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    Dancers don't like it when customers ask them out for dates while they're working at the club so let me ask you this. Where do you go to meet men for dating? Are singles bars where you like to go? Do you prefer to be introduced to friends of friends at parties or with blind dates? What alternatives are there?

    The impression I get from reading personals ads that women are tired of singles bars, because men who play games (players) prowl there and hit on women who are looking for relationships but are instead hounded by men looking for casual sex.

    The impression I get from married people and people in relationships is that there doesn't seem to be much of a pattern for the circumstances of their acquaintance except that it happened when they were young (high school to early 20's).

    Maybe this is the wrong place to ask, but I've tried on-line romance and love forums. There doesn't seem to be any reliable information on how to find a partner for a new relationship or solve any problems with your relationship there. The reason I ask this question here is because this forum seems to be one of a few places on the Internet where women talk forthrightly about themselves.

    For the record, I am a single man in his mid 30's. I was shy growing up and didn't date much when I was younger. I don't meet many new people at work. The people I know my age are busy raising families so the people I hang out with are either much older or much younger than me.

    I started going to strip clubs a few years ago to fill a void in my life; I am sure many of you know my type from your hours at the club. Lately, I have grown weary of the clubs. Strip clubs now seem like junk food, superficially satisfying but ultimately unfulfilling and probably not very good for you in the long run. I am too old for singles bars where most of the women are 18-25ish and look for men their age, and I'm not sure where else to go or look.

    I never considered strip clubs a place to find love. I have never asked a dancer at a club out on a date or other things. Where do beautiful women like you go to find men? If this is the wrong place to ask, if you don't trust my intentions, or if I don't sound like the kind of guy you would want to meet at those places, no worries.

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    Every man I've dated, I met through school, work (not the club), or friends.

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    have you tried online? Or is that what you are doing now?

    I met the guy I'm seeing online.

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    Shopping!!! It's the best place, groceries that is!

    Many women shop....drop something or just compliment a woman.

    Libraries people are usually too busy reading or looking for a read.

    Online.....Just watch your back on that one. Screen screen screen....even as a man because women can lie too!

    Good luck,

    Pamela

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    Online dating is weird... I've noticed that the women I am interested in IRL probably would not have gotten a second look from me online because they didn't meet some particular criteria ... I'm sure it works the same way in reverse.

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    you're right, it is weird, but people are finding love on the internet

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    perhaps, but for me, the only dates I've gotten that way have been disasters... I I think it's better to meet through friends, or while doing things... this way you meet people who actually do those things, not people who say they do them, lol...

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    Are you ready for a great lead?

    Take a community ball room dancing class. The girls want to learn this and will take the class, but find there are no single men that take the class, it's great!
    Usually in the 30's, coutch potatos stay home, somewhat outgoing and I have yet to find one that wasn't nice. After a couple of classes and there seems to be some chemistry, ask her for a drink afterwards.

    Can't dance you say, thats why you take the class! Can you walk? You walked into the building right? One foot in front of the other, it's really not that hard, and I haven't danced since high school and I hated it then. By the way, it is fun when you learn.

    It's like $35 or $45 for 8 weeks. Then the second time you take the same class, don't tell anyone, they'll think you're a natural. But you still won't be smooth because that takes a while.

    Good luck,

    Rick

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    Don't know if this will help dude (and I know you were asking the ladies...)

    Have you tried these new speed dating things? Its like a dozen quickie blind dates, see if there's any chemistry, see her real appearance, get a few phone numbers at the end if you both were interested.... Not perfect, but a non-digital alternative with low initial commitment than a real blind date and less deception potential than online services maybe?

    I've never done it, I'm married (I know, then WTF do I go to strip clubs or read Stripper Web?), but what could it hurt?

    PS, ladies, what percentage of your clientelle would you classify as LONELY, whether single or married, versus just partiers or horn dog players or whatever else. PPS I'm not dissing anyone, I'm one of the lonely married ones btw.

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    Ive usually met my past SOs through work or online.

    Online theres a couple different ways Ive met someone.
    Forums
    Chat
    Online dating sites
    Blogs

    Im actually living with a guy I met because he stumbled upon my blog and happened to also live in the same city.He saw that I liked cars and commented on my favorite. The rest followed in suit. It's actually quite funny when I think about it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    you're right, it is weird, but people are finding love on the internet
    True...recent examples are Mast & Casual Observer

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    compelled to throw in my 2 cents... sorry... know you're looking for female responses...

    here's my advice (which I don't follow myself 'cause I'm an idiot): don't look for love.. let it find you...
    and be sure to do stuff you enjoy all the time... take some classes in topics that interest you... pros of that: 1.) you're learning about something or doing something that interests you and it won't be time wasted, 2.) it's easy to meet people in neutral settings where you're not actively trying to meet people and 3.) whoever you meet shares at least one interest with you giving you something to start talking about... and also means you'll see the same person every week giving you ample time to put your feelers out there for a vibe...

    anyway... yeah, that's my great advice.
    life's way too short to mope around about not having women in your life... think about all the time you waste thinking about meeting someone, etc. etc... that's valuable time... plus if you're in "looking for love" mode, I think this tends to put out a vibe that most women don't seem to be attracted to... don't ask me why... it's an ESP thing...
    maybe it has something to do with perceptible confidence.... if you're on the go doing things for you and getting stuff done solely for you, these microachievements translate to outwardly perceptible confidence which is like candy to woman (or so I can guestimate).

    hope that helps...

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    I met a few people from MySpace.They were pretty cool.There's a MySpace party going on right now in Atlanta.Tom is there.
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    If you live in a warm state ALWAYS the beach.

    To hoplessromantic,I think most are just lonely or board or just buisness people trying to kill time before flying out. Id say only 10% are perve cheap-o's.

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    HAHA I want to meet Tom!
    I agree with the internet... and have met some cool people off of it. The aol chatrooms are hard because it's alot of guys looking for sex, but I did find a few cool guys. I actually think it would be easier for a guy to find a nice girl to talk to in the chats.
    Eharmony and stuff are said to be good as well, although I have not tried.
    Pics are always necessary, now its so easy to have a pic online.
    You said you did try internet... but I say keep trying...I was looking into that speed dating thing too bc i saw something on Dr. Phil about it. I am 21 though so i do not think my age does that... i am the single bar scene.
    THe ballroom idea is great..any dancing that requires partners...Hell. try everything and be everywhere...and have fun. Good luck

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    Perhaps you are setting your sights too high. Try going for an average to ugly woman...they are less intimidating than a "beautiful" woman.....

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    Find a social hobby. Then you'll have actual similar interests when you meet someone you like. Dancing, knitting, poetry open mics, writing groups . . . Whatever interests YOU and has some kind of unisex group meeting. I think of writing and reading, crafting, art and roleplaying games because I'm interested in those things, and I'm only likely to be interested in people who can talk to me about them.

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    Leave the house. Last I checked, roughly half the people on the planet are chicas. Try talking to them. Man, this is damn near the last place you should look for that sort of advice.

    Cholo recommends growsomeballs.com or getaspine.com.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ricosuave312
    Leave the house. Last I checked, roughly half the people on the planet are chicas. Try talking to them. Man, this is damn near the last place you should look for that sort of advice.

    Cholo recommends growsomeballs.com or getaspine.com.
    Some people have a hard time just approching strangers... some guys are to shy to just talk to a woman out of the blue. So ease up. Not everyone is a stud

    Hon I highly recomend lavalife.com I know people who have met the love of their lives there. My friend met a girl there 4 years ago and they got married last summer and have a baby girl now. Online dating isnt as odd now as if used to be. A lot of people use it to meet people, its an easy way to get to know someone without worrying about face to face rejection.
    Good luck

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cally
    Some people have a hard time just approching strangers... some guys are to shy to just talk to a woman out of the blue. So ease up. Not everyone is a stud
    Good luck
    Hey...I'm just a toss his white ass in the pool swimschool believer. What's the worst that can happen. I've only been maced twice. ...and one pepper squirt.

    I alway carry eyedrops anyway.... allergies....

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    Quote Originally Posted by JC2006
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    Away with thee... out of the cave.

    Clean yourself up and don't be a wallflower. It's not hard to meet women.



    Quote Originally Posted by ricosuave312
    Cholo recommends growsomeballs.com or getaspine.com.
    LOL!!

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    If you don't have much experience with women in serious relationships, and you are looking in strip clubs for a woman, you have a serious problem in calibrating your wants with reality. You need to find a civilian first, one whose life is more concerned with an honest relationship than with fantasy-land, money-oritnted 'relationships' and where the frequency of chemical abuse is much, much less.

    In short you are barking up the wrong tree.

    You may find some advice here on finding women, some may even work, but your chance of finding long-term happiness with a typical stripper is not very high.

    So far, I think the dance classes are your best answer. Not infinding a woman, as those taking classes likely alreadt have a partner. But many women LOVE to dance and they don't find many men who do. So after learning, then start goingto dances of whatever type - swing, country, wherever your musical tastes take you.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

    NOTE: anything I post here, outside of a direct quote, is my opinion only, which I am entitled to. Take it for what you estimate it is worth.

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    Every dance class i've taken has had at least 3 unattached ladies there. I think they think single men also take the classes, they don't. I've been the only one everytime. It's fun to learn together, I rotate with the instructor for a few lessons with the single girls, then a few will drop out. If I find a girl I like I let her know I like to dance with her and she will stay. I now have a few nice friends that like to go out. This works for me at least.

    Here's another thing i've done;

    Got back into riding motorcycles. Bought a new Harley Soft-tail and all the gear. I keep my look really clean but with leather (no patches). Cut my hair real short, grew a goatee, wear chaps, vest and boots,I joined the local HOG group and was amazed how many single girls are riding Harleys.

    I have always been very shy. When I was in high school and tried to talk to a girl, my whole body would go numb (and I'm not kidding). Alot of girls like this look and will introduce themselves to me, I love to laugh and I think this helps after the first meeting.

    FWIW,

    Rick

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    This may sound crazy but have you tried church? A lot of times churches have single groups and get togethers for their single people. Not trying to tell you to go meet a prude because I now eventually you want to have sex but maybe someone else is there just like you looking for the same thing.

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    I have to agree with the person who said if you go looking for it you won't find it. It is funny like that.

    I remember watching a TV show about russian brides and it showed one guy who had all these peices of paper with checkboxes and it seemed much more like an interview than the beginnings of a friendship and love. Then there was the guy who went on a lark (friend of the checkbox guy) and found a chick he really got into.

    I think the online personals seem to be much more like job interviews. I think a lot of girls in online ads are burnt or have some crazy expectations. When I read an ad that starts out with "Keep it real" the first thing that comes into my mind is "oh great, some chick that will automatically distrust you." Then there are those who expect you to be their entertainment director ... or worse those who hope you will give them direction in life.

    But I will say this - women are EVERYWHERE man! Step outside and you will encounter someone. I tend to date a friend of a friend or someone in the social circle ya know? Talk to the fat ones, the married ones, the goofy ones, etc. - cuz they all are going to have friends. Often you are going to meet someone by knowing someone. (I know, as a younger man, if I didn't want to stick my dick in a woman, I didn't talk to her - I know now that was a mistake and I deserved what that selfishness and narrow mindedness brought to me.)

    If you want to find a gal, you need to expand your social circle. The ball room dancing is a great idea! Other options are book clubs, biking groups, tour groups, etc.

    I think for me, as a guy, I find making small talk a total problem. I write far more than I speak I can tell you that. Speaking to people is horribly hard for me. When I communicate I want to reach a goal.

    The fact is, the dating scene is all about small talk to break the ice and build rapport. Often people want to talk about themselves! Let them. That is the best advice I have for ya.

    And get practice. Talk to the chick in the elevator. They love that. hee hee hee. Once you have practice you can get past the "Hey baby what's your sign" nonsense.

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