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    Thumbs down Ugh. I fucking hate men.

    So I got the oh-so-lovely breakup call today, 6 months into what could have been the best relationship we both had. He can't even do it face to face, has to do it on the phone and in the shittiest way, plus he'll be dropping my stuff off at my door later and running away like a coward.

    MAJOR commitment issues.

    The reason he's breaking up is ABSOLUTELY the dumbest anyone could think of. So stoopid I can't even write it down to see in black and white.

    No matter the reason. He chooses NOW: a week before xmas, THE DAY BEFORE I START A NEW JOB. Kinda makes it hard to put on a happy face for the brand new employer, and concentrate on learning the work.


    And I can't even talk about what else is going on. His timing is fucking impeccable.

    All this just reinforces what I see from the bad examples of the male race I deal with at work. Happy fucking holidays.

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    Im sorry hun..breakups suck ass. *hug* Couldnt he have waited till after new years at least? How cold of someone to do that to you. He wasnt worth you anways if he was gonna end it like this.
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    Sincerest condolences, B.
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    B - don't need to know his reasons, his excuses or him at all: YOU CAN DO BETTER.
    Good luck hun.
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    I don't think I can top that Bridgette, sincerest condolences. But lately I've been stricken with memories of the ex that ruined me for life, since we met this time of year and dated through February......He dumped me after a lovely Valentine's Day together...yep..the turd didn't want to spend V-Day alone so he was sweet as pie that day, dinner out, making love in bed, a movie together......I was on Cloud 9. I thought he really cared for me. Then a lame-ass dumping over the phone at the end of February...my heart fell out of my chest.
    I recommend you take up shooting practice at the gun range to get over this. Or learn hand to hand combat.

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    I don't mean to be rude or inconsiderate but maybe he wanted to have a stripper girlfriend and since you have a "regular" job now that would make him see you in a different light. My condolences to you, too.



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    That just sucks Bridgette. Sorry it happened. You seem to be a tough cookie though so I know you'll get through it even stronger.

    Good luck hon.

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    He didn't know I was a stripper at first. We met online. I told him after a couple weeks. He wasn't thrilled at first but that quickly became a non-issue. It has nothing to do with my job.

    The "trigger" was that he had a party to go to last night while I was at work, and because I wanted to see him, he decided to skip the party. Left a voicemail saying so while I was working. I called him back and told him to go, that I could meet up with him after work, that I should be done by 10. He still didn't go. I wound up working til 11. So he got pissed that he'd changed his plans "for me" and then when 10:00 came, I wasn't around.

    He says we don't communicate well enough. That we just aren't a good fit.

    The real issue is that he's scared to death of commitment and looks for ANY imperfection in ANY woman he dates, and breaks up with them for it. He basically told me as much previously.

    Other than a couple really stoopid things (which he blew way out of proportion, btw) it's been a really good relationship. Get along well, similar interests and life goals, enjoy each other's company, good sex, good feelings, all that. He just freaks at the drop of a hat and runs away.

    I guess I was the fool.

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    Sorry girl, hugs and kisses. You are such a gem, I can't believe him!!! Oh well...moving forward. Single ladies unite!

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    And it had been SUCH a good week until this. bleh.

    Want. to. male. bash.

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    Maybe this is best in the long run. "Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end..." & Truth be told, the loverboy I was warbling about further up on this thread,.....well, it WAS for the best that we didn't work out. It took a couple years to show, but boy, I dodged a bullet. (After it left a gaping flesh wound metaphorically, LOL)....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette
    The real issue is that he's scared to death of commitment and looks for ANY imperfection in ANY woman he dates, and breaks up with them for it. He basically told me as much previously.
    Yeah. Wow.

    He really needs a wake-up call.

    I think you need to tell him, quite seriously, that he should NOT even so much as CONSIDER dating again until he goes to a counselor. He's just flailing around and hurting people and himself.

    If he has any sense, he'll be thankful for it . . . if he doesn't have any sense, he'll be thankful for it when he gets some.

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    Tried to point that out before, when he was telling me this stuff previously. But of course, I'm wrong.

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    There's a new year looming--be glad you aren't starting it with this dickless wonder.

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    Well, so sorry to hear this. It's def. his loss. It sounds like you're too good for him. May you heal fast, & have some wonderful holidays & future w/someone who'll be good to you.


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    I'm sorry girlie.

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    I'm sorry Bridgette. It sounded like this one would be good.

    Apart from your assessment on the commitment issues, which is your call, it does also sound like he can't deal with issues related to time, i.e. we can't always make every appointed time. He has to understand that. And that also can be a relationship breaker for some.

    So you think he would've used some other reason if he had had one?

    >>>Sad<<<

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    Hey, it isn't easy losing a hard-to-find good-sex partner. A real man would hang in there and work it out. Too bad this wimp wouldn't. Remember, that he will feel a loss this season too. And probably a lot bigger than he realizes.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette
    So I got the oh-so-lovely breakup call today, 6 months into what could have been the best relationship we both had. He can't even do it face to face, has to do it on the phone and in the shittiest way, plus he'll be dropping my stuff off at my door later and running away like a coward.

    MAJOR commitment issues.

    The reason he's breaking up is ABSOLUTELY the dumbest anyone could think of. So stoopid I can't even write it down to see in black and white.

    No matter the reason. He chooses NOW: a week before xmas, THE DAY BEFORE I START A NEW JOB. Kinda makes it hard to put on a happy face for the brand new employer, and concentrate on learning the work.


    And I can't even talk about what else is going on. His timing is fucking impeccable.

    All this just reinforces what I see from the bad examples of the male race I deal with at work. Happy fucking holidays.

    Awww lame. Shit I was actually hoping good for you when you where telling me about this guy.

    Speaking on behalf of said males, we all have our surprises.

    No joke, bridgette, I am sorry.
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    Bridgette, obviously the guy who did this had no idea of the quality of woman he had. The bottom line is he's out of his league with you and you will do better. You'll find Mr. Right next time instead of Mr. Mediocre.

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    Holy crap, is this just the season for this schizz or what?

    Seems like lot sof chicks I know are going through this kind of thing at the moment.

    Condolences, hon.

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    So sorry to hear that.Men can be such bastards sometimes.It's interesting how they like to do it right before some important event.And I agree,breaking up over the phone/text/e-mail is lame and cowardly.It's also very hard to filter their BS,since they'll tell you anything you want to hear especially in the beginning just to get your attention and trust.

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    what a fucking jerk, but men are all jerks.

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    I try to tiptoe when a lady is mad at men, but best of luck, Bridg. You can and will do better. I know all too well what misery there is long-term with people who stay together who shouldn't (no, I don't mean me). Best to go ahead and have it over with.

    Good luck, and I'm sorry.

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    he will come back to you. they always do... they dont know what they want

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