her casually about it. When it all happens i will be there to support her, its just it is so easy to fall into the trap of jealusy!

    on another forum someone contacted me about this issue and said that you have to reverse it. It works! if you look at it from the other angle you sould get a buzz out of it becasue there are guys paying for ur girlfriend when she is yours (dont mean that in an offensive way)

    The one bit i am going to hate is the fact that men will be down grading her! i hate men who think that of women because we are all humans. Both of us come from a christian background, so we both share this similar view.

    Anyway thank you for the advice and im sorry for my spelling mistakes.

    Ian

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    When I first started dancing, by boyfriend wasn't happy about it at all... We both were under 21, so he had never been in a strip club before and didn't really know what went on there.... But now that I've been doing it a while, he's perfectly fine with it. He knows that it is just a job, and nothing more.

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    You seem to have a good attitude about it so far and I am very impressed that you admit that you could fall into the trap of jealousy. Understand that you are NOT the only man out there who has issues with jealousy when it comes to his stripper girlfriend.

    If you can, assure her that you are able to talk openly about this and that you want her to feel like she can tell you anything related to this job. If she ever keeps anything from you, and you find out, you are going to go nuts.

    Keep the lines of communication open and enjoy it. This job is empowering in so many ways and she will probably become much more assertive and adventurous and you will most likely love it!

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    She could do a lot worse than go to FYEO. You just need to relax and be less uptight. She wont start taking drugs purely because she dances, if she does then she more than likely would anyway. Why would men look down at her?And so what if they do?as long as you think she's wonderful then who cares what a stranger thinks?And most of the customers treat us pretty well. She will be safer working at the club than on a night out with her girlfriends, thats why good security is employed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ace1001ace
    The one bit i am going to hate is the fact that men will be down grading her! i hate men who think that of women because we are all humans. Both of us come from a christian background, so we both share this similar view.
    Um, how are men going to be "down grading" her? They're going to be paying her to dance for them. When you pay a woman to cut your hair are you down grading her?

    A little nudity does not change the reality of a service/sales job.

    Lena



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    Quote Originally Posted by ace1001ace
    The one bit i am going to hate is the fact that men will be down grading her!
    They will be doing that anyway. I promise that if you ask her, she will be able to think of several times she has been insulted or "downgraded" for being a woman, or for being blonde, or for being cute, or whatever. I know I have. But the vast majority of the time in the club (just like out of the club), people are going to be respectful and appreciative. And unlike most other service jobs, strippers have the option of telling a disrespectful ass to go fuck himself.

    I was a waitress for 10 years and I cannot tell you how degrading it was. I hauled food and scraped sludge with my fingernails for $2.13 an hour plus whatever tips I could beg and scrabble for. If someone didn't like the food or the kitchen didn't get it out fast enough, I went hungry that day. And all the while I had to giggle and smile while arrogant jerks pinched me, insulted me, and humiliated me. One even threw a live cockroach in my face! And there wasn't a damn thing I could do about it.

    When I quit my last waitressing job, I swore I'd never do it again. I knew then that stripping would have to be less degrading. And now that I am stripping (part-time), I know I was right. Trust me, if you're worried about her being degraded, stripping is one of the best things she could be doing.

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    Default Re: Help, my girlfriend has an audition!

    yer thats so true! like i said earlier im starting to think positivly about it instead of paniking about all the negatives (if there is any! lol). After reading other articals about how it will change her, they all seem to be positive becasue the biggest thing for her will be confidence! she has loads of confidence when we go out its just behind closed doors she has no confidence in her self so when she starts to dance it should give her self beleave.

    Yekhefah! i no how you feel about jobs like that, thinking about it from that prospective your right! Plus she is working behind a bar at the moment, and she is always coming back and telling some of things that customers have said!

    Lena! same with you, when you said that i thought that they sould in therore be addoring her, as they will be paying her to dance!

    Anyway, thank you everyone else for saying things that has made me think about the whole situation with a braoder mind!

    ian

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