I have split this thread from the original in the Newbie Board as the following posts concern general weight issues . . . Susan Wayward
I'm sorry, what was tactful about this comment, or the one by Bridgette that you so ringingly endorsed? Have I misunderstood what "tact" means? I always thought it had something to do with giving truthful responses that WEREN'T offensive, not looking for excuses to be abusive to people. But, hey - it is already eminently clear that I have very different ideas about how it is NICE to interact with people than you do.Originally Posted by Casual Observer
The tidbit I was referring to was "if you have to ask if you are fat, then you are" - even on this board this is obviously not true, and a cursory search through the lounge, body business and Ladies Only will reveal many threads by women suffering from eating disorders, who have had occasion to "ask" or doubt their body shape even when dangerously thin. Sometimes people need reassurance EVEN if they are not actually hugely fat or ugly. (Tell the truth - how many women on this board have EVER asked if they look fat? Anyone? Hmm. Maybe EVERYONE?)
This just makes no sense in the context of what I said. I said if you have never felt the need for reassurance then you are unbelievably conceited, and somewhat abnormal (and not in a benign way). If you have, then you might have a little empathy for other people who need to.And if you respond to a direct question with an honest, tactful and direct answer you have no empathy and therefore suffer from conceit and arrogance? This is a ridiculous leap of logic.
And I did actually read the post and look at her (small, and bad quality) pictures. She is obviously a very pretty girl, and from I could tell from the one picture that showed her body she is not fat.
And to go back to your "men like variety" thing. Not all men like bombshells. Or rather, they may all like them, but that is not all there is to women. I've worked with beautiful women. With like serious stress on the first sylllable (which is how indicate that I really mean something). One woman I worked with, every time she smiled at me she made me giggle like a nervous 12 year school boy (and I saw her smile every day for like 6 hours). And every day there were a couple guys who didn't even notice she was in the room because I was sitting next to them. Seriously - I am the position to know: men actually DO like variety. This fact pays my rent. If all men liked was Bridgette and TFD I'd be homeless.



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