Hi, am new here, love this site!
Anyway, have a dilemma, and would like some clarity and a new perspective.
I have been dancing for a while, in various clubs and states, and finally found a club I love in a city I adore. Customers are great, girls are awesome to work with, money is steady, it's convenient and there's really nothing to complain about. I could see myself staying here until I decide to quit dancing all together.
The problem is the manager. She can't stand me for whatever reason. I tried to find out what it is, she gave me some petty bullshit reason, and still liking the place i didn't argue, just said I'll change whatever she doesn't like and did. I have been nothing but polite, courteous, reliable, responsible and professional all along, and even she aknowledged it. Yet continued to treat me unfairly and unreasonably, giving a very limited shifts over a long period of time, as if testing my patience, waiting until I either blow up and give her a reason to fire me, or quit on my own. Even customers started asking me what's up with me working the kind of shifts I do and for as long as I have.
She is extremely passive aggressive, dishonest and manipulative, and I don't know how to deal with it. She is nice to my face, and talking to her has proven useless. The reason is obviously personal and has nothing to do with how I do my job. I've noticed whenever she slips up and gives me a decent shift, sees me doing well, sees me happy and hears customers complimenting me, she looks like she ate a lemon, and the next week my shifts are back no nil. I think for her to like me I'd have to just be a totally different person, which is obviously impossible. I'm there to make money and can't be uglier and dumber than I am just so she feels better about herself.
It's hard for me to comprehend why the manager of the stripclub would choose to conduct a witchhunt against a dancer who loves her job, the club, follows the rules and causes the least problems. Nonetheless, I'm at a crossroads. I'm sick of not being given a fair chance to work and make the money I could be making. It's really hard for me to just give up. First of all, I worked at quite a few clubs in this city, and this one is the one I'm most at home at (minus her), and secondly, if I leave she'll feel like she won, and will keep on treating the best dancers like shit (I'm not the first one by any means to endure this, but the first one to stick around for this long).
So, what can I do? Stay or go? Will I be a loser if I leave? Anything I haven't considered or done? In any other job she'd be sued for discrimination, among other things, many times over, but in a strip club I guess dancer has no power at all....
Just never encountered this in all my years of dancing....



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