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    This has happened a couple times to me. I went to a strip club with a buddy last night and there were about 40-50 people and about 18 girls.
    the only time I was approached was during a $1 set but my buddy on the other hand who was across the table was getting approach repeatedly and I was not even acknowledge. so whats the deal? I'm not ugly or anything I do not think but I starting to think that I am b/c of this. maybe I'm giving off some sort of vibe ( I am shy though). I'm really at loss.

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    Are you making eye contact with any of the girls and smiling???

    I'm guessing this might be the problem if you said you're shy. As a dancer, I'm much more likely to approach a guy who's made good eye contact (more than a glance) and gives me a smile.

    Someone who avoids my eyes tells me they're not wanting to be approached and I just move on to someone else.

    Just a thought

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    Were you spending any money? Do you have a history at this club? Those things do tend to help matters.

    It should also be pointed out that 40-50 custies per 18 dancers is a pretty dancer friendly C/D ratio, so if all 18 girls are occupied in some respect, well...you do the math.


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    Why, why, why don't customers approach dancers instead of pouting and waiting for them eyes cast down like they're at a junior high dance?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer
    Why, why, why don't customers approach dancers instead of pouting and waiting for them eyes cast down like they're at a junior high dance?


    That is the mystery of the stripping world....



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    Don't sit "at the rail" (right at the stage) but try waliking up to the stage and tipping the dancer doing her stage set. Don't make a big production out of it; just do it like it is part of your normal SC routine(which it perhaps should be). Do this for a few different dancers at least, even if you don't wish to tip every dancer (or can't afford it). This will usually cause dancers to approach you, especially those you tipped but others also.

    (LP's suggestion of making eye contact is better than mine, but if you are really shy, mine might be easier.)

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    Quote Originally Posted by fearless
    I'm not ugly or anything I do not think but I starting to think that I am b/c of this. maybe I'm giving off some sort of vibe ( I am shy though). I'm really at loss.
    Ugly has nothing to do with it. I'm a middle aged troll and I get more attention than I want most of the time. You may well be giving off a "don't even come near me" vibe. You've gotten some good advice here. If you've got your eye on a dancer there is absolutely no reason to keep it a secret from her. If you wait too long she'll find another customer who could tie her up for hours. This is not real life, this is a strip club. Go ahead, ask her....
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    Quote Originally Posted by fearless
    This has happened a couple times to me. I went to a strip club with a buddy last night and there were about 40-50 people and about 18 girls.
    the only time I was approached was during a $1 set but my buddy on the other hand who was across the table was getting approach repeatedly.
    Don't worry about it. It happens to me too. When my buddy and I go together, he always gets approached and I get skipped over. A girl will walk right in front of me and pass me up to approach my friend. I've even gone alone and had to do the approaching.

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    As a woman custy, I stopped being shy a LONG time ago, and now I will not hesitate to approach a dancer that I'm interested in. I did just that again today.....I was at a club for lunch, and was chatting with some dancers when I spotted a dancer that I had seen before, but who had never approached me. Well, I wasn't gonna let her get away from me again! After stalking her for a while (in stealth ninja mode),I finally got a hold of her and politely asked her to dance for me. She happily agreed, and after our dances she proceeded to sit with me chit-chatting for a couple of hours! You never know how these things can pay off!
    And as an extra bonus, I sometimes meet up with potential new dance partners in the ladies room. I'll take any advantage that I can find in approaching dancers!

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    As a dancer I see this all the time... another problem is -

    If a dancer sits with your friend and youre talking with her and him then theres no chance for another dancer to sit with you.... I think its rude to approach a table of 2 when both guys are chatting with a girl.

    Eye contact and a smile are a BIG DEAL and you can always approach the girl - WE LOVE IT!

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    Quote Originally Posted by fearless
    This has happened a couple times to me. I went to a strip club with a buddy last night and there were about 40-50 people and about 18 girls.
    the only time I was approached was during a $1 set but my buddy on the other hand who was across the table was getting approach repeatedly and I was not even acknowledge. so whats the deal? I'm not ugly or anything I do not think but I starting to think that I am b/c of this. maybe I'm giving off some sort of vibe ( I am shy though). I'm really at loss.
    I will just sum up what most people will say:

    You're the man so it's your fault.

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    Well, this makes about as much sense as any of the preceding.

    Maybe you need to change you after shave cologne.

    Take breath mints.

    Wear deodorant.

    A sure fire way to gain attention in lieu of all this is flash hundred dollar bills.

    That may work.

    Have fun.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer
    Why, why, why don't customers approach dancers instead of pouting and waiting for them eyes cast down like they're at a junior high dance?

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    Probably, like what most of the girls said, you are just giving off a bad vibe like you are uncomfortable in your surroundings and you are too uncomfortable for a girl to approach you. Just have fun, smile, and look approachable...not scared lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Casual Observer
    Why, why, why don't customers approach dancers instead of pouting and waiting for them eyes cast down like they're at a junior high dance?

    I bet you think you're king shit of turd hill for stating the overly obvious truth.

    Well Mast has come to answer your question.

    The answer is found in your question.

    eyes cast down like they're at a junior high dance?
    Some of us didn't get asked to the dance at junior high. Some of us weren't wanted to go to our proms, some of us were so used to rejection wether it be at home from our parents, our mirrors, our jobs, to the girl that we have had our eyes on for months who's fawning over the football quarterback that sometimes we want to NOT be rejected, and we're willing to pay for it.

    I'm not saying we're all pathetic losers <just me >, but for some of us, going to the club and getting ignored there is only showing us that we can't even PAY to get out of the hopless rejection we deal with on a daily basis.

    You're a good looking dude, bro. I know I am not bad looking anymore, but I will never forget what made me walk into my first strip club. It wasn't my desire to see a woman naked, it was my simple desire to see a woman show interest in ME for once.

    Mast!

    P.S. This isn't necessarily right. But it's the truth. You don't have to approach these guys, but sometimes it IS what they are looking for.
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    Awww Mast - you just brought tears to my eyes.

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    Here's a 20.



    That wasn't the intent, but it was true in my case. I may look O.K. now, but you know, If I wanted to approach girls back then, I never would have gone to the club. I sucked at it. I wanted to be the Adonis that all the women were going for. And I'd pay for it.

    Now a days, my confidence is key and I really just don't give a rat's ass to rejection. It doesn't mean I no longer deal with it, but hey, I just tell myself that I never get rejected, I just run into girls with bad taste. J/K. Either way, not EVERYONE has discovered the confidence to defeat rejection. I hope they do, and remember, if you boost his confidence, it'll be the best spent 20.00 he ever handed over.

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    Be rich as hell. And show it. Money makes up for lack of confidence.

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    Well based on what I've read in some previous posts, a lot of girls won't approach guys in dirty clothes, loose fitting sweatpants or shorts (with no underwear), Guys with bad body odor, East Indians, Black guys with the "Thug Look", young guys, or Mexicans.

    Do you fit into any of these categories?

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    Quote Originally Posted by girlnew156
    Be rich as hell. And show it. Money makes up for lack of confidence.

    LOL.

    Take it from, well, yea.

    No it doesn't.

    Anyone in the position of which I described is still figuring that out. No amount of money makes a woman come to them. Especially not the ones worth while.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
    LOL.

    Take it from, well, yea.

    No it doesn't.

    Anyone in the position of which I described is still figuring that out. No amount of money makes a woman come to them. Especially not the ones worth while.

    Mast!
    Well, it sounds like you are now talking about IRL rather ITC....

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    Quote Originally Posted by dlabtot
    Well, it sounds like you are now talking about IRL rather ITC....
    Not at all bro. Remember the context of the thread. Which I augmented to relate my own personal experience.

    The point is, that girlnew was stating the customer should bring SOMETHING to the club that would make her want to approach him. Though she is right, dancers are looking for money and flashing the possession of expendable income would help make the desire to approach easier, I feel that the thought process is flawed and too similar to women's view of approachable males IRL. <If she even has to approach any of them >

    All I am saying is that if you're a dancer, and you're doing your job, and you want to make money, then if you aren't busy or playing your megatouch game, and there is a new custie who just came in that isn't repulsive, you should be approaching. Its nice when you don't have to yes, but the customer is coming to escape real life, and that real life may mean they don't know the feeling of being wanted.

    Babblebabblebabble.

    In short tot, you're absolutly right, I guess my real point is that when you can't even PAY to escape this reality in a stripclub in this aspect then you need to find a new club.

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    well, sure, the club is a place where guys will be approached by beautiful women who wouldnt do so anywhere else... but it is also a place where guys can approach without the rejection rate they are used to, so I say to any guy who is complaining about being left alone: just take a little initiative.

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    That, I agree with. I hope I didn't make it sound like thats not how it shouldn't happen. Different folks different strokes.

    The difference between the dancer and the custy is simply: one is working, one is relaxing due to the worker's work.

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    A very wealthy man once came into a club I was working at.

    Oh, yeah, he had money, but was replusive as hell.

    So some of the gals finally went up there, and he did not want them.
    He pointed out who he wanted. One of them, me.
    What he wanted he got.

    Yeah, made real good money, but being around him made me feel
    so degraded. I should have gotten thicker skinned, but there are
    some people that I really rather not be around.

    And as to the OP's comment about bad vibes, yeah, this may be.

    But really, my feelings are that the OP needs to go cry in his beer, drink
    or something. May be go out in the parking lot and kick a concrete block.

    Turn loose the frustration. Don't bring it in the club. Thanks.

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