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    Default Im so burnt out semi rant

    i think if I cancel my holiday bookings though I will be fired. i work at pretty much the best $$ club in NJ, at least in my area, and right now I just dont even care if I get fired. Is this terrible? I know in one month I will be so pissed at myself, esp bc for the next month will be the best money all year but I just can't do it right now. I can't make myself fake smile and show my everything for a fucking dollar. I am also getting too caught up in the money. I have a lot saved for a barely 21 year old girl, but I'm fucking 21, I shouldnt really be stressed out to the point where I can't eat over things like buying a house, when I'm not even graduated from school.

    Most people my age are broke and not even worrying about paying the $20,000 they will owe in loans next year, but Im worrying that Im not making enough, and then when i dont work I am falling behind. I am falling behind in school too, I should be graduating in May but now it's pushed back to July if that.

    What mostly stresses me out is all my fucking regulars. I can't even call out or not show up because not only will I get fined and have the management pissed off my regulars will take it as personal insult to them. I don't want to hurt them either but all of this stuff needs to stop invading my personal life when I'm not at the club. I think that's why I need to stop right now, because my priorities aren't straight. Money shouldn't be my first priority and it is. It doesn't make me happy, but I think once I buy a house and settle down that it will. but i'm a fucking kid i don't need that.


    any advice/comments/anyone relate to this?

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    Default Re: Im so burnt out semi rant

    I know all about money taking over my life. I was plenty miserable too.

    What did I do?

    I look at just how much I can get along with out. It makes me feel more free - and I don't feel as manipulated by Madison Ave. about what my "wants" and "needs" are.

    The regulars are gonna have to deal with the shock that your their club buddy and not their buddy buddy. There will always be another customer. Sometimes with to many regulars, one becomes that sales person who hangs on by the nails onto what they have instead of accepting that all sales are transitory. All things change. You loose your edge and you feel dependent on them.

    School vs Dancing - you are going to need to make some choices there. Why does the thread "The Oldest Dancer You Know" show up now and then - because we all know this is temporary. Out of 60+ years in life, dancing will feed and cloth you for about twenty of them. You're brain will make more money with that capital dancing brings you than your ass in a new pair of boots will.

    A lot of us are fined when we don't show up for work either. The by the hour guy who takes a day off, he is fined by not making any money either. Is the fine just another hour off? Petty yes. Take it for what it is.

    Money is a tool. Don't let it rule you. Don't let it make you feel better. Don't let it make you feel worse. Don't let it make an opinion of you. It is no different than the box of wrenches a mechanic has - those make the mechanic money too - they ARE money. It is just a tool, not an attitude.

    Turn the TV off and stop reading some womens magazines. Both of them are depressing as hell and feed consumerism of the ego.

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    Default Re: Im so burnt out semi rant

    haha
    the funny thing about stopping reading women's magazines is that i also do modeling. I don't feel as stressed out about that though.
    thanks

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    Default Re: Im so burnt out semi rant

    How many nights are you working? If it's only 3-4 in a week that shouldn't be so bad. I wouldn't burn any bridges now as you may regret it later.

    Can you complete the bookings you have lined up already, and then book a lighter schedule next month? That would be the most responsible way to act.

    I work weekly bookings in the Upper Midwest and I am known as a reliable dancer. You put the club short when you cancel. I only cancel in in an extreme emergency. When WE make bookings WE choose the nights/weeks we are going to work. It is up to us to schedule ourselves for the amount of nights/weeks that we are willing and able to work.

    Just make a schedule in the future that won't burn you out.

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    Default Re: Im so burnt out semi rant

    Dear Candy, if u are working where I think u are working (with Mika from Hawaii)...PLEASE DON'T BURN THAT BRIDGE!!! If u can, like Tina said, book lighter next month. It should be easy, girls always want more shifts there! There are only a few other places in NJ where u can make that much in a shift, and the other places are very extras oriented to put it lightly. Just my opinion, only u know how much u can take.
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    Default Re: Im so burnt out semi rant

    I dunno who Mika is so maybe not the same place. The thing is other girls always seem to quit /be fired and come back all the time. Im just going to try to tell them whats up and take a little break from working over winter break. And as for booking less, the thing is yeah I really do work only 3-4 nights a week but I am taking 18 credits and have many other obligations that together are killing me. At least tonight they are a lot.

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    Default Re: Im so burnt out semi rant

    3-4 nights a week is no big deal by itself, but that on top of being a full time student is a really heavy plate. Its the end of the semester right now so the stress probably seems extra intense and you deserve a break. Definitely try to talk to management about reducing your shifts if you can. That way you'll also at least know what your options are.

    I have a one 10 page paper and a 20 page paper due on Monday and then my semester is over. Then I plan on working four nights in a row to make up for averaging only one night a week this month. After that I'm going home for a week to see family and friends. Having pre-planned my break as something to look forward to from all school and working has really helped push me along.
    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Im so burnt out semi rant

    Candygrrl, things may seem crazy stressful right now, however a year from now you will be able to look back and laugh at it all. A few silly tricks that help me relax... Take a deep breath, look in the mirror and smile, make a list of all the things you have to be grateful for. Then of course the old cliche...Things could always be worse. You are obviously smart and attractive. Be happy

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    Default Re: Im so burnt out semi rant

    Candygrrl:
    I totally know how you feel. I was in the exact same situation years ago when I was in college. It was just too stressful for me to handle the two, plus my job was wearing me out and I just couldn't take it anymore.
    I ended up quitting, but only for 2 months. Did the money hurt? A little bit. You just need to figure out your priorities. Looking back, I wish I had kept up the dancing just to save more money. You will NEVER have the opportunity to do what you are doing- you have great hours, make ridiculous amounts of money, and total freedom- oh, not to mention you are earning an education.
    Take advantage of things now- because you never know what tomorrow will bring. Take a week off, go to Miami, the bahamas, Colorado, whatever floats your boat...but take a nice week long vacation. You will feel 100% better.
    Sometimes, with work and school, you forget about yourself. Both take up almost all of your time, believe me, I know. You mustn't forget that you are human, and you need to have time to yourself.
    My suggestion to you is to cut back a shift during the week, and definitely go on vacation. You will thank yourself for it!
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    Default Re: Im so burnt out semi rant

    thanks guys! I went to work today after my exam and sucked it up and made the most money I have ever made. it was A LOT!!!! haha I feel better now. I'm only working one day next week, and my hardest exam so I think I will be fine. : )

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