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    The same bossy bitch who has been telling me all these "rules" (http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sho...p?t=58375) has now appointed herself the one-woman Colleen police. Last week, she took an offhand comment about my cell phone totally out of context and told the manager that I am an escort. Today she was in the private dance area at the same time I was, and aferward came up to me and accused me of doing undefined "extras" (as in, "I SAW wht you did back there!") when there was no way she could have seen what was happening. My back was to her!

    I was just going to smile and walk away, but then she said to me in this nasty voice, "You better just mind your P's and Q's!"

    So I told her, "I don't know what you thought you saw, but I am a clean dancer, I am NOT an escort, and you should be tending to your own customer instead of worrying what I am doing!" I should have added, although I didn't think of it at the time, "Tell me how YOU get a custy to blow his load without touching him!" (This is in response to her bragging, the first night I worked with her, that she got a guy to shoot, after working at it for 17 dances!)

    This girl was acting really strange all night, anyway. She looked mad as hell the entire time I was there. Apparently, she was pissed b/c I sold quite a few dances and got a lot of stage tips from one guy who would not give her the time of day. And possibly b/c I sat with her regular for a couple of songs (didn't sell him anything, jsut had a little chit-chat, mostly about how beautiful and tallented bitch girl is!) At the end of the night, she mentioned that she wa on her peroid. I get bitchy then, too, but aggresively catty??? Sheesh!

    Strangely, I saw her copying some of my pole tricks and signature moves on stage. Also, she is friends with the guy who was managing tonight. Last time I worked with him, I was reported as not having paid my house fee. Tonight, the GM gave me free house b/c she asked me to come in on my night off, and this guy tried to collect!

    I may be paranoid, but I still have the gut instinct that this girl is out to get me. I suspect she feels threatened b/c I am a good hustler (her first attack was on my hustle style), and b/c I have a similar body type and dance/dress style to her. In the past, I have noticed that whenever I wear a gown out of the common trunk, she will wear it the very next night. And now, as I mentioned, she is trying to copy my pole tricks and dance moves.

    I think this club has good potential for me, but I don't think I will be there very long at this rate.

    Well, that was it. My little rant. I can't imagine what I can possibly do, except just ignore her. I don't feel like I can or should go to management, b/c she has been there over a year, and I only 3 weeks. I mean, who would YOU believe?

    Anyway, thanks for listening.


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    JMO, but I say don't let the bitch win. You have every right to be there earning money, same as she does. How small is your club? I wonder if it would be possible to literally pretend that she does not exist. like if she speaks to you, pretend that you do not hear. Just carry on as if she is not there. It takes a lot of energy to do this, I know, but I think like you said, it's all you can do.

    Just because she's been there over a year doesnt mean she has the right to be psycho bitch and say who can or can not be there. Who is she anyway? A peon compared to you, i'm sure. And I think that's why she's so pissed, too.

    Since you have a schedule, maybe you could watch what days she works and then request other days to at least minimize your time with her. But that might be hard to do since you're the new girl and management seems to be on her side.

    I'd like to think that if you dont let her win, and you stay there at the club, that she will get used to you. Right now she's hoping that she won't have to get used to you giving her major competition. She's in denial that yeah... someone can show her up. What's she gonna do when someone like you shows up? She'll freak out like the prima donna (sp?) she is. What's she gonna do when you decide to stay? She'll have to get used to it.
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    Time for a blanket party! Heh.
    Yeah, I had one of these ugly shadows. Lucky for her, I was much nicer back then. I ignored her & didn't work enough shifts for the problems to come to a head.
    Just talk to the GM...your work record should speak for itself.......and I'm sure you're not the first victim of her meanness, and you won't be the last. People like that walk around with a little black cloud of Hate following close behind....everyone figures them out sooner or later...and she can only blow the staff for so long before they find some new fluffer girl...LOL.....
    Ah, you know what sucks, I had a couple co-workers like her at my last straight job. Snitchy, bitchy, sleeping with the guys and out to get over on everyone. At least in the club you see this crap coming a mile away. (And possibly elbow her OUT of the way LOL.)

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    Accusations of extras, when you're not giving them? If anyone talks to you about this, or even looks at you funny for it -- tell them you're willing to be watched all night, and that this girl has been giving you trouble for no reason.

    Sounds like she's not making any money and is seeing you make money despite your newness at the club, and is just freakin' jealous.

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    Every club sadly has one of these, some are worse then others. Im going through kind of the same shit right now, I have a girl whos accusing me of doing extras, telling customers that I beg customers in VIP to let me suck them off... telling everyone I have fake tits the list goes on. I just am trying to ignore her. Im lucky my club is big enough I can try and ignore her. Dont let her win, shes intimidated by you and hey if you dont do extras tell management they are more then welcome to watch you work. Your to good to let her win

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    sounds like a manipulative person.... she feels so low about her own self that she stooping to a level of comlete immaturity... keep continuing to do your thing, ignore her, don't even look at her.. eventually managment will intervene and she will hopefully have a rude awakening....

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    Yes, actaully, I think you guys are right. Some other things she has said about her life confirm the low-self-esteem theory. Unfortunately, it is a small club and she wourk about 10 shifts a week, so I don't think I can ignore her completely. But I can sure give it a shot!

    I think I am going to adopt a strategy my old manager used to use on me: smile, nod, agree politely, and then continue doing whatever I was doing anyway. It took me months to catch on what she was doing, just b/c she gave the appearence of listening to me!

    Anyway, I will keep you all posted. And the drama continues . . . .


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    I'd just laugh at the bitch, seeing as she's being so immature!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cally
    I have a girl whos accusing me of doing extras, telling customers that I beg customers in VIP to let me suck them off... telling everyone I have fake tits the list goes on.
    Hmm. And this is going to hurt you... how? Sounds like a good way to make you popular. Suddenly, every guy in the club buys JUST ONE dance. Or better yet, the first guy confirms, thus starting the snowball effect. Who wants to admit to being the ONLY guy you won't suck off?
    This is genius. I am an evil genius. I am now tapping my fingertips together and saying "Excellent" Mr. Burns style.
    Colleen - really a lot of what you are describing is only annoying because other things are annoying. Like her wearing a gown the day after you wear a gown is neither a big deal, nor will it negatively effect you. And honestly - "signature stage moves" - I mean really - we are none of us in the NYC ballet. What difference can it possibly make? If a girl does a spin that is particularly neat, OF COURSE the other girls want to try it. It's neat! The rest of it - it sounds like exactly what you said. She is threatened by you - or is one of that variety of dancer that believes nobody can outearn her without being skanky (and I think we are all a little prone to that). I remember back when I was young, innocent and sweet and naive and I didn't grind - I would lean back over the customer, arch my back so there was no contact with his crotch (because I was also prissy: "That is just crass! I do not want some strange man's crotch POKING me in the back! That is VERY low-class!") yet I kept getting warned about grinding - I could explain until the cows came home that "It was just crass!" and yet - it did LOOK like I was grinding. Anyway - enough about me - she is either threatened or is really convinced that you do the proverbial extras - but outside of being rude to you, which should be no more than irksome, she has limited effect on your life, right? If most of your managers are reasonable, than the one that likes her has limited sway - I would just do your best to ignore it until there is a real, demonstrable problem - something that is exceeding normal behaviour that is seriously interfering with you.
    PS - her regular? Whatever. You can sell him anything he is willing to buy. If he comes in just for her, then he won't be interested in you, will he? I know MY regulars come in just for me - if someone does an exceptional job of chatting them up, and weasels them away when I'm busy - I don't own him. Of course I can legitimately use any "wile" on HIM that I feel will get him back ("Oh! I'm so jealous! Do you like her better than me? Well then. You should spend more on me, now, shouldn't you?" - and anyone who falls for that deserves not only to have me take their money, but to be shot out of a cannon. With a helmet though. The damage is done.) but I have no cause of anger against the girl.
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    Jenny as usual makes some very important points.
    However, I empathize with Colleen in that the dancer's behavior makes her uncomfortable.....I am still one to "dog" people who seem to give me a hard time for no reason. "It's my perogative."
    I will say most of the hater-sh*t talking strippers I have seen in my day were insecure in their looks......they were sitting in self-doubt all day & in the very least are trying to make "misery loves company" come true. (I know some people who are immature in that if they can't be happy, no one else should be either.)
    My personal suggestions for dealing with chicks like this can't be printed on a BBS, but look, you can't allow people like that to go too far. They're evil.

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    I hope everything works our for you. Dont lether keep you from making money. Do your job and when it comes down to it, you know she doesnt have anything on you so she will look like the dummy.

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    She's jealous and threatened. Ignore her because she will be watching you all night wondering how you do so well. She will be distracted from her hustle and you will out earn her again and again.

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    Colleen, I'm sorry u have to deal with this garbage. Keep being the proffessional person that you are I am curious, how does the "common trunk" thing work? Do you have to take the outfit/s home and clean them, is there a waiting list, etc.? I have never heard anyone mention this before, but it could be a good thing for clubs where gowns are popular.
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    Pfft she's blaming you for turning tricks? Me thinks she dost protest too much.

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    Id just continue to work there,make all the $ you can. If she wins somehow and gets you fired,so be it. Move onto a different club,it was ment to be. But in the mean time work like every day could be your last and make that money! Now if you dont get fired,wow,now you have all that $ and you win! I really think you wont be fired,she is trying to intimidate a newbie. Wont probably be long until another newbie comes to work there,and then shell terrorize her instead of you.(you wont be her hobby anymore)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Krazyjane
    Pfft she's blaming you for turning tricks? Me thinks she dost protest too much.
    I think so, too. She breaks all kinds of rules and then brags about it. I am sick of worrying about her, anyway. Phooey on her!

    JustJayda, The common trunk is actaully a collection of stray outfits left over form two of the managers who used to dance, and various other cast-offs. Nobody cleans them or anything, jsut fold them up and put them back when done. It would be an excellent idea in a gown club.

    LOGANLAKEN, guess what--there is a new newbie today. Good luck to her!

    Jenny, you are right, her silly copy-cat stuff is jsut annoying. And a little bit creepy-strange. I know that whenever anybody learns something new, then everybody else has to try it, too. I just thought it interesting--and odd--that all the time she is telling me how WRONG I am, she is also copying those of my actions that she thinks are right, or at least cool.

    As for her regulars, well, unless they have her name tattoed on their head, they are still fair game.


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    Sounds similar to another stripper I once knew, whom I will refer to as Sociopath. She was the biggest goody two-shoes in the world, a first class snitch, and acted like she was Gypsy Rose Lee after only a few months in the industry (read: unsolicited advice galore, blatant disrespect to the hierarchy of seasoned strippers). She also targeted lots of girls who she saw as competition. Her lowest blow was when she targeted a wonderful stripper named Angel. Angel is a saint. She nice but tough, is putting her kids through private school, paying off her house, and was going through a messy and expensive divorce. If all people were half as nice as her, the world would be a perfect place. Socio would roughly shove Angel out of the way and steal the guys who Angel was hustling. Her all time low punch was when Socio confronted Angel, saying that either Angel could quit now and make things easier for both of them, or Socio would tell the boss that Angel was stripping at different clubs and have her fired, never mind the fact that Angel was actually putting her money into things other than coke, a boob job, and a Mustang. Luckily, Angel is so sweet that everybody took her side, but Socio has been responsible for a lot of shit everywhere she's been.

    Angel was lucky to have the ability to win the trust of people, so she didn't have to go around cattily recruiting. I wish I could advise you to keep being nice and that being fair and just will win in the end, but unfortunately, the outcome is based on your popularity vs. hers. I hope that you are well liked in the club, and that her reputation will dig her a deep grave.

    I'd also suggest killing her with kindness, but that can also backfire. My friend Passion is the sweetest girl in the world, but encountered all sorts of problems with other strippers b/c she'd half black and really popular with the customers. Like, if some bitch told her, "You're trying to make yourself white," she'd respond with a happy "Thank you," which would make them even more pissed off. Passion ended up making huge efforts to downplay her success. I hope that you don't have to go through the same.

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    Colleen, I say wait till she gets off work one night and hit her in the head with a 9 iron!!! I have an extra if you need it, lol!

    Seriously, I'm lost as what to tell you. I am currently going through something like this right now, and it drives me fuckin batty.

    Other than beating the holy cow shit out of her, I'm just contuing to deal with it and smile, lol.
    I really do want her to get her butt kicked though.

    Maybe we should switch girls. You beat mine up and I'll beat yours up, lol.
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    Fuck management, try talking to the owners. A small club doesn't like it when girls are chased out by jealousy or accusations. Tell them you feel threatened, picked on, etc. If that's not something you like to do, just do it anyway to piss her off. They may nag at her to back off.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Viva Eva
    Fuck management, try talking to the owners. A small club doesn't like it when girls are chased out by jealousy or accusations. Tell them you feel threatened, picked on, etc. If that's not something you like to do, just do it anyway to piss her off. They may nag at her to back off.
    Thats what I was thinking Eva, I guarantee that people will sit back and notice what she's doing. This will not make management happy at all. She very well might be the hottest chit in the place(but I doubt it), but that doesn't mean she can entertain every single guy that walks in the place. If new girls go, that means that any customers that are their "fans" go also. Thats bad business. Management will probably dictates that she goes before you do.
    BTW your club is probably in a transition stage wear the girls that were stripping became management, and strippers there are still in party mode w/management...managers don't like this, so that will make her even more likely to leave soon.
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    http://www.knowgangs.com/gang_resour...ings/index.htm



    form an alliance with the new girl, befriend her, let her see how good you are, make offhanded comments about the bitch like "oh don't mind her"

    tell her that you don't need advice "I appreciate your help, but I got it covered now"

    let other dancers borrow stuff, be generous, and friendly around them when you can

    tip better than she does

    and just cruise
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    The reason she hates you is because she wants to be just like you. She is jealous and very immature. Just hope that the hate and jealousy causes her to lose sleep at night and that it eats her alive.

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    Well, I just had to tell you . . . . Bossy Bitch Girl actaully apologised to me for her behavior! Just totally out of the blue, we were alone in the dressing room together and she told me she ws sorry if she had seemed rude to me, but she had been having a really bad month.

    Made me wonder if she has internet access . . . .


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    ^^^
    Ya never know.

    BUt maybe she found out she has some terminal disease and she's going to croak soon. And she figures she better be nice so she can still go to heaven. I know that's mean but it has happened before.
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    You're gonna come out on top of this.

    It sounds like she's the resident nut who everyone except the new girls roll their eyes at, management most likely included. I think in another week or so, this will all be in the past and she'll probably start trying to be friends with you.
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