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    I keep getting this client who keeps coming in and getting 3 songs from me and leaving. He comes in every week and has the same routine...never tries to have too much conversation or extend. Just 3 songs and he leaves. WTF? I have a huge crush on him because he is so good looking, successful and smart. Honestly, he's everything I aspire to be one day. I'm so fustrated and have to rant because he's the best looking guy I've ever seen in my life, in or out of the club. He doesn't talk much so I don't talk much either. There is just this routine that we go through. It's not the girl's place to make a move so I don't and I never will but I want him to want more. Damn it. There are other guys who have the hots for me but I want it to be him! I've even tried phermones and everything LOL. I know there are no tricks but if any of you have any ideas of how to spark something in him I'd love to know.

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    ummmm, he already wants you, thats why he comes in to see you get naked and dance for/on him. read all the threads in here about chicks bitching about guys asking them out constantly... now stop wondering why he wont and realize that his showing up repeatedly is most likely his way of tellin ya he wants more. just ask him already. or if your'e too much of a pussy, atleast ask him if he'd ever considder dating a dancer. if he says yah, then slide in, "what about me?" he should be able to take it from there

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    *sigh* I wish he really did like me more. He leaves so abruptly after his routine that there is no chance to talk. Not once has he ever tried to stay longer or give any indication of wanting anything more out of the club. I'm thinking he just wants to see a naked chick and he's attracted to me in a sexual way and that's it. When he leaves so quickly, I'm almost wondering if he's disgusted with himself for being in that environment but can't help coming back again.

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    Welcome to the fantasy!

    I've looked up a customer in the phone book. We went on a date. I was disillusioned by the real him. On top of that, he never came in again. I lost $x/week.

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    I'd say something to him like what sander8son said...even if nothing does happen it's a lot better than always wondering what if.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sander8son
    ummmm, he already wants you, thats why he comes in to see you get naked and dance for/on him. read all the threads in here about chicks bitching about guys asking them out constantly... now stop wondering why he wont and realize that his showing up repeatedly is most likely his way of tellin ya he wants more. just ask him already. or if your'e too much of a pussy, atleast ask him if he'd ever considder dating a dancer. if he says yah, then slide in, "what about me?" he should be able to take it from there
    great advice!

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    I personally wouldnt risk losing the money. I have a customer whos totally cute, young, successful and sweet. He comes in a couple times a week and spends between $300-400 each time... hes there about an hour. We chat and I know he likes me but would never risk losing money for something that may not be. Altho Id be losing big money... I dont know what 3 dances runs for where youre at so it may be a alright risk to take...

    If you do go for it - I like sander8sons advice.

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    he my just be kinda shy. My husband didn't really talk to me the first month we dated! lol he's just not a talkative person with people he doesn't know.

    you never know until you try!

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    It's weird to have the tables turned, isn't it? Something sort of like this happened to me recently. I worked Christmas Eve, and it was so slow towards the end of the shift, I ended up sitting and talking almost forty minutes with a very interesting guy who had just moved to town, didn't know anyone, and was alone for the holidays. He was attractive but also well-read, a surfer, training to be a firefighter, and had all sorts of other neat traits. He did buy one dance from me, but I felt like our connection was more friendly than sexual. I have a boyfriend whom I adore, so I could never be more than friends anyway, but I liked him so much that I gave him my e-mail and told him to get in touch if he ever wanted to hang out.

    Long story short, he never did get in touch, so I guess to him I was just a stripper. Maybe guys like this don't get attached to us the way the PLs do. Oh, the irony! I'm torn between being bummed and being amused. So this is how customers feel!

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    Quote Originally Posted by angelina
    *sigh* I wish he really did like me more. He leaves so abruptly after his routine that there is no chance to talk. Not once has he ever tried to stay longer or give any indication of wanting anything more out of the club. I'm thinking he just wants to see a naked chick and he's attracted to me in a sexual way and that's it. When he leaves so quickly, I'm almost wondering if he's disgusted with himself for being in that environment but can't help coming back again.
    He already likes you more than you realize...he comes in for you and then leaves.
    A couple of risks here-you could do as suggested above and ask him out and he never come in again-or you guys go out and it ends there or it turns out to be something wonderful.
    you'll never know till you try and it seems you want to so go for it IMO.

    I ended up dating a guy like this one time and he was really shy and obsessed with me it seemed. he'd come in and spend a lot of time there but only buy dances from me.
    It turned out to be a good relationship for a while but eventually ended as I think all relationships do.

    Good luck.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo

    Long story short, he never did get in touch, so I guess to him I was just a stripper. Maybe guys like this don't get attached to us the way the PLs do. Oh, the irony!
    I wouldn't be so quick to think that. He may well have been intimidated by the fact that as a beautiful, intelligent dancer you meet so many men, many who, in his mind, must be smarter, hotter, wealthier, than him, and he might be worried that he would never make the grade in the longterm. I suggest this because there was once a dancer whom I adored, and I mean, absolutely adored. We were relatively close in age, had simillar interests etc. Through mutual friends I learned that she had a crush on me and I just couldn't bring myself to act on it. I was totally certain that she would invariably meet someone so much more interesting that it wasn't worth opening the door to such probable heartache. I still wonder if I made the right decision. This girl was brilliant, gorgeous and as close to perfection as I have ever met.

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    I was totally certain that she would invariably meet someone so much more interesting that it wasn't worth opening the door to such probable heartache. I still wonder if I made the right decision.

    Arghhh! Of course you didn't! Like we all tell our boyfriends, the odds of us meeting the perfect guy are way higher outside the club than it it! Anyhow, I'm not single, so I never could or would have dated this fellow, and I made it clear to him that I was just interested in friendship. In a way it's more of an ego blow to be rejected as a friend than as a sex partner. I think the stripper stigma was just too much for him. He probably thought I was some drug addict who'd end up sleeping on his couch for the next four years. Oh well.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo
    Long story short, he never did get in touch, so I guess to him I was just a stripper. Maybe guys like this don't get attached to us the way the PLs do. Oh, the irony! I'm torn between being bummed and being amused. So this is how customers feel!
    You can't know that you were 'just a stripper' to him, especially if you really madeit clear that you wanted only friendship from him... he could very well have wanted more than friendship... perhaps he just didn't want a broken heart....

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    I do a lot of stupid things so my advice might be useless.

    I have a crush on yet another customer. When I dance for him, I enjoy the moment. This way, I get paid and get my jollies. I know gosh darn well that he is not as sexy OTC as he is ITC. I get jealous when he gets dances from other women. *humph*

    All I can say is to enjoy the fantasy while it lasts. If you ask him out, you might ruin it all for nothing. (And lose money.)

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    this is like that t-pain song, but in reverse.

    even if I was under the impression that I had some sort of connection with a stripper, I would never think of doing anything about it.

    The thought of getting rejected would mean I could never get a dance off her again without feeling weird. So better to just keep doing it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo View Post
    Long story short, he never did get in touch, so I guess to him I was just a stripper. Maybe guys like this don't get attached to us the way the PLs do. Oh, the irony! I'm torn between being bummed and being amused. So this is how customers feel!
    I know it is kind of weird - I once asked out a customer who said no. I was definitely more bemused than bummed, though - kind of like "This is not how this is supposed to work"; but I was really okay with it - I mean, we're SUPPOSED to be "just a stripper" - I mean there are a whack of customers that I like and enjoy, but don't want to see other than as customers. It doesn't mean that I don't respect them or think well of them, it's just the kind of relationship I like with them. So, it would be pretty off if I couldn't accept the same opinion of my company. Plus - a little humility is good for us.

    But, you can ask - he might say no. He might be married, have a girlfriend, a boyfriend or might just enjoy your company on the footing it is now. But you won't stop breathing, I promise. Rejection is like falling off a bike. It's easy. Guys just make a big deal out of it so that we'll feel sorry for them for being pussies.
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    He's probably married. If he comes in, gets his three dances, and leaves in a hurry, it's most likely because he has someone to go home to. Don't shit where you eat! It's not worth fucking up your money.

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    Not all men that come to SC's want anything more than a dance. It sounds like that's all he wants. He is just a regular and he prob is married or has a SO.

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    Are you sure his single?
    If so, I dont know - do something, lol!

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    I had exactly the same thing happen - and yes he was married, which was why he was stand-offish - and it all ended with me losing out on very reliable income each week

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    Well, he is obviously attracted to you. But, that doesn't mean he wants to date you. I know a bunch of guys who love going to strip clubs, getting lap dances and bla bla, but they say they would never date a stripper. Honestly, you should try talking to him before he even gets a lap dance. Tell him that you like him and that you would love to have a cup of coffee with him some day. Worst case scenario: He feels weird and doesn't come back anymore. So what? At least you'll know where you're truly standing and 3 dances a week won't hurt your money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dlabtot View Post
    You can't know that you were 'just a stripper' to him, especially if you really madeit clear that you wanted only friendship from him... he could very well have wanted more than friendship... perhaps he just didn't want a broken heart....
    I think what she was getting at is there are customers that look at strippers as professional service providers, and not nessessarily equeals in the social realm.

    There are people who could never date a stripper and still maintain their social status or respect in the business community. When networking and social status mean everything to a person's life, then the idea of dating a stripper (or Denny's waitress or welfare recipient or janitor/maid or gas station attendent etc. etc.), is just not something many people can entertain. Anna Nicole hooked up with a man that didn't rely on the opinions of others for his social position or income, so he was free to marry anyone he wanted to. That is a very rare exception, though.

    Angelina, next time your customer comes in, just give him your phone number and say something like "If you ever want to hang out or something, call me. Only social though, not professional." Short, sweet and to the point. He'll either call or not, and at the very least he'll be flattered and continue to be your customer and spend time (and $$) with you in the club.


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    Idk, I have a total double standard about this. But I'm upfront and honest bout it, so hey. The idea of someone buying dances is such a turn off. Like, I do consider myself a type of sex worker, and I'm okay with that. But I could never date someone who was a consumer of such a personal type of sex product as a dance. It's just a line I'm not ok with crossing. The only acceptable reason for someone I'm dating to be in a club is if we were together or if it was a very good friends party, and I jknew about the club (ie not extras friendly). But I guy who is a regular? no fucking way.

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    He has to be married. Don't get involved. Keep taking his money.

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    Quote Originally Posted by angelina View Post
    *sigh* I wish he really did like me more. He leaves so abruptly after his routine that there is no chance to talk. Not once has he ever tried to stay longer or give any indication of wanting anything more out of the club. I'm thinking he just wants to see a naked chick and he's attracted to me in a sexual way and that's it. When he leaves so quickly, I'm almost wondering if he's disgusted with himself for being in that environment but can't help coming back again.
    Yeah, I'm thinking the same thing. And the only reason you have a crush on him is because he's a complete mystery--a blank slate, so you can project anything you want onto him. Also, it's a change of pace from the overly-enthusiastic guys you spend so much time with: Any attractive guy who plays "hard-to-get" in a strip club is gonna be more intriguing than yet another guy who begs and whines for an OTC date, right?

    I'm guessing he's a) married & faithful (have you checked for a ring?), b) weirdly conflicted about sex and women in some way, or c) smart enough and experienced enough to know that the fantasy is better than the reality.

    It's completely in the realm of fantasy right now. Like the others have wisely advised: Keep it there.
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