Do you ladies like it when a customer approaches you first? Or do you prefer to make the first move?
What's a good way to break the ice?
Do you ladies like it when a customer approaches you first? Or do you prefer to make the first move?
What's a good way to break the ice?





I prefer to be approached. It makes me have to be less of a mind reader and more of a dancer
Walk up to the stage while I'm dancing. Tip me. Ask me if I could dance for you when I'm done.
Voila!
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I absolutely agree with Paige! Just don't try to get my attention while I'm in the middle of a lap dance, it's rude to my customer and distracting to me. Stick with the stage approach or I don't even mind if you see me at the bar or walking the room, come up to me and ask if I'm free for a dance.
Is this a trick question?
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Originally Posted by Mia M
No, this is not a trick question.
When I visit SCs I usually wait for a dancer to approach me. Sometimes it takes a while for a dancer to offer a PD, even if I am sitting at the stage. I get tired of waiting.
I am just curious if girls would rather observe the customers first and then make the first move.





I believe you will proubarly get a differant respond from some differant girls. But I peferr the customer to let me know by tiping me on stage.
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I LOVE to be approached! I think I give a better dance if the guy asked me, only because I am so grateful that I didn't have to go through the whole song a dance.
We are there perform a service, use us!
Please don't lick me, it tickles..
Why? Why would you allow them to determine your interest in the type and style of dancer that you like? You are the customer. They are the service providers.When I visit SCs I usually wait for a dancer to approach me.
When you want dances from a chick, here's a little method that has only failed me once in 15 years of SCing:
ASK HER
Dude, they're not looking for a reason to say no; they want your money. Unless you reek of death and have oozing open sores on your face, they're going to service you.I am just curious if girls would rather observe the customers first and then make the first move.
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I prefur to be approached to. On stage with a tip and an enquirey if you want a private show / lad dance afterwards; or if I'm not onstage I like it if people just come up and break the ice by offering to buy me a drink - I like being tipped offstage too, though I have worked in clubs who don't allow it. Aside from that tips are great at any time! (-:
Putting large bills in my g-string is always a good way to approach me![]()





Wow that would be nice and make my night easier if people more frequently approached me. I had a guy tap me on my hand aftre I got turned down from a group of guys one night and he totally made my night.
I would have never have known to approach him b/c he was sitting away from the stage and I hadnt been up yet to go around to collect tips. He also was wasnt there too long before he tapped me.
Best way for me is to sit at my stage and ask for my company or simply smile as your tipping. Or as I come around during my tip walk tell me to come back after Im done.
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What about being approached while you are with another customer? I've done this if the dancer is with the customer for more than three songs without selling a dance... never got a dirty look or an unkind word because of it (at least from the dancer - I couldn't care less what the customer thinks...)





When you see someone you want a dance with, get your ass up and go ask her. It's that simple. We like to be asked for dances because it makes things easier for us and you. You get your dance without waiting forever, and that makes you one less guy we have to weed through.
I can't imagine any stripper wouldn't like to be asked for the dance rather than have to 'cold call'.
At my club we aren't supposed to approach the men sitting at the stage. It's considered rude to the girls doing their stage set. If you sit there I assume you just want upclose titty shaking and crotch shots for $1.Sometimes it takes a while for a dancer to offer a PD, even if I am sitting at the stage. I get tired of waiting.





Sorry that would piss me off. That guy could be a regular who wants to chat before getting his dances.Originally Posted by dlabtot
you live like an ivy vine
you can only survive by clinging onto trees
that's your flaw
put down some roots so you can stand on your own
-Kenpachi
I can see why some guys would wait to be approached for two reasons. 1.) Some girls that have regulars, sponsors or sugardaddies walk around with attitude and even look down on some customers if you don't look like Brad Pitt. (I know money must be that good for them.) 2.) You go with a theory that if they come to me than they really want to do it and not that I kinda put them on the spot. I know just a theory but I think there is some truth to it especially with me.
Also, I normally don't tip on stage and ask for a dance because in the bigger clubs that could be 10 songs later and by then something could walk by that you just have to try.





Works nine times out of ten for me, and the reason that dancers like this is because it saves them the time and effort of hustling.Originally Posted by PaigeDWinter
The only time it doesn't work is usually because the dancer states that she is tied up with another customer, usually a regular. I just tell them where I'm sitting should they get freed up, and find it rather funny how some of them extricate themselves rather quickly.
The bottom line is, if you leave things to chance and let the dancer approach you, you might get her to come over, but why settle for might?
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I've walked-up and asked if she's busy. I've also had girls walk right on by in front of me that I had to reach out and kind lightly tap/gently grab her arm.
Last night, I actually got a new idea. I had a dancer sitting with me, who I had gotten dances from on Sat. night wanting to do VIP again (keep in mind, I enjoyed her dances from the previous night), but I had saw this hot brunette that I definitely wanted to try out. So I told her ok how about we make a deal.![]()
You go find this brunette girl for me and after I get a dance from her on the floor then we'll go upstairs. I saw the brunette walk-by once, but I was just getting settled-in. All I noticed that the brunette had on was a red dress (long or short no idea) and medium length hair. So the Sat. night dancer goes off and comes back with the right girl (I was concerned that she might bring back the wrong one.). So it was a win-win deal for everyone involved. In fact I even bought a dance for my finder from the brunette because she was getting turned on too while watching me getting a dance. When they were doing the dance together half of the room was watching them... LOL.
In fact there was a couple sitting right in front of us and the girl was really getting into the show too.
Last edited by CalifSCVisitor65; 01-02-2006 at 10:16 PM. Reason: typo
Actually, I had NO problem with that at all..if he was trying to take up my valuable time, then I had an excuse to ditch him. Either way, I LOVED to look like I was in-demand. Hells yeah on that one.......Originally Posted by dlabtot
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Originally Posted by Mia M
Originally Posted by dlabtot
I don't mind being approached if I am with another customer as long as it's a polite interuption and the understandings there that I can't just drop everything there and then. Sometimes it's a godsend to have an interuption anyway, lol!
Alternatively you can send a waitress over with a message, or another dancer if they're willing...





Originally Posted by dlabtot
Originally Posted by TigersMilk
Originally Posted by Katrine
Hmm, a controversial move and three different reactions to it.Originally Posted by Lucy Blue
I personally would not approach a dancer sitting with another customer. They sell "dancer drinks" here where the customer can pay an amount from $10-100 to have exclusive use of the dancer's time (the more he pays, the longer she stays), so as far as I'm concerned that would be no different than interrupting a lap dance. While I have to admire dlabtot's forwardness, he's probably in the minority.
I won't approach the lazy dancer's table either. Girls spending an inordinate amount of time there or in the dressing room deserve to go home with Wal-Mart-esque earnings.
We can approach you when you're available, but we didn't pay a cover charge so we could do all the work, so its up to you to make yourself available. Sitting with a customer for long periods of time sends the opposite impression. Inability to break dancers away from regulars is a common complaint I see on many SCL and TUSCL comments boards. If you look unavailable for too long, there's a good chance that money which could have been yours will end up in another dancer's garter. Again, don't leave things to chance.
Former SCJ now in rehab.
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