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    Excusing yourself after a "no dance, thank you!"

    What are some good ways to excuse yourself after you have discovered that a potential customer is not going to spend money on you? Especially if the conversation is good? I am all about good conversation, but not while I am at work, unless I know it will lead to good $$$!

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    "Excuse me I have to run to the dressing room, I will try and check back with you later in the night"

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    Default Re: Excusing yourself after a "no dance, thank you!"

    you could also say, "it's been great talking to you, but my regular customer just came in, and he hates it when i make him wait" if there's someone else you want to talk to. the one who isn't spending isn't likely to overhear your conversation with your new fellow, plus it gives the hint that there is competition and demand for your attention. competition that is measured with $$. works in some situations.

    if you have the feeling he isn't going to spend at all, simply saying, "thanks for your time, but a girl's gotta get back to work" will suffice. technically, you don't owe anyone an explanation for your time.

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    Tampa, after you discover that he isn't going to spend any money on you just smile and say, "well it was great talking to you but I really have to go and make some money! I'll check back up on you if I don't get to busy"

    If a customer doesn't think that you are in demand then yea they will try to milk your time dry. Time is MONEY honey...spend it wisely.







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    Oh, and I just remembered. Even if he is not trying to buy any dances off of you...ask him if he would not mind buying you a "ladies drink". At least you can make some money off of him in some way. If he does not even want to do that, then he's a cheap ass who isn't worth your time no matter HOW COOL THE CONVO WAS!







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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses
    Time is MONEY honey...spend it wisely.
    So true, you should tell hime time is money and you have to go.

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    One of my favorites so far has been:

    "Thanks for wasting my time."


    Or, was that my ex-wife? Oh well, doesn't matter.
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    "k bye" ... I could really care less if he thinks im rude for getting up and leaving.. he didnt want to give me money so what do i care? Ive been told he doesnt want a dance...

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    "Alright, well, I have to get back to work now. Let me know if you'd like a dance later." Maybe an air kiss or a wink and then SEE YA!

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    Default Re: Excusing yourself after a "no dance, thank you!"

    Quote Originally Posted by greggy
    "Alright, well, I have to get back to work now. Let me know if you'd like a dance later." Maybe an air kiss or a wink and then SEE YA!
    YEP, and nothing more

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    "Thanks for your time. I really have to get back to work. When you ARE ready for a dance, jsut let me know, and I will give you the best one you ever had!"

    Then every time I catch their eye, I smile or wink at them, flirt a little across the room, etc. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. But it doesn't cost anything, so what the hell.


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    "Oh, well I have a feller over there who's waiting to give me a dance." It's usually true, and gives them the 'clue phone' !
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    Default Re: Excusing yourself after a "no dance, thank you!"

    Look at him straight in the eye, smile, and say Thank you, sir, have a nice evening,
    then turn around gracefully and walk off.

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    Default Re: Excusing yourself after a "no dance, thank you!"

    "ok, have a nice night" and prance off.

    If they say "maybe later," I say "ok, well if I get a chance, I'll check back on you in a while. <wink>"
    We're there to make money, and they should understand that. If they dont, oh well, their problem.

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    Quote Originally Posted by tampastrip
    What are some good ways to excuse yourself after you have discovered that a potential customer is not going to spend money on you? Especially if the conversation is good? I am all about good conversation, but not while I am at work, unless I know it will lead to good $$$!
    I want you to know, I actually thought about this when I was at a club a short while ago. Not because of this post, but just because I have been keeping an accounting of what's going on in my mind for some projects I am working on.

    I was looking for the best way to form my thoughts on this, so here goes, and I am NOT trying to be harsh.

    Save the oddity, most customers have something to spend. If you discover he's not going to spend on you....realize that...he's not going to spend ON YOU.

    so who gives a shit how ya leave him? Don't be rude obviously, but when I go to a restaurant and only order a soda. (I.E. Tipping at the rail) I don't expect a free salad (conversation/time spent) because I'm not buying the meal. (Lap Dance/VIP/ Whatevah!)

    Hope this helps.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cinammonkisses
    Tampa, after you discover that he isn't going to spend any money on you just smile and say, "well it was great talking to you but I really have to go and make some money! I'll check back up on you if I don't get to busy"

    If a customer doesn't think that you are in demand then yea they will try to milk your time dry. Time is MONEY honey...spend it wisely.
    Bump!

    So true! Just say it.

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    Default Re: Excusing yourself after a "no dance, thank you!"

    depends on my mood, sometimes i'll stare blankly at them and walk away or i'll smile and tell them i'll come back.

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    A few times one of those customers we're talking about will say he isn't interested in dances - I'll politely finish up our conversation, tell him that I really enjoy talking with him and wish I could just sit with him all night, BUT (if it's busy), I'll say something about how I just better get back out there and get to work. If it's slow I'll excuse myself to the dressing room or I've done stuff like say, "hey you think (I'll point out a table) that guy will buy a dance?" Usually the customer likes that game. I make it seem like I'd rather just talk with him, but unfortunately I've got to be a little hustler. I'll also say that I'll come by later and say hi.
    What has happened quite a number of times though is I'll go out, get super busy taking guys back for dances, the original customer will have a few more drinks, realize he was having a much better time with me and sometime later in the night he will pull me over and either go for some dances or pay me for my company.
    I just try to always be polite, because it's happened to me too many times where I've given dances to a guy who came into the club not planning to buy any.

    Customers do change their minds sometimes. We all do. That's the persuasive aspect of selling. I love selling. I honestly enjoy it and the stripclub is like the ideal playground for that - the alchohol, the music, the sex, the psychology - it's perfect.

    Okay, I've been on maternity leave too long and I miss work. I know, I know, I've forgotten about all of the bullshit customers.

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    Default Re: Excusing yourself after a "no dance, thank you!"

    You bring up a good point Holiday... although a customer isn't spending at the time you ask him for a dance, maybe not even that night at the club, that's not to say he won't buy dances from you at a later point, whether it's that night or a week later..

    Politeness is usually my policy.

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    Perhapps what you need here is something to make the guy remember you, right? Tell a cute joke, weave it in with you departing remark, get a laugh,a chuckle, and it leave an imprint on his mind. This has always worked for me.

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    Exactly! And then don't forget about him. When I have a situation like that going on, I just make sure to wink at him every time I pass by, or give a little wave as I take a different guy to VIP. It seriously takes no effort to still be fun and flirty - and can result in money later on. Other guys pick up on the good attitude also.

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    What's wrong, "Okay, let me know if you change your mind"?

    Customers aren't (universally) idiots. We realize dancers work for a living and that anyone who isn't paying for a dancer's time doesn't get any of it. No dire need to pretend that you just have to go somewhere else and you wish you could stay. Say goodbye politely and go.

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    This is where I usually say, hey baby, I gotta go work, but I will be back later. I always go back, whether its before stage, after stage or when another customer leave. When they say no thank you, it doesnt always mean no. Almost every no can be turned into a yes with the right approach. Sometimes sacrificing yourself for another dancer by saying "well I have to go work, Is there another girl in here you are more interested in talking to." This is usually a great way to sell a dance. By the end of the night they usually get one if not for themselves, for one of their friends.

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