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    Default Will my reltionship survive, whilst shes a stripper?

    Im posting this threrad to hear from guys that have stripper girlfriends from the start, as in ive been with my girlfriend for just under two years and known her all through high school, but now she is becoming a dancer at FYEO in London.

    Will this destroy our relationship?

    Please talk about your experiences and wht happened and things that you might have done different.

    I am confident that we will survive but i just wanna hear what other people have experienced!

    Thanks a lot

    Ian

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    Default Re: Will my reltionship survive, whilst shes a stripper?

    I think you've damaged your relationship by using the word "whilst," but hell, maybe people say that word in London.

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    Default Re: Will my reltionship survive, whilst shes a stripper?

    If you are worried about it, then it probably will go down the crapper once she starts disrobing for money.

    Unless, of course, you are a suitcase pimp or an unemployed muscian

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    It didn't kill any of my relationships as long as I kept my mouth shut about it and didn't talk about work at all with my man. Once she starts talking about what she does at work, she's clearly unhappy and trying to make you jealous. THEN its in the crapper.

    Just create policy of NDA when you two are together. NO DRAMA AREA!

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    Default Re: Will my reltionship survive, whilst shes a stripper?

    Kat, the guy is already freaking out. Hes doomed.

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    Default Re: Will my reltionship survive, whilst shes a stripper?

    thanks for the positive advice?

    Why do you think it is doomed?

    All i wanted to no, is if anyone else is experiencing this or has experienced it?

    Obiviuosly all you relationships have fallen apart? if thats your attitude?

    Im sure we are going to be fine, i was only intrested to hear how everyone else went through it and weather they have any advice, becasue there tlking from experience.

    But as ur so negative it doesnt really matter.

    thnks
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    Default Re: Will my reltionship survive, whilst shes a stripper?

    ian hang around for a while, you may get more positive feedback.

    Honestly and totally from my POV I meant what I said. Your woman is going to start stripping. You seem concerned and since you posted here with the question that sorta confirms your concern. Many guys cant handle their SO taking her clothes off for money and imagine all sorts of things, true or not. you start interrogating her every night, she gets defensive and pissed off from your lack of trust. You can imagine the rest of the story.

    I bet all the guys here are rooting for you since you seem like a nice guy and your GF is likely hot since shes going to strip. But, OTOH, reality will likely bite you in the ass.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JC2006
    I think you've damaged your relationship by using the word "whilst," but hell, maybe people say that word in London.
    JC, STFU LOL

    Ian is a Brit and an ally. Id rather have him watching my back than some Frog who throws down his weapon and surrenders if somebody farts too loud

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    Default Re: Will my reltionship survive, whilst shes a stripper?

    Will this destroy our relationship?
    If you have to ask the question, it's probably already too late.

    99 out of 100 guys cannot handle dancers; insecurity is a right bitch.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer
    If you have to ask the question, it's probably already too late.

    99 out of 100 guys cannot handle dancers; insecurity is a right bitch.
    CO, well said. That was what I was getting at and you nailed it in fewer words

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    Default Re: Will my reltionship survive, whilst shes a stripper?

    ok, this sort of infomation is good thats wht i wanted, cos now i no not to get up tight about wht she does i just need to stay cool, and trust her. Trust is the key to any relationship anyway so this surly would be the ultimate test?

    After hearing some other peoples views on other threads, the whole idea is becoming a lot esyer to accept. As in im seeing all the positives that my GF can take from doing this line of work.

    But going back to the whole trust thing, i think it will be good becasue it will stretch our relationship in a good way to see if we do reallly love each other?

    anyway

    thanks for all the posts! any other usful stuff would be cool!

    ian

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    ian, you butchered your post LOL. Either you have a sticky keyboard or you decided to down a pint or two instead of a cup of tea

    Seriously, I hope youre able to work it out with your girlfriend. Im too old to have a stripper SO but I imagine it would be "interesting".

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    Default Re: Will my reltionship survive, whilst shes a stripper?

    Sorry, but I have to agree with the others, just the fact that you're asking the question tells me it's doomed. Good luck though.

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    Is it too late to vote doomed?

    Whenever I get into it with a dancer, I feel badly for her SO. He probably doesn't even know what a cuckold he is.

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    Default Re: Will my reltionship survive, whilst shes a stripper?

    Your relationship might survive, but I don't think it will thrive and continue to grow unless there exists a mutual trust and lack of jealousy. Her job will make this difficult for you, but if you want it to last, it will be something you will both need to work at. I agree with anybody else that said you should stay out of her club for the most part, and don't pry too much about the details of her job, unless she offers. My last girlfriend who I had my son with is a former stripper, though I didn't know her during her stripper days. Our relationship has been extremely rocky, so if that is any indication of what it is like to have a relationship with a dancer, you have your work cut out for you. The sex was really good though.
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    Its not just trust, its what you feel you need to trust about, what you think is the line where jealousy should start. The strippers and the stripping world will tell you that her getting naked for 100's of guys, showing them all the wares, maybe some grinding and groping are all OK as long as she doesn't fuck them. OK, if that's what you think. Most guys would draw the line at getting naked and flirting with other guys. Other guys think its OK if the wife fucks other guys but doesn't get emotionally attached.

    If she's doing it because she wants sexual attention from other guys and you are cool with it, then you're cool with it. If she's doing it because of the money and their attentions gross her out, then fine too.

    But I agree, if you are asking, then I'd say you aren't comfy with it, and....DOOOOOMED!!!

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    Your relationship isn't doomed, but you trying to deal with it is! You're the one with the problem, (at this point anyhow) not her! Ah fuck it! Nevermind! Strippers are problems! Men are problems! We're all goddamned problems! Aaaarrrrgggghhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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    she'll find somebody better and move on

    good luck with the dating game after though
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR
    JC, STFU LOL

    Ian is a Brit and an ally. Id rather have him watching my back than some Frog who throws down his weapon and surrenders if somebody farts too loud

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    As for the OP, dude, if it's meant to be it will be; if not oh well. Not to say you shouldn't still work on the relationship, you just gotta let it flow. And if you break-up, you break-up. It happens to everyone.

    Just relax, have fun and roll with the punches. Be supportaive, and make sure to give her plenty of feet rubs!
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    For sure!
    Stop thinking about it so much! That's part of the reason my relationship with my hubby is going so well (so well he married me); he doesn't ask, I don't tell. He has been to clubs with me and knows what goes on. He's not into them, they're a big turn off to him. But he wants me to be happy and be financially able. Whatever that takes, he doesn't care.
    This is who I am. It's what I do. He doesn't see why that should change anything.

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