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    My first nights dancing was during Thanksgiving and I think it was relatively easy and great due to the fact that there were literally 1/4 of the dancers working that night, seriously. The dancers that were there that night were maybe 7s too. So my first nights were pretty good due to beginner's luck I guess and the fact that there were not that many dancers but...

    Oh My Gosh... after being sick I went back to work and there were so many HOT HOT girls like 9s and 10s freakin everywhere, and there were so so many of them. They were skilled at everything: their look/outfits, their dancing, their hustle. It was intimidating beyond belief. Needless to say, didn't do well and I need to improve fast! (I'm in Vegas by the way, what everyone warns about Vegas is true).

    Also, you guys were not kidding when you said it's a slow time. And what is up with the nastiness? I got gropped beyond belief, and *CRINGE* one nasty guy even bit my nipple (I was mortified) and almost every single guy cuppped my breasts and rubbed my ass AND I had to hustle with everything I had to get dances... boo Oh and tons of people offered me money to go to their hotel room with them... um yeah right *CRINGE*. Please tell me this will get better!

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    LittleTassle...welcome to the world of stripping. Glad you had a nice start but, unfortunately the last part of your post is more likely the norm anywhere.

    Develop yourself a thick skin, learn to hustle and don't worry about what any of the other girls are doing unless you're watching to learn. Do your thing and make your money.

    If you can't do this, you need to decide whether or not this is something you can do. Not being harsh, but this is the state of the biz these days.

    (As far as the nipple biting goes....THAT is not part of the deal. No one should ever do that to you and you should get a bouncer if it happens again.

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    You need to work on your confidence... who cares about everyone else, the only person that matters is you. Your lucky I got to ease your way into it. The hustle is hard, but thats part of life. I know, im still working on mine. This is a hard time of year as well so dont get to hard on yourself.
    As for the nipple biting.. i've had it happen, learned my lesson. You need to watch where your customers hands are the ENTIRE TIME. If you know hes a grabby guy, turn it into a bit of an air dance and keep a close eye on him. No guy should EVER touch you in a way you dont want to be touched.
    Good luck!

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    IF the groping and grabbing is standard in your club, then go look for a lower contact club. If you are a low-contact girl in a high-touch club, you will have a ton ao stress and not much $$.


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    Treasures, Spearmint Rhino, Club Paradise, Saphires and Scores are lower contact in Vegas. Notoriously high contact clubs are all over Vegas. Shari's is owned by a brothel in Pahrump, I believe, so we are talking about the highest contact possible there!

    By lower contact I mean that the guys can touch everywhere but breasts and anything covered by your thong.

    Keep looking for a club that fits better with your own personal needs. As far as working with tons of girls, it will shortly get even busier. You're moving into convention season, and dancers travel from all over the US to work in Vegas from Jan-April, so you'll be looking at about twice the number of dancers then what you have seen on your busiest night so far (yes 200-300 dancers at SR on a weekend night is not unheard of).


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    try spraying your nips with bitter apple
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    Don't do anything you don't want to do....one of my first travel bookings was to a club with disgusting contact levels.....I have become very hardened by the crap men think they can pull on dancers. I do assault customers when they assault me. It is hard to live with. I don't know how girls in high-contact dump clubs do it.....
    If you're willing to travel the States, there are regions & clubs where the contact is not too bad & the earnings are decent. SW is a great resource for finding them.

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    Re: Got a dose of reality

    Quote Originally Posted by venusofwillendorf
    try spraying your nips with bitter apple

    that's genius! I luv it!

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    LT, this is what the stripping world is like. You will have these things happen, give yourself time, and if enjoy dancing, then don't give up, we all have bad nights, custies that get carried away. Don't worry about the other girls, b/c it will get to you.

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    I myself have worked in Vegas at Club Paradise. I was amazed with their strict no touching rules. If a customer (or entertainer for that matter) got to close or handsy a bouncer was all over it in a flash. The moms were very nice as well. Hope it gets better for you!

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    Thank you everyone for all your kind words and advice. After reading the thread about rating women on a number scale I feel so bad, lol! If it offended anyone, sorry! I admit I love being called a 10 even though I don't believe it but anything below that gets offensive. I hate being objectified as a sexual object but at the same time I love being acknowledged for my sexuality.

    It's been a trying several days of work, 6-8 hrs ea. Do you ever feel ashamed that maybe your dancing is too sexual and it encourages custies to be handsy and then you get confused: how do you give a lap dance and manipulate a custy into VIP without making them so, um horny, I guess, that they become handsy. One guy got so frustrated in the 1 hr room that he actually told me he had to leave early. Works for me, now I don't have to spend the whole hour trying to get him off me... *CRINGE*.

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    "Do you ever feel ashamed that maybe your dancing is too sexual and it encourages custies to be handsy and then you get confused: how do you give a lap dance and manipulate a custy into VIP without making them so, um horny, I guess, that they become handsy. One guy got so frustrated in the 1 hr room that he actually told me he had to leave early. Works for me, now I don't have to spend the whole hour trying to get him off me... *CRINGE*."


    You should never feel ashamed that your dancing is too sexual. Just because a guy is horny doesn't mean he has the right to touch you. 99% of the guys that come into strip clubs know exactly what the rules are. When they decide to touch you or bite your nipple, they are taking the risk that they might get kicked out.

    As for guys leaving early, just get your money. Less work for you! I've had a lot of guys in a contact state leave early or stop the dance early because they were done. Case closed. Get your money and find another guy!

    Get your money upfront if it's a high dollar sale, and don't let anyone trick you into compromising yourself. Have their ass kicked out! It's THEIR fault, never yours.

    Good luck.
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    Paris is right about Scores being very low contact but with the cab war being over it's a bit out of the way for cabbies to drop off so try Rhino.

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    Little Tassle, just being straight up with you, what you've experienced will not change. As I always say, guys want to fuck girls they're attracted to. Most guys measure the quality of their dances by the amount of contact they will get. We want to give as little contact as possible for maximum dollars and our customers want as much contact as possible for minimum dollars.

    As far as being propositioned for sex, you will experience it every night in just about every club you dance in. Just get numb to it and say no.

    Guys feel VIP rooms are rip offs if they can't get arousing dances or sex, and bad experiences in their opinion causes the word to spread to other customers to hold back their money unless they can get more than a dance for it.

    You'll have to learn how to allow touching but manage the guys hands if they go for the between the leg area or get to grabby on the breasts. Graceful hand movement is necessary so that the guy won't feel totally put off in his choice of buying dances from you.

    You're not leading the guys on, we as dancers just have to understand the mentality of guys when they buy dances. Some will keep their hands in check (some clubs let you touch the guys but hey can't touch you)and others won't.

    As far as biting the nipples, you'll just have to let them know that is not allowed.

    You'll learn the ropes. Don't make the guys think you are a prude as you'll never make any money, but learn how to diplomatically rebuff guys that are too grabby.

    This is a competitive business. Lots of girls and guys want as much sexual gratification as they can get for their money. In Vegas guys can be more cocky as they have so many girls to choose from. To continue to work there, you'll have to work the floor hard and not let up.

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    Well congratulations on even being hired to work in Las Vegas and making any money there. There are a lot of girls who aren't able to do that or are afraid to try. Be glad you had a night with few dancers, because the image of Vegas is a packed strip club with lots of perfect 10s. Also that you have the ability to hustle your ass off. I've seen veterans just sit around chatting or leave early ticked.

    Don't be surprised about the tons of 10s. It's Vegas and they're experienced. You're new. You'll get there. Groping happens to nuns. Like Tina said, just like if you're with your boyfriend you don't want to kill the mood, you control the scene because you can always stop it, just keep your cool unless there's some major assault going down.

    Nevada has legal brothels, there are some streetwalkers in Vegas. Most people who don't know think the city itself is just crawling with hookers. Some of the dancers were former prostitutes. So guys are going to be under the impression that some girls do extras, which some probably do. Nothing personal. Just politely turn them down.

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    I'm sorry things aren't going so well at your new club. I've never danced in Las Vegas before but I think alot of those place have high contact. It's been hard for me to make money at the club I'm working at too. Take a look at some other clubs and test them out. I'm also sorry about the guy that thought he could take advantage of you like that. Be careful around those people and let one of the bouncers know if someone is getting to grabby with you!

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