I hear its hard on the knees as well.
What happened to dating a girl primarily out of similar interests. Or compatibility? When did her occupation matter at the DATING level.
I mean, fuck me sideways but, isn't the whole IDEA of dating to find out if a serious relationship could ensue? Does ANYTHING matter at the point of dating? Well I know, that to me, she has to have a mutual interest in me, and all of her teeth. What can I say? My standards are low.
Spoken like a person going to a club looking for a date. Yes. if you're objective is *headshake* date a stripper <again making occupation your primary choice in women> then yes, understand said point.
Once I find out if she's a dancer, if I didn't know, I *gasp* ask her how she likes her job and move on. If you're worried about whether or not her occupation is getting in the way of an otherwise blossoming relationship, you'll find out more by NOT asking if it will, and just learn her personality. I know/knew a dancer who, well honestly, talked about her work tons, I knew the kind of dancer she was because of how she danced, talked, demanded respect, and most importantly I knew what kind of dancer she was because I knew a lot about her that had nothing to do with dancing. I was interested in the PERSON not the dancer, and the PERSON told me what kind of dancer she was.
Oooooo *breaks out notebook*
I want to say welcome to the board. And that I am not treating you like you are stupid. This is good insight, but its still stripper focused.
Ok, I'm going to say it.
If her being a stripper is affecting your choice in dating her, then...well...its going to end in flames. JESUS EFFING CHRIST. To post a thread like this makes it inherent you look at her stripping as an issue. ITS NOT WRONG TO THINK LIKE THAT, BUT STOP TRYING TO FUCKING DATE HER. Sure, occupation can conflict with a relationship. But when its keeping a relationship from starting right then there is a problem.
And ericsson, I find your suggestions on how to date a stripper, "which also applies to any girl", very pedantic and objectifying. I am sure thats not what you meant, but when you say shit like:
You are objectifying strippers/women as a whole. It may even be a true point, hell, I don't know, but at the very least its an assumption.
Mast.
P.S.
and fuck if this bites me in the ass.
I know a dancer who is a god damned queen in her occupation. She actually suffers at times because she demands a higher class out of her customers. Everything I've seen her wear to a club she could easily wear to your mom's 4th wedding. She's one of the most intelligent people I have ever met, she compromises for nothing that I have seen, and she is well put together and knows where she is going to be in the next 5 - 10 - 15 years. Your "exercises" make you a normie to these types of dancers.
Listen to TOO, these kind of girls choose YOU. All the Money, and Charisma, and Intelligence in the world keeps you at the doorstep. She's got better things to do. And thats why I have so much respect for her/girls like this. Its never about sex, its never about love, its ALWAYS about whether or not you deserve their time (which may include but is not exclusive to sex/love...etc). And its an honor to be given their time because you know you're in a very small group to have it.
You want some real advice?
Go to the club to have a good time, and be you. Think about nothing. Dwell on nothing. Thinking leads to dwelling, dwelling leads to obsessing, obsessing leads to anger, and anger is the path to the dark side.
Mast^2
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