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    I go to strip clubs a couple times a year, and always with guy friends. We go to have a few drinks and enjoy the atmosphere. I sometimes get lap dances for friends of mine, especially reserved ones because it's funny watching them squirm. Sometimes strippers hang out with us after the lap dances and we end up talking. Earlier this year, this stripper sat down with me and said "oh, you're really cute, you look like Enrique Iglesias". I was like ok, whatever floats your boat. We talked for about an hour or so (aside from buying her one drink, I didn't spend any money on her. Not because I didn't want to, but because we were just talking so much that it never occurred to me to take her for a dance). Anyways, she liked this one band that was coming to town and asked if I wanted to go with her. I said sure and gave her my number. She never ended up calling.

    Second story (happened fairly recently): Visited another strip club, was sitting on a couch with a buddy of mine, stripper comes by, and I get my friend a couple dances. She ends up hanging out with us until the club closes, and literally begs me to go with her to some after hours club. I was tired and didn't feel like going, but I said yes because she was really hot. Anyways, her and I take a cab and go the club, but 10 mins after we were there, this girl (friend of hers from before) comes up to her and introduces her to a guy. She ends up talking to him and he asks her to hit the dance floor and she says ok. I was like WTF and just got out of there.

    I found this site and went through some of the posts. It seems clear to me, after reading the messages, that strippers do not generally socialize with strip club patrons. Why would these girls start something up, only to then dis me? It's not like I'm a regular that will lavish money on them, and it's not like I instigated anything by asking them out. Also, since strippers are so hot and used to guys wanting them 24/7, are they really playaz and just hang with you till something better presumably comes along?

    Sorry for the essay, but I would really like the opinions of some of the girls here. I just want to avoid being made an ass of in the future.

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    Strippers are just women who have a job stripping.

    Take your second story... you went to a club with a woman, and she ditched you for another guy... sure, that hurt your feelings, that's understandable. But you won't reach any epiphanies by asking the dancers here why she did it, any more than you would if she had been a waitress and you asked other waitresses why.

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    alot of girls are like that not just strippers... there just flakey chicks thats all, some girls are.

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    Quote Originally Posted by t45m
    I go to strip clubs a couple times a year, and always with guy friends. We go to have a few drinks and enjoy the atmosphere. I sometimes get lap dances for friends of mine, especially reserved ones because it's funny watching them squirm. Sometimes strippers hang out with us after the lap dances and we end up talking. Earlier this year, this stripper sat down with me and said "oh, you're really cute, you look like Enrique Iglesias". I was like ok, whatever floats your boat. We talked for about an hour or so (aside from buying her one drink, I didn't spend any money on her. Not because I didn't want to, but because we were just talking so much that it never occurred to me to take her for a dance). Anyways, she liked this one band that was coming to town and asked if I wanted to go with her. I said sure and gave her my number. She never ended up calling.

    Second story (happened fairly recently): Visited another strip club, was sitting on a couch with a buddy of mine, stripper comes by, and I get my friend a couple dances. She ends up hanging out with us until the club closes, and literally begs me to go with her to some after hours club. I was tired and didn't feel like going, but I said yes because she was really hot. Anyways, her and I take a cab and go the club, but 10 mins after we were there, this girl (friend of hers from before) comes up to her and introduces her to a guy. She ends up talking to him and he asks her to hit the dance floor and she says ok. I was like WTF and just got out of there.

    I found this site and went through some of the posts. It seems clear to me, after reading the messages, that strippers do not generally socialize with strip club patrons. Why would these girls start something up, only to then dis me? It's not like I'm a regular that will lavish money on them, and it's not like I instigated anything by asking them out. Also, since strippers are so hot and used to guys wanting them 24/7, are they really playaz and just hang with you till something better presumably comes along?

    Sorry for the essay, but I would really like the opinions of some of the girls here. I just want to avoid being made an ass of in the future.
    Never ask girls about what they are thinking. That's their game. Your game just walked in the door. Orale, vato!


    Also, since strippers are so hot and used to guys wanting them 24/7...
    Strip club aint daylight, bro. Ancient Cholo proverb: In the dark, all cats are grey.
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    Ok maybe youre a really good looking guy or maybe this isnt the whole story.

    As I see it she was wasting both hers and your time with numbers and hour long chit chat. If I dont want to go out with someone (which it is illegal here and considered prostitution to even look like Im hading out my number) I wouldnt ask them.
    Furthermore both girls should have asked you to VIP or for dances at some point in the conversation if she is going to talk that long to you.

    Either way I doubt youll be seeing either of those girls again. Just to note when Im at work its business for that whole time Im there. Getting numbers and sitting with people for a whole hour and not getting paid isnt very good business practice for me. Besides in your case youre let down and will probably not return. Imo both girls made mistakes in inviting you. No one should ever promise something they cannot deliver.
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    Wow, that was quick, thanks for the replies.

    I asked for responses on this forum because I thought perhaps it was a common stripper tactic, some sort of play that makes guys think that the girl is into them when all she wants is for them to come back and blow some cash. That stuff I can tell a mile away, I'm an entrepreneur after all and know when someone's trying to take advantage of me. I thought maybe some girls had taken it to another level of mind-fucking, where even I got fooled.

    I guess it's just typical chick headgames then, it's all good.

    Take it easy girls, and know that your choice of career has given you admission to the elite trifecta of male motivational rewards of hard work: Ferrari's, strippers, and mansions. Without you, we males would be slackers and unproductive, so we have you to thank for raising mankind's standard of living!

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    Quote Originally Posted by t45m

    Take it easy girls, and know that your choice of career has given you admission to the elite trifecta of male motivational rewards of hard work: Ferrari's, strippers, and mansions. Without you, we males would be slackers and unproductive, so we have you to thank for raising mankind's standard of living!
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    Bro, take everything you've said, and reverse it. You need more work than I can handle, man.

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    your first stoy, aid you look like Eglasias,do you have a big mole on ya? I dont think it"floated her boat",I think she was tryingto make you feel good to spend $ on her.

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    sometimes it IS a "stripper tactic". like your first story, she might have had no intentions of calling you but was trying to get you to spend some money. maybe she didn't call b/c you didn't spend any. maybe she meant it when she asked but changed her mind and flaked.
    maybe she lost your number.who knows. in general don't hold your breath about a girl calling you that you met in the club. (especially when you didn't spend any money on her).
    other than that, we're just like regular girls and everyone is different. i prefer to not outright lie and say i will do something that i won't, but at times i think if i just lied a little i could make more money. but to me it's not worth it in the long run if you end up with some stalker.
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    Dude, I'm not trying to pick up anyone here. I had a question and it was answered. That's it.

    I never asked you for help in my game. I'm really not trying to be snobbish or elitist, but if you were 28, in good shape, and drove what I drove (996 Carrera 4s), trying to take your game up another notch wouldn't really be your top priority. Women are already attracted to successful, self-made men.

    Anyways, good luck in your endeavour of trying to pick up girls on Internet forums.

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    Quote Originally Posted by t45m
    I go to strip clubs a couple times a year, and always with guy friends. We go to have a few drinks and enjoy the atmosphere. I sometimes get lap dances for friends of mine, especially reserved ones because it's funny watching them squirm. Sometimes strippers hang out with us after the lap dances and we end up talking. Earlier this year, this stripper sat down with me and said "oh, you're really cute, you look like Enrique Iglesias". I was like ok, whatever floats your boat. We talked for about an hour or so (aside from buying her one drink, I didn't spend any money on her. Not because I didn't want to, but because we were just talking so much that it never occurred to me to take her for a dance). Anyways, she liked this one band that was coming to town and asked if I wanted to go with her. I said sure and gave her my number. She never ended up calling.

    Second story (happened fairly recently): Visited another strip club, was sitting on a couch with a buddy of mine, stripper comes by, and I get my friend a couple dances. She ends up hanging out with us until the club closes, and literally begs me to go with her to some after hours club. I was tired and didn't feel like going, but I said yes because she was really hot. Anyways, her and I take a cab and go the club, but 10 mins after we were there, this girl (friend of hers from before) comes up to her and introduces her to a guy. She ends up talking to him and he asks her to hit the dance floor and she says ok. I was like WTF and just got out of there.

    I found this site and went through some of the posts. It seems clear to me, after reading the messages, that strippers do not generally socialize with strip club patrons. Why would these girls start something up, only to then dis me? It's not like I'm a regular that will lavish money on them, and it's not like I instigated anything by asking them out. Also, since strippers are so hot and used to guys wanting them 24/7, are they really playaz and just hang with you till something better presumably comes along?

    Sorry for the essay, but I would really like the opinions of some of the girls here. I just want to avoid being made an ass of in the future.

    Oookay, you are treating the SC like a lets make a match game. Not so grasshopper. It's work. We work, perhaps these girls that said yes they would go out with you were sizing you up for a regular and then when you showed your true colors they decided against it. It happens.

    Plus, patrons like yourself that come in looking for dates are really rather fun to toy with. As in neener, neener, you can't have any. Also it's obvious you got ditched a few times.
    So.. why are you whining? Plus in my humble opinion you don't really need any help making an ass out of yourself.

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    Oh yeah...ditching you after 10 minutes is not "leading you on". It's rejection.

    She's been there to. Move on.

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    Story number one: Just plain old SS. She's trying to get you interested-every customer is a potential regular.

    Story number two: Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. Who payed for the cab?
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    Haha no, I don't have a mole. Don't know if any of you saw the MTV awards a few years back, I think Jimmy Fallon was hosting and he tore Enrique apart over that mole. It was hilarious. By the way, I don't even think I look like that much like Enrique. I just have a Mediterranean look and a lot of people have a hard time trying to guess my ethnicity. The stripper who said I looked like him was Ukranian, maybe these former USSR girls have a thing for that type of look (Ann K.?)...

    There seems to be no definitive answer on whether I was being hustled, so perhaps I'll go back to one of the clubs sometime and see if it happens again.

    Ok, back to work now.

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    t45m, haven't you ever done something that you regreted the next day? Haven't you ever been interested in someone only to meet somebody else later on who you found more interesting? Everybody makes errors in judgment. Just enjoy the moment and then forget about it.

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    I think the first situation you described was the dancer realizing that you did have enough money to have a great time in the strip club, and you could be a potential high roller. When your customer potential never materialzed, she "lost" your number. I hand out my number to high roller customers (I have a business phone just for this purpose).

    On the second situation, it was just a date. The place you happend to have met her was a strip club, but aside from that one fact, she met a guy (you) she liked on first blush. You two made a date, and she had a "friend" waiting in case the date wasn't going well, and off she goes with her friend- ditching a date she wasn't enjoying. T45m, you have probably done the same thing in the past.


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    Quote Originally Posted by t45m
    I never asked you for help in my game. I'm really not trying to be snobbish or elitist, but if you were 28, in good shape, and drove what I drove (996 Carrera 4s), trying to take your game up another notch wouldn't really be your top priority. Women are already attracted to successful, self-made men.
    Well apparently not those two women. Hee.
    What do we lead guys on? Well, me, I just kind of like to. Probably what happened was she desperately wanted you, but her friend reported her to the Stripper Bureau of Investigation. The SBI takes outside club fraternization VERY seriously.
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    Quote Originally Posted by t45m
    I never asked you for help in my game. I'm really not trying to be snobbish or elitist, but if you were 28, in good shape, and drove what I drove (996 Carrera 4s), trying to take your game up another notch wouldn't really be your top priority. Women are already attracted to successful, self-made men.
    Well, that's part of it... but we also like 'em to have a personality.

    I wish I knew why so many guys really seem to believe that we give a flying fig about their cars. And when you're in the club, she can't see your car anyway. What, do you introduce yourself by saying, "Hi, I drive a 996 Carrera 4s"? That's nice, dear!

    Obviously I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I've never met a woman that honestly gave a rat's ass about a man's car, especially a man she just met. Contrary to what Madison Avenue will tell you, we don't get all wet between the legs just because you're overcompensating with some wheels.

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    Story number one: Just plain old SS. She's trying to get you interested-every customer is a potential regular.

    Story number two: Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt. Who payed for the cab?
    Well said.

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    Obviously I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I've never met a woman that honestly gave a rat's ass about a man's car, especially a man she just met. Contrary to what Madison Avenue will tell you, we don't get all wet between the legs just because you're overcompensating with some wheels.
    Hehe...some of us count on that automotive apathy.

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    Well, from one stance I can stay that some dancers tend to be sketchy because of the nature of the business. See, entertainers tend not to be the most reliable or level-headed people in the world. Generally, when they want something they go after it. Then the next minute they decide maybe it was too easy, so they don't want it anymore. Not saying all of us are like this. Maybe you didn't seem interested in them and they did it get your interest so you would spend money on them. Dancers have all kinds of tactics to get men interested and to spend money on them.

    From a dancers point of view I would say if you aren't up for playing then don't come to the ballpark. Girls, consider every man that walks in the door fair game just about. We provide a sexual fantasy for money period. I never make promises of meeting anyone outside the club unless I plan on doing it eventually. I don't, however, go out with people I don't know. And if I do go eat lunch, etc., I do it to keep their business not because I want a relationship or sex because I am already married.

    So, if you end up being dragged to a club again or pressured to go for your friends sake just tell the girls up front that you are there for your friends and give them money to dance for your friends. Or not, tell them the actual situation and they will give the attention to your friends. At least, that's what I would want anyway. If the girls still pressures you, say firmly but politely that you aren't interested. We can deal with rejection, we do all the time. Just remember to be a gentlemen and be polite.

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    She went to dance with the guy as a favor for a friend, you got pouty and ditched her. YOUR bad, not hers. Your loss to, she wanted to get laid.
    As far as the car, When I see a guy with that kind of car, I think mommy and daddy, or he aint got $$$ to spend on me cuz he put it on the car. I'll take a guy w/a beater thats paid for, tyvm.
    As for the chick never calling you, she lost it, or her boss/friend took it. It prolly pissed her off for a moment, till she stomped her platform and realised there are fifty other lil men w/big heads just waiting to go gaga over her.
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    Quote Originally Posted by t45m
    Dude, I'm not trying to pick up anyone here. I had a question and it was answered. That's it.

    I never asked you for help in my game. I'm really not trying to be snobbish or elitist, but if you were 28, in good shape, and drove what I drove (996 Carrera 4s), trying to take your game up another notch wouldn't really be your top priority. Women are already attracted to successful, self-made men.

    Anyways, good luck in your endeavour of trying to pick up girls on Internet forums.
    lol...so u don't like the answers u asked 4 and u take it out on the messenger? phuckin' precious!

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    Quote Originally Posted by t45m
    There seems to be no definitive answer on whether I was being hustled, so perhaps I'll go back to one of the clubs sometime and see if it happens again.
    dude, a piece of advice for you ---> stay away from the strip clubs until you grow the emotional maturity requisite to handle that environment. Otherwise, be prepared to be hustled again and again. And stop whining...learn to play the game or get off the field.

    You drive a nice car but too bad for you, it hasn't done anything for your confidence nor your desirability to the fairer sex. Ciao!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Yekhefah
    I wish I knew why so many guys really seem to believe that we give a flying fig about their cars. And when you're in the club, she can't see your car anyway. What, do you introduce yourself by saying, "Hi, I drive a 996 Carrera 4s"? That's nice, dear!

    I dunno... my BMW has gotten me a whole lot more attention than the Tempo I had.

    Example: My friend and I are at a bar. He says to a girl "He has a really nice convertible BMW." She is like "Oh how nice" and all putting on the game face. Sure enough ten minutes later she is asking about the car and if we can go for a ride....

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    Quote Originally Posted by kikin
    dude, a piece of advice for you ---> stay away from the strip clubs until you grow the emotional maturity requisite to handle that environment. Otherwise, be prepared to be hustled again and again. And stop whining...learn to play the game or get off the field.
    I second this. Know when you don't know the rules.

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