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    I met this stripper at a club and I really want to approach her. Now, I'm pretty sure she's heard everything a guy can say. What are some things I could do and/or say to get her interested. I've already read the how to pick up a stripper thread and it wasn't very helpful. But before i get my head torn off by somebody I'll let you know a little bit about me.

    1. No, I don't care about any sort of bragging rights
    2. No, I don't just want to have sex with her
    3. The reason I need advice is that it was a love at first sight kind of thing. She is the most gorgeous girl I have ever seen, stripper or not, and I want to get to know her.

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    well, we know why you want to date her, but what makes you think you're her type?

    since you are in love at first sight, keep this in mind....the person she is in the club is not the person she is in real life.

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    well bro,remember almost every guy in the club has tried to date this stripper so dont use any pick up lines bec she probably hears the same lines 100 times a day.

    and dont buy her drinks and gifts because then she will see you as a dollar sign.

    i guess just be cool,and different. Dont treat her like a sex object,like everyone else does at the club.

    Ask her questions, show interst dont give her lot of compliments bec she's heard it alot before.

    be a gentlemen. If today you went and took her for a dance,and payed her,the next time dont do it. Let her come and sit but dont dance.Be kinda intersting and unpredictable u know what i mean. Show her u gotta a life.Tell her some cute jokes have a sense of humour.

    good luck

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    I happen to think that the fireman's carry is very useful!

    Ok,

    First you need to acknowledge what you want.

    Date her? Or Get to know her?

    One of those could lead to the other if done in the right order. Otherwise one destroys chances of the other.

    So lets approach this right.

    Get to know her first.

    Requirements:
    Time.
    Money.
    Patience.
    Honesty <-- Key.

    How-To:
    1st just stop caring about what other people think or whether or not she's heard it before or whatever is going through your head. Getting to know her, means that, getting to know her. Not 'Treat her like a stripper whom's pants I am trying to enter therefor be creative'

    Be you. Just be prepaired to buy time to keep her around, be honest, and be patient. Enjoy her company and don't lie to her in expectation of sweeping her off her feet. If you can't do it naturally it probably wont happen anyways. Treat her like a woman working as a stripper. Its not all that hard.

    This is a time based truth building process. You have to pay for it. Sorry. During this process you will watch her work, you will gain/loose respect for her, she may/may not gain trust from her, you will learn about her personality and pretty soon that veil of 'Love at first sight' image will be lifted and you'll be looking at a person of whom you may or may not really be interested in.

    You owe that much to yourself and her. What you need to not do is find out 5 months into a relationship that you cannot handle her job, deal with her drug habit you didn't know about, her possible hectic school schedule, her 8 children, husband she's leaving, her BDSM, her horrible credit, her motivation and drive to be someone, the income that triples your own.

    So slow down. Walk slowly. Wax on and Wax off and all that jazz...take a deep breath and take it one day at a time bro.

    Hope this helps.

    Oh and one last thing. If it goes beyond the getting to know her stage, she'll tell YOU.

    --Mast Out.
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    Whenever a dancer goes out with a man it is because she has picked him. The man just has to sit around and wait for her to call, and if she doesn't call, then you are just a customer and nothing more.

    What can you do to improve your chances?? Get to know her better ITC. Although I can look at a man and say "wow, he's hot!" I won't be attracted to him until I've gotten to know more about him. After a few minutes of conversation a person's attractiveness in my mind can change drastically.


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    If you are really sincere about your "feelings"? for her aside from just lust, then tell her that she means more to you than just a "paid grope" and you would prefer to spend time and $$ on her in another setting. Of course the timing on these words is critical, you have to at least hung out with her a few times and spent some $$$ on her inside the club, deciphering true sincerity from a room full of horny, lying and often cheating men is not easy for anyone let alone a dancer trying to earn a living; this is one of the main reasons a SC is not the best place to meet a good dating partner.

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    For every stripper on this earth there's 4379 men trying to date her all at once. Best you can do is get in line and hope you don't have to wait too long before she notices you exist.

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    Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha Ha

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    Let me try to spare you from looking the fool. These clubs are for fantasy only, they are not spots to find the love of your life. Shower them with money and praise and enjoy their attention but do not tell them you are in love. At best they will think that you are full of crap and are just trying to get some extras. Or if she actually believes what you say, she will probably look at you with the same way as she would look at a man who hits on women at an abortion clinic.

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    heh. And I was trying to be helpful!

    *Throws a rock too*

    EVERYONE ELSE IS DOING IT!
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    Whenever a dancer goes out with a man it is because she has picked him. The man just has to sit around and wait for her to call, and if she doesn't call, then you are just a customer and nothing more.
    Truth. Well said, Paris. It's succinct, accurate and far more polite that what I was going to originally post, based on the retarded "love at first sight in a strip club" nonsense.

    However, I'm having a really shitty day, so I'll tap that vein to dissect your plight:

    1. No, I don't care about any sort of bragging rights
    Of course you do. You're denying the inimitable Stripper Mystique that so many men pursue, as if somehow that places you above the regular PLs/RILs that walk through the door everyday. So don't lie about it, embrace it.

    2. No, I don't just want to have sex with her
    Of course you do. You met a stripper in her workplace. If she's at all competent, she revealed nothing remotely real to you during the time you were paying for her services, so all you have upon which to base your "love" is her professionally delivered sexuality; they're consummate beguilers, dude--it's what they do, to which Emily eluded. And as Paris noted, if she did have a real interest in you, she would have already demonstrated that interest and without a hint of ambiguity.

    3. The reason I need advice is that it was a love at first sight kind of thing. She is the most gorgeous girl I have ever seen, stripper or not, and I want to get to know her.
    Of course you do--see the aforementioned (and subsequently shattered) transparent pretenses. Rinse, lather, repeat.
    Idealism is fine, but as it approaches reality, the costs become prohibitive.

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    Quote Originally Posted by laplover69
    If you are really sincere about your "feelings"? for her aside from just lust, then tell her that she means more to you than just a "paid grope" and you would prefer to spend time and $$ on her in another setting. Of course the timing on these words is critical, you have to at least hung out with her a few times and spent some $$$ on her inside the club, deciphering true sincerity from a room full of horny, lying and often cheating men is not easy for anyone let alone a dancer trying to earn a living; this is one of the main reasons a SC is not the best place to meet a good dating partner.
    i don't agree. I hear this all the time. i have a nice regular that i would've never considered dating. He always comes in and gives me 2 dances and gets me drinks...not a huge spender but i appreciate him. He NEVER asks anything OTC and I like him even more. He gave me his number saying "hey call me whenever you're coming to work and that's that." I was kinda shocked, but for some reason I would want to date him more than a guy wanting OTC time. WEIRD.

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    Quote Originally Posted by alicia0033
    i don't agree. I hear this all the time. i have a nice regular that i would've never considered dating. He always comes in and gives me 2 dances and gets me drinks...not a huge spender but i appreciate him. He NEVER asks anything OTC and I like him even more. He gave me his number saying "hey call me whenever you're coming to work and that's that." I was kinda shocked, but for some reason I would want to date him more than a guy wanting OTC time. WEIRD.
    The often unfounded "stereotypes" "dancers" have of "custies" in just wanting to fuc. them and those of "customers" have of "dancers" in just wanting their $$$ and nothing more are not easily overcome... Sometimes because they are TRUE, and sometimes sorting through it all is just too damn confusing and expensive for both parties involved when the "stereotypes" are NOT true...

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    One other thing. If you feel the need to come on a stripper message board and ask for advice on approaching her, you're already screwed. You don't see her as a person, you see her as a stripper - because of that she will NEVER see you as anything but a PL. You have no chance. Best to just avoid wasting the time, energy and 'feelings' and just move on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by devoncassidy
    She is the most gorgeous girl I have ever seen
    ....beer goggles.
    "Peter, did you take Stewie to a strip-club? He smells like sweat and fear." - Lois and Stewie (Family Guy) ... "Through early morning fog I see, Visions of the things to be, The pains that are withheld for me, I realize and I can see..."

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    Unnh.. hang on a second, isn't there a difference between dating and get to know-ing? Or did I miss that memo.

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    He claims he wants to "get to know her" in the post but the thread title is "want to date a stripper". We all know he really just wants to fuck her. Like everyone else.

    But, like everyone else:
    He's different.
    He's better.
    He's not an asshole
    He's in love with her as a person. LOL
    blah blah blah

    Same story different day.

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    Don't do it, man!
    Devilution Imaging!

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    Ok, I hadda chime in.

    I have been lurking these forums for many months. I have learned much from the members. Most dont pass judgment too quickly, and honesty generally prevails.
    But they are still just people, and the best you will get are honest, nonjudgmental opinions. The worst is ridicule and insults.

    You seem to have iliceted both in this thread.
    I came to this site because the exact same thing happened to me!
    But I didnt come here for advice on how to date her. I ended up here after developing many good relationships with several "ladies of the establishment"
    (a fond term among my friends, no offense)
    These ladies all showed the same qualities that I think prevail on this site-
    Honesty/ bluntness/ non judgmental/and openminded. Not entirely, mind you.
    But in general you find more folks here with these qualities than in a general forum. On that note-

    I have only had that "love at first sight" thang happen once. Ive been with several women, but none that I didnt decide to be with. Thats the only way I can describe it..This one time I had no choice. I just felt it from the moment I laid eyes on her. And having never felt this before, I felt that it was significant.
    It wasnt just the way she looked. It was her. Her vibe, her presence, an undescribeable attraction.

    It would have been the same whether it had been a dance club, the grocery. or the sc. I was actually really bummed that it was indeed the latter. I know you dont go to the club to find women, and so do the women. Why the hell couldnt I have met her somewhere else. Somewhere else I wouldnt be grouped with a bunch of guys seekin the trophy fuck, or instantly labeled a custy and falling to the DDC rule ( Dont Date Custy's)...Quite a challange indeed.

    But I did meet her at a SC, and that feeling was significant ( and mutual, I later found out) So I was real. I was real with her, I was myself, and I went for it.
    Knowing some of the things I have learned on this forum would have been helpful.


    Chances are, if youre just looking to " date a dancer" she'll know. And youll fail.
    And if youre genuine and real , you'll probably fail too, but at least youve got a chance.

    Perhaps the poster has had a similiar experience, and isnt just blinded by lust or the trophy dancer girlfriend syndrome. Probably not. But lets not instantly judge and label him as such. Keep on with the honest, openminded, non judgmental opinions. I certainly appreciate it. Peace

    ~G

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    Quote Originally Posted by devoncassidy
    What are some things I could do and/or say to get her interested.
    No disrespect intended, and I really mean that, but if you have to ask that question, don't you think it pretty much lands you back in 6th grade, asking in a quivering voice what to say to the pretty girl? If so, you are so dead in your shoes that your shoes may be embarrassed to be attached to you.

    Look, honestly, dancers choose customers, not the other way around. The 2nd Law: "Inside or outside the club, it's the dancers who do the choosing."

    If you are extremely good looking, funny, entertaining, powerful, intelligent, successful, intriguing, mysterious, fun and an absolute God in bed, (or an unemployed musician -- oh God I couldn't resist, I am so sorry) you may rise to the top few hundred of Bridgette's 4,379. (God only knows where she gets these numbers, but we've all learned to trust her.)

    If these odds look really good to you, by all means hang around the club. If you decide to do that, please be sure to spend a lot of money on the dancers, OK? I mean a lot of money. If not, check out a regular bar or nightclub where the odds are not only considerably better, but the wallflowers are often very good at giving you free advice.

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    Since I can't afford a bunch of lap dances, I'd to get to know the girl w/o too much paid time. There are broke customers who might want to date/get to know, and who are decent guys! I'm one. But the big question i have is:

    How do you deal w/ the jealousy? I'm NOT a very jealous person, and have a penchant (mostly unfulfilled) for more than just one partner--all at once or separately. But I still might feel jealous about sexual behavior w/ customers, even if it's fantasy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by timmusic
    Since I can't afford a bunch of lap dances, I'd to get to know the girl w/o too much paid time. There are broke customers who might want to date/get to know, and who are decent guys! I'm one. But the big question i have is:

    How do you deal w/ the jealousy? I'm NOT a very jealous person, and have a penchant (mostly unfulfilled) for more than just one partner--all at once or separately. But I still might feel jealous about sexual behavior w/ customers, even if it's fantasy.
    You shouldnt be dating a dancer esp. if you get jealous. Its our job to be with as many guys per night as possible - making money.
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    Oh, yeah, in response to The Other Owner's: "...please be sure to spend a lot of money on the dancers, OK? I mean a lot of money."

    Doesn't this guarantee that the girl will see you as a moneybag who's just paying her for showing her pretty pink flower, and trying to get in her pants via the greenback road? yes, strippers have to work--but sorry, I'm not into golddiggers. They for sure won't be into me! It's me for who I am, period!

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    Quote Originally Posted by timmusic
    Oh, yeah, in response to The Other Owner's: "...please be sure to spend a lot of money on the dancers, OK? I mean a lot of money."

    Doesn't this guarantee that the girl will see you as a moneybag who's just paying her for showing her pretty pink flower, and trying to get in her pants via the greenback road? yes, strippers have to work--but sorry, I'm not into golddiggers. They for sure won't be into me! It's me for who I am, period!
    So why don't you try going to a regular bar to meet women? (not the waitresses, by the way...)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bridgette
    He claims he wants to "get to know her" in the post but the thread title is "want to date a stripper". We all know he really just wants to fuck her. Like everyone else.

    But, like everyone else:
    He's different.
    He's better.
    He's not an asshole
    He's in love with her as a person. LOL
    blah blah blah

    Same story different day.
    I do want to get to know her and hopefully that would lead to dating. I don't understand why that doesn't make sense to you. I'm glad to see you know me so well too . Thanks for assuming that I'm an asshole when the opposite is true. I'm the "nice guy" that lost girls to "assholes". I also said love at first sight and was just trying to get across the point of how beautiful I thought she was. I've never talked to this girl so how can I be in love with her as a person? If she turned out to be a bitch I'd just forget about it (like with any other girl).

    Quote Originally Posted by GrumpyGus
    I have only had that "love at first sight" thang happen once. Ive been with several women, but none that I didnt decide to be with. Thats the only way I can describe it..This one time I had no choice. I just felt it from the moment I laid eyes on her. And having never felt this before, I felt that it was significant.
    It wasnt just the way she looked. It was her. Her vibe, her presence, an undescribeable attraction.

    It would have been the same whether it had been a dance club, the grocery. or the sc. I was actually really bummed that it was indeed the latter. I know you dont go to the club to find women, and so do the women. Why the hell couldnt I have met her somewhere else. Somewhere else I wouldnt be grouped with a bunch of guys seekin the trophy fuck, or instantly labeled a custy and falling to the DDC rule ( Dont Date Custy's)...Quite a challange indeed.
    I know exactly how you feel. I didn't go the club expecting anything more than entertainment. It was my 18th b-day and some of my friends decided to take me out. The fact that I saw her at the club didn't create any extra attraction to her. As a matter of fact, I wish that I saw her at school or something so I wouldn't have to worry about becoming a customer or anything like that.

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