You guys I am so stressed, scared, anxious, you name it, I feel it.
So I'm living with my boyfriend. Yes we just started dating, but he let me move in when my dad was freaking out on me and I needed a place to live and he was the only friend at the time who could help me. He's going through a nasty divorce, the women is clinically insane and should be on meds, but she refuses to take them. She has done everything in her power to make the divorce as drawn out as possible. She also wants to take him for everything and then some. She has basically forced him into bankruptcy and then some, which is ridiculous because he makes almost $80K a year just by himself. You wouldn't be able to tell though because of the divorce. He has been lagally divorced for a month now but she still won't let him settle the house issue. It's been on the market for $410,000, when it's only been appraised for $280,000. His ex made this happen by finding the slimiest and easily swayed appraiser she could find. She also chose a realator who isn't doing squat to try to sell the house. She tries to say the house isn't clean enough and that's why it isn't selling, but REALLY she hasn't had ANYBODY to even walk through the house anyways! Rob needs to refinance the house and buy out his ex, but she won't let him. The house got appraised again today, and if it doesn't come up to be worth at least $415,000, we can't even get a loan to refinance. And then that will mean unless somebody has cash to buy the house, we can't sell it either because nobody would be able to get a loan for it. So now we are heading towards bankruptcy, because the house was appraised 2 months ago at $280,000. The bank will probably foreclose on the house and take everything, and we don't know what we're going to do.
We are both so stressed out. I took a break from dancing because I was in a car accident on Thanksgiving and figured I'd rest my back instead of killing myself at work and not even being able to make house fees. So Im planning to go back to work in January. But even when I start working it won't be enough. Rob is so stressed he is getting really grumpy, crabby, and unaffectionate. All I want is him to hold me and such because I have a lot of debt on my own and people calling my house for money everyday, but he is nonresponsive because he "feels like death".I haven't changed my address on my bills so all of them are still going to my parents house and I'm afraid to go get them because I have nothing. My health is poor from so much stress and anxiety, I just got bad food poisoning, so now I feel like death. I have no energy ever and always get crippling headaches. I also have no health insurance anymore, car insurance is late, etc. My hair is even falling out, my face,back, chest,shoulders, ASS, breaking out painfully. It makes me not even want to put on my dancing out fits because Im so broken out, pale, lost weight, and just feel like I look like hell.
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I have no idea how to remedy any of this...![]()


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And I should have been more clear, he is not totally giving me the cold shoulder as far as affection goes, but he's definetely withdrawn. He is not dragging me into his problems, I knew about them before we started dating, but you can't always choose the time you fall in love. I know that his problems aren't my problems, but as his SO it really makes me want to help him and kills me that I cant. I just hate seeing him so damn unhappy and scared. I guess I really want to know the best way I can be supportive for him, seeing as my life has been getting better(sloooowly) while his is only getting worse.
Is there anything I CAN do for him besides just be a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen? He would never even think of asking me for money except to chip in on rent/living expenses, which I think is acceptable.


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