Hi girls..I need help.I can't get over an ex who is awful for me...I'm talking about jail time,drugs, cheating..............I'm not going back to him,but HOW DO I GET OVER IT????............the feelings don't go away
Hi girls..I need help.I can't get over an ex who is awful for me...I'm talking about jail time,drugs, cheating..............I'm not going back to him,but HOW DO I GET OVER IT????............the feelings don't go away





Stop all contact with this person no matter what the erge. Instead go outside, grocery shopping, work more, go out with your friends, etc. Start hanging out with people who are good for you and youll never want to go back to the way you were before.
you live like an ivy vine
you can only survive by clinging onto trees
that's your flaw
put down some roots so you can stand on your own
-Kenpachi
I have stopped contact,but my question is "how do I make the feelings stop ?"..............The whole thing just feels yucky and I know I can't go back but...Any tips for staying strong and feeling better?![]()





Stay busy at all costs. Try not to be alone alot. Go out have dinner, dance, meet new friends. Feelings fade b/c you are not around this person and youre too busy with your new fun life.
you live like an ivy vine
you can only survive by clinging onto trees
that's your flaw
put down some roots so you can stand on your own
-Kenpachi
TM's advice to stay busy all the time is great. There is nothing worse than sitting at home, alone, where you have no choice but to mope about an ex. think of all the terrible things he did to you....let yourself feel the feelings that you did then, ex: hurt and betrayal when he cheated on you. Rant to anyone willing to listen and who is supportive of you, and get those feelings out. sleep as much as you have too....it's a good escape. heck, even drink a couple of times if it helps, but not too often. although the pain can't stop, you can get through it, and then move on to someone who will treat you well. good luck and take care of yourself.
TMs got it right. Unfortunately these things take time. This too shall pass!





Do you have any family you can talk to or close friends who aren't in his circle of friends . Alcohol will not cure this maybe it may make it worse - my own opinion . Just stay busy as stated by others and find someone to talk about it hell make a list of the pros and cons of this guy I am sure it will be mostly one sided then you must make a rational choice of what you want out of a relationship and life - be true to yourself ...
I left him so it's not like I'm heartbroken but that was 3 months ago and I still think about him all the time.I love that loser! What's wrong with me? Can anyone relate to this?
Dwell on all the times he made you look stupid to everyone & people were laughing behind your back AND THEN to your face for being such a 'tard, to stick with him.
That ought to do it. Good luck & hope you feel better.
PS Get him out of your system NOW. If you let him linger in your life, it will be ruinous, there will be a cumulative effect when he finally does something so awful that when you hear about it you feel 10 times worse than when you left him. Get on it now. Or as wise Yehkefah says, get under someone. LOL
develop negative feelings.
Sit down and list all the things that are bad about him, and then write out all the bad experiences. Discuss this with a friend who doesn't like him. Make yourself dislike him.





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