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    Default Do you ever think you are going to be lonely forever?

    I'm beginning to think I'm never going to meet anybody special. Every girl I meet and find and myself interested in usually has a boyfriend or something. Granted, I probably have some reason to blame myself because I can be on the quiet and shy side and I don't feel comfortable going to bars (especially strip clubs) and trying to find a girlfriend. I'm just one of those guys who has to know a girl platonically before I even consider asking her out. I would apperciate all comments and advice?

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    Default Re: Do you ever think you are going to be lonely forever?

    Not exactly what this has to do with stripping but ok here goes:

    Bars suck in general meetig quality people so I know what yout going through there.
    Have you considered this just isnt your time to meet someone? A special tid bit imo quiet shy guys are booooooorrrriiinnnggg. You might have alot to say but if you never say it who is gonna know the real you? But if you keep thinking youre never goona meet anyone special you never will. Optimism is part of life and keeps you living longer.
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    you can only survive by clinging onto trees
    that's your flaw
    put down some roots so you can stand on your own
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    Default Re: Do you ever think you are going to be lonely forever?

    Downey_Guy

    I totally feel ya.

    Wait....are we talking 'Special' as in 'Unique' or as in the kind of girls I am after?

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    Default Re: Do you ever think you are going to be lonely forever?

    I'm fairly certain there isn't a "Mrs. Right" out there for me. 20 years of experience tells me that's going to be the case.

    So... how many times have you heard "Women should be lining up to meet you"? It's interesting that always comes from a woman who DOESN'T want meet you isn't it?

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    Default Re: Do you ever think you are going to be lonely forever?

    Well, I tell you what, you wanna meet somebody, good.

    Walk up to the next girl you meet while walking down the street, in the mall,
    where ever.

    Yeah, just walk up to her and smack her in the butt real hard.

    Yeah, I guaranttee, you will meet somebody, maybe not what you want, but you will
    meet somebody, yeah.

    Plus, you will get over your shyness, like real quick.

    Good luck.

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    ^^^ useful? no clever? no funny? no

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    I thought I would be lonely forever, until you came along and made this post... now I know you are my soulmate and I'll never be lonely again!

    Don't go to bars to meet women, and especially don't go to a strip club looking for a girlfreind! That's where we WORK, it's not a dating service! Go places that people with similar interests to yours go. Join a club or volunteer or something.



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    Do I ever think I'll be lonely forever? Yes, sometimes. Loneliness is part of the human condition. And we all die alone.
    The opposite sex is for mating. Rarely will a soulmate be found in a reproductive mate.
    Develop your own person to where you can be fine on your own. A couple good books on this art are The Way of the Tao by Lao-Tzu, The Way of the Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman, and study the works of Ayn Rand & Jane Roberts. Whether you agree with these people or not is irrelevant, but they happen to deal with enriching the Self to where One is not dependent on others for Worth.

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    Don't think like that.Many people have been where you are. The trick is to stop looking completely and stop worrying about being alone. This is usually when a great person will find you.
    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Do you ever think you are going to be lonely forever?

    Buy the book "The Game" by Neil Strauss and check out some of the sites below.

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    Default Re: Do you ever think you are going to be lonely forever?

    yup. for some reason, whenever you have dating out of your mind, a good longterm lover comes along. I disagree with the others, I think you should go to a bar, but like they said not to meet The One, but just to get over your shy streak.

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    Default Re: Do you ever think you are going to be lonely forever?

    The best way to find someone to love is to know people. They have friends of friends.

    Shyness is hard. I know it. I got it. It sucks. People think I am gregarious and easy to get along with. It is hard - hard work for me. I become emotionally exhausted in crowds and parties.

    Somedays I just lock myself into the house and interact on the internet.

    There are books on small talk. It helps.

    Random complements help too.

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    Another thing to give you hope....

    Like I said, when you're not looking for it, true love finds you.

    When I met my current S.O., I was very depressed and the last thing I was thinking about was dating. He commented on my blog, and that's how I met him. When I look back on how we met, I laugh.I wasn't looking for him.He wasn't looking for me either, he was going through the beginnings of a divorce. But after commenting on each others blogs for 11 months, he asks me to come help him get his house clean for open house.Says he'll even pay for the gas because he's that desperate for help. And that was the first time we met in person and we just clicked better than I have with anyone before

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    I've never really felt lonely, but I've expierenced the opposite. I didn't want people around me, and I would get social anixety. I would cringe when my phone would ring, and I would just stay in my house until it got real late, so that way my chances of running into a lot of people was not likely.

    I have found that exercise has helped me with that, and I put on a "fake" personna when I am in public settings. I don't lie to people or act pretentious (unless in the correct situation, like when I'm stripping). Why exercise? I don't know why it helps, but it does. Maybe the endorphins calm me down, or it might just be a natural anixety reliever or whatever. But exersice has helped me get over some major depressions in my life, and I swear by it.


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    Default Re: Do you ever think you are going to be lonely forever?

    I was about to kick this thread over to the Lounge since it really has nothing to do with asking stripper related questions of the strippers. But to be honest, I couldnt bring myself to do it. Maybe its the guys sincerity or perhaps because its the Christmas season and Im feeling mellow. I dunno. Anyways, ladies if you can help him out with some advise, please do if you are so inclined.

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    Just a couple of tips that may help. Be assertive, seize the day. I read on one of these links that a great thing to do would be to take dance lessons. It sounded like such a good idea that I am making it my new years resolution. I will get off my butt and sign up for a dance class, maybe Salsa. Hope you do something similar, take the initiative for this new year.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Downey_Guy
    I'm beginning to think I'm never going to meet anybody special. Every girl I meet and find and myself interested in usually has a boyfriend or something. Granted, I probably have some reason to blame myself because I can be on the quiet and shy side and I don't feel comfortable going to bars (especially strip clubs) and trying to find a girlfriend. I'm just one of those guys who has to know a girl platonically before I even consider asking her out. I would apperciate all comments and advice?
    Well, first thing you must do is to get off the damn computer.
    So, what, if you cannot find quality people at bars.
    You are looking for companionship, conversation, anything to get rid of the
    lonely feeling.
    Same with strip clubs, you can talk to strippers, they will talk to you,
    but remember, they will expect to reimburse them for the time they spend with
    you.

    In this way, you build a knowledge of women, and buddy, it sounds like
    you need it, because you do not, as of now, have one.

    And after you get this knowledge, you will then know what you will want
    and then getting what you want will be less difficult.

    You cannot keep whining pathetically, I ain't got, I ain't got.
    Because nobody in the world will give it to you.

    You have to get up and get going.

    As Confucius once remarked, "A long journey begins with the first step."

    Make it.


    "Platonic Love is a fool's name for the affection between a disability and a frost."
    Ambrose Bierce
    Last edited by girlnew156; 12-27-2005 at 07:22 PM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by girlnew156
    Well, first thing you must do is to get off the damn computer.
    So, what, if you cannot find quality people at bars.
    You are looking for companionship, conversation, anything to get rid of the
    lonely feeling.
    Same with strip clubs, you can talk to strippers, they will talk to you,
    but remember, they will expect to reimburse them for the time they spend with
    you.

    In this way, you build a knowledge of women, and buddy, it sounds like
    you need it, because you do not, as of now, have one.

    And after you get this knowledge, you will then know what you will want
    and then getting what you want will be less difficult.

    You cannot keep whining pathetically, I ain't got, I ain't got.
    Because nobody in the world will give it to you.

    You have to get up and get going.

    As Confucius once remarked, "A long journey begins with the first step."

    Make it.


    "Platonic Love is a fool's name for the affection between a disability and a frost."
    Ambrose Bierce
    Don't listen to this girl. She crazy loco!

    I have just the book you need for a small price though... It make you happy? Sure! Make you happy dance on your toes happy!

    Seriously though - when we all learn to swim, we flop around a bit and get water up our noses. When we learn to ride a bike, we fall down and run into things scraping our knees and elboes... seeing a pattern here? You just got to keep on doing it and doing it. When you fall down (or are smacked down) ya just gotta get up, brush of your clothes, and do it till you figure it out.

    And I gotta tell ya, I thought I knew what I wanted when I was 18. These days I know from then what I DON'T want! Hee hee hee...

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    I'm pretty sure I'll grow old and die alone. I'm not joking.

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    When I sit and think, truly think, I am not sure that "Love" truly exsists. Most of the time, what we feel as "Love" turns out to be nothing more but "Lust". I don't think anyone, anywhere has ever truly been in "Love", and I don't think anyone ever will. I know I will never even find "True Lust" for that matter. It may sound strange, but I believe in what I call "Pre-determined Destiny". This is when it is pre-determined by God what will happen in your life from birth to death with no opportunity to change it yourself. And in my case, it is my "pre-determined destiny" to never find "True Love" or "True Lust". So don't feel alone, because it may just be your "Pre-determined Destiny" as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by charismaticenigma
    When I sit and think, truly think, I am not sure that "Love" truly exsists. Most of the time, what we feel as "Love" turns out to be nothing more but "Lust". I don't think anyone, anywhere has ever truly been in "Love", and I don't think anyone ever will. I know I will never even find "True Lust" for that matter. It may sound strange, but I believe in what I call "Pre-determined Destiny". This is when it is pre-determined by God what will happen in your life from birth to death with no opportunity to change it yourself. And in my case, it is my "pre-determined destiny" to never find "True Love" or "True Lust". So don't feel alone, because it may just be your "Pre-determined Destiny" as well.
    I know love exists. It wasn't lust that was keeping me with an alcoholic for three years doing everything I could to help her through it. It was love.

    Often parents have love for their children too, though some parents don't and some have a hard time showing their love.

    In short, love is a rare and exotic thing, but I know it exists.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Katrine
    I'm pretty sure I'll grow old and die alone. I'm not joking.
    You will always have your cats.

    Somebody will come bopping along. You just have to let it happen.

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    Most people at one point or another feel this way. Heck, to me is most ironic to talk to men all nite, having them say all kind of wonderful compliments to me then coming home alone and realizing i don't know a man i would want to be with. That's depressing.

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    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=58815

    You should read this thread.

    I was the one that recommended dance lessons and it's great.

    I'd also like to hear from anyone that does this and how it goes. It might even make a good thread to post dance results.

    Rick

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    Default Re: Do you ever think you are going to be lonely forever?

    taking the moral high road is always hard. one thing i've learned in my experience

    their only one thing women hate more than being treated like a sex toy.

    it's not being treated like a sex toy is much more worse in their book.
    Support your local stripper!

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