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    Smiley How Do You Want Your Dances?

    I was curious about what type of dancing do customers go to clubs to see women do? What moves really turn women/men on? What do you expect o happen when you go into the club? What do you wanna here when you go into the club? Do you like slow and sensual? Do you like sexual gestures? Do you like when women shake ther butts? What is your fantasy? How do you want your dance?
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    I wish dancers would quit slapping/spanking themselves. Yes, it makes a loud sound and gets attention.... no it's not particularily sexy or appealing (IMHO).

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    here's what i don't like. don't shake your butt, i hate that, most of the women i see doing it have too much fat on their ass & its not sexy to me.as far a sexual gestures go you can do them but its not going to get another dance from me.
    my atf tells me her dances are boring cause she only has a couple moves & does them over & over, but they work on me so i'm happy.

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    I dunno. No one answer is going to help.
    I hate spanking on stage but thats only because I never actually did it during sex. Now, that come to pass, its not so bad

    Pay attention to what you can do. Assuming you can pick your own music look at your crowd, play the stereotypes in your head. Do what those TYPES of people like in your head. But the best piece of advice my custy experience could give is the following.

    When its dead I would prefer to roll into the club, I got there once with like 15 people. The coolest dancer ever <close friend> was working <this was prefriends> and she can work a pole like she was born on it. Well she picked a song that had one hell of a beginning buildup and she teased the crowd my starting on the pole. This got people to tip. But I have to admit, she mixed the right song with the right kind of dirty. Its an art.

    Please don't rely on token moves all the time. If you can build a good mix but save your best shows for the ones who are tipping. I hate it much when someone comes up and gives a dollar, but if you give that tipper a good rail show, <I.E. a special move or something after you do the mini dance> people will look at you as 'What is she going to do next?'

    Doesn't seem helpful, but it worked for me.

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    Slow and sensual. Look like you are enjoying yourself. Eye contact and smiles.

    A crabby, stumbling drunk slapping her ass is the biggest turn-off.

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    all the dancing doesnt turn me on,im a leg/foot fetishist and all my money gets spent in the vip on one thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    Thanks for the input!
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    While we're on the topic:

    If you're spending time with a dancer what is the best way for her to ask you what you like in a dance? Or when for that matter? After you agree to a dance? before the topic of buying a dance is even brought up? or after you already bought one and she wants to show you she wants to try a little harder?

    I find I get more dances per customer if i show that i want to give them their fantasy dance, custom made just for them.
    So what's the best way to show you guys that?
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    I wish dancers would quit slapping/spanking themselves.
    Agreed. Self-flaggelation should have ended in the Middle Ages.

    f you're spending time with a dancer what is the best way for her to ask you what you like in a dance? Or when for that matter? After you agree to a dance? before the topic of buying a dance is even brought up? or after you already bought one and she wants to show you she wants to try a little harder?
    This is why I usually wait to see how a dancer works on stage before buying a dance; if she's at all competent or professional, and if she particularly seems to be enjoying herself, I'd prefer she perform as her own personality and attitude dictates in conjunction with her reaction to me specifically as her customer, based on my personality and attitude. Otherwise, it seems forced and manufactured from both sides of the equation.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MassLapper
    I wish dancers would quit slapping/spanking themselves. Yes, it makes a loud sound and gets attention.... no it's not particularily sexy or appealing (IMHO).
    on the contrary, I've had plenty of guys love watching that sort of thing. Although I think it would be nicer if it was two girls spanking eachother

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    My favorite thing is to feel your heartbeat it's the one thing a dream can never duplicate.

    and lots of eye contact. pay attention to me and only me while i'm their
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    Quote Originally Posted by exotisch23
    on the contrary, I've had plenty of guys love watching that sort of thing.
    Me too. I've had lots of customers ask for it, and my boyfriend has often said he loves it when dancers slap their own asses while dancing. He says it's "fun."

    It doesn't do anything for me, but if it's the kind of crowd that wants it, I'll do it.

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    I hate the ass slapping thing. I also hate guys that say, "slap that ass girl, no harder, come on, *slap* that ass." But, hey, if they wanna pay for it...



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    Quote Originally Posted by Lena
    I hate the ass slapping thing. I also hate guys that say, "slap that ass girl, no harder, come on, *slap* that ass." But, hey, if they wanna pay for it...
    The only time the ass-slapping thing works for me is if it is done as a goof. Otherwise, its as erotic as rubbing a cheese grater against her body on stage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Prester_John
    The only time the ass-slapping thing works for me is if it is done as a goof. Otherwise, its as erotic as rubbing a cheese grater against her body on stage.

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    Find your own style, that's what I like best, a dancer who is expressing herself... and don't be shy about teasing the guys, thats all they are gonna get anyway so you might as well play it up...

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    Quote Originally Posted by exotisch23
    on the contrary, I've had plenty of guys love watching that sort of thing. Although I think it would be nicer if it was two girls spanking eachother
    Two girls spanking each other is another matter entirely

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    Last time i attended a strip club as a customer, I waited to find a girl on stage who was wild and had a dominatrix sort of feel to her. After watching alot of girls on stage doing slow sensual moves to r and b or hip hop, i finally found my woman. She rocked out to Zombie on stage and i bought dances from her and gave her a good tip. Yep... thats the type of thing i am into. She had dark hair too which I also go for.

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    You will make more money perfecting your style. You will never be able to adjust to every customer however customers like me will adjust to you. Take control and make him feel special that he gets to be part of your show.

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    Quote Originally Posted by leilanicandy
    I was curious about what type of dancing do customers go to clubs to see women do? What moves really turn women/men on? What do you expect o happen when you go into the club? What do you wanna here when you go into the club? Do you like slow and sensual? Do you like sexual gestures? Do you like when women shake ther butts? What is your fantasy? How do you want your dance?
    During a private dance I expect a stripper to show me tenderness, loving, and care. I like her to caress my neck, blow in my ears, tell me how hot I am, and show me her ass. For those strippers who are uninhibited, I like them to kiss me on my forehead and cheeks. And for those who have attained a truly higher level of consciousness, I like them to make out with me during the private dance, including deep french kissing (dfk). That's how I like my private dance.

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    I don't like a women slapping her butt. I hate when a woman bends over and shows me her spot for about 5 mins and don't hardly touch me. I like for one is for her to have her face done up really nice and not to wear boots which I hate and not to wear those wierd looking gothic stockings. I love to see all nude legs with them oiled up and not blowing that nasty cancer stick smoke all in my face. I like a woman to act like she is making love to me by giving me a slow dancing grind. It seems that now days the women show to much that they are just into the money and don't really take the time to really get in to him. I think it would help more if the woman was really into me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by takemetwo
    It seems that now days the women show to much that they are just into the money and don't really take the time to really get in to him. I think it would help more if the woman was really into me.
    LOL I guess back in the day they cared about me.

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    All I know is that I have finally perfected my own private/lap dancing style so that I hardly have to show pussy and/or grind... and the customer still is satisfied. I have learnt a long time ago that guys don't necessarily want explicit and grinding (even tho' alot of dancers think this mistakenly). The way I dance I like to keep close to the customer alot. I will use his sense of sight by being near and far, standing and on the floor, next to him on one side.. and then the other... I use his sense of touch even tho' he isn't allowed to touch me... I will brush my cheek against his cheek, sigh/breathe on his ear, breathe on his neck, massage behind his head, massage or grab his hair, allow my lips to brush against his forehead/cheeks/neck/chest... allow my breast to 'accidentially' brush past his arm... I will also squeeze certain parts of him (a leg, a shoulder, etc) at the right time.... and lastly... and here is the clincher in my opinion... HEAPS of eye contact.

    Eye contact in the seductive sense... not like I'm watching him out of suspicion.. but wanting to watch him watch me.

    I will give explicit dances if that is what the customer desires however my speciality is sensual and erotic

    This is one of the reasons why I find it hard these-days to do a dance for two or more people as I tend to like the intimacy of being one-on-one. I feel I don't do as good a dance if you have to share me. OTOH, I love dancing for couples... as I dance slightly differently for women than I do men.

    Women customers really allow me to be sensual more than sexual if you get my drift. They aren't always there to 'see pussy' whereas men are (generally speaking).



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    I use his sense of touch even tho' he isn't allowed to touch me... I will brush my cheek against his cheek, sigh/breathe on his ear, breathe on his neck, massage behind his head, massage or grab his hair, allow my lips to brush against his forehead/cheeks/neck/chest... ((*clip*)) I will also squeeze certain parts of him (a leg, a shoulder, etc) at the right time.... and lastly... and here is the clincher in my opinion... HEAPS of eye contact.
    Wow, that sounds a lot like me! Though I've also found a lot of guys like it when i toss my hair (almost butt length) over their head and drag it down thier body and/or put my forhead against thier's and push their head back while touching their cheek or neck, a very intimate gf move of sorts. it's kinda funny because a lot of them will close their eyes when i do this so i make a point at breathing in their ear and touching thier face with my hand and such.

    question though, i sometimes do certain facial expressions while looking at my custys during a dance and want to know if this is even desired or looked for in a dancer?

    Those that look at my face seem to love it, while others prefer other parts of my anatomy over the personal i'm-so-into-you-i'm-almost-orgasmic-and-loving-this-dance-i'm-doing-just-for-YOU facial expressions.

    Mind you, i've seen some girls try to pull off a few facial expressions of interest towards a guy and have only seen a fraction of those girls actually succeed in making it work and look belieavable. Judging by my customers reactions to it, i think i'm one of them.

    So who's into the lovely faces of expression?
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    Well for me I love it when a dancer on stage can make her butt cheeks pop up & down. That shit just really turns me on, I guess because I like a nice round butt. I don't see this technique a whole lot in clubs. I guess the dancer has to have good muscle control over her glutes.

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