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    This really doesn't have anything to do with stripping, but i wanted to see what you all thought of this.

    My best friend of four years is in school to ger her medical assistant degree. She drives all the way from daytona to altomond (about 40 min) because her living situation fell apart there.. so when she moved back to daytona she started dancing with me she was quite good at it (the hustling part not dancing in it self) and made decent money for daytona.
    She was living with her mother at the time, who decided to kick her out because she was a slut because she started seeing one of her moms ex's(cant blame the woman for being pissed.) Yet this girl saw nothing wrong with is and was like why should she care?
    I told her she could stay with me for 25 dollars a week
    which honestly isnt even enough to pay the difference in the bills for her being here
    Mind you before I go on she has to sons 2 and 3 years old who are living with their father untill she is finished with school.
    well any how the first week or so she was here she helped me out around the house with dishes and such went to work on friday and saterday and everything was fine.. than she went to work at another club a few min from mine were i was nice enough to pick her up after i got off work every night i would have to wait at lease 10-15 min. i did this because she claimed she couldnt dance sober bull shit if you ask me.
    well when working at this club she met a guy who was willing to pay her on the weekends to not dance and go out... in all honesty hes a really cool guy i would have done the same thing if single. I told her to charge him at least 300 a night for that she ended up taking 300 for the weekend and a tank of gas. once again idiot. i figured this was a one time thing but no she never went back to work after that and lived off the little bit that he gave her
    She would sleep on my couch till atleast 12 every day which drove me up the wall and refused to get a job. Shes living off this guy and I mean BARELY living off of him for free. So needless to say I kicked her out she has been gone about a week but her clothes and stuff are still here.. I left the house the other day for a few hours with my kids and come home to find her on my couch covered up with a blanket with the remote in her hand WTF!!! SHE DIDNT SEEM TO THINK THERE WAS ANYTHING WRONG WITH THIS.Shes now staying with the guy from work who is a drug dealer and has stuff comming into the house by the suit case and surprise surprise doesnt feel comfortable there. so she comes over here when im not home?? I gave her the option to stay here but told her she had to work If i am going to work and my boyfriend is going to work she needs to especially concidering i have to move the end of the month which she seemed to not give a shit to contributing to that situation because "its not her fault" well shit its not mine either anyways the way i look at it if i didnt have my kids for a few monthes i would be saving what i could and working as much as i can so i could avoid this situation again. Now i see why every living situation she has falls apart sorry if this doesnt make since Im just curious what ya'lls take on this is. I dont see why she cant work there are mothers out there with 5 kids single who work go to school and take care of their kids and dont live off any one why cant she!!!

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    I know people like this, actually had to live with a few as well. Change the lockswould be my first thing. Well, at least you are moving, don't bring her with you.
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    She's a sponge; kick her the Hell out of your life. You can't fix her. Don't be her co-dependent. She needs to hit bottom if she refuses to fend for herself. Her next victim will have to figure this out all over again.

    If she goes back to live with the dealer, to me it means she's on drugs and will soon be busted. I've know several of this type over the years. If you want to keep sane, have NOTHING to do with any of them. They're not friends, you know.
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    She's not a best friend she's a leach ! Get her out and as said you may have to change the locks - she is hanging around with the really bad crowd as well and I get the feeling she may screw them over as well and then guess where they are going to show up to collect - be careful .

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    Extacy, if this is who I think it is, she is the same girl that I nearly got into a fight with those punks over, because they were molesting her (putting it mildly) and blocking the way to the DJ booth. They were part of the group that those two that shot the DJ hung with. One of them was the guy I almost killed with a barstool the night after the DJ was shot.

    She was so drunk she hadn't a clue what was going on, in spite of the fact that she had two of them on her like leeches.

    She can be a nice girl, but she is out of control--and you don't need that kind of burden. Life in this town is rough enough...

    Get her out, change the locks, and be tough with her--that's my advice.

    Don't even get me started about what I went through with Summer (who is calling me 19 times a day trying to get back in here, lol).
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    That is no best friend. Thats the dude on the couch. Take away her key, tell her she needs to get her stuff out or you will leave anything you feel like giving back to her on your doorstep. She is abusing the "friendship" and just flat ataking advantage of you because your letting her. Trust me, I've known plenty of friends like that.
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    Yes Djoser same girl! My your smart the same girl who cost me probably 2000 or more during bike week concidering i made 500 dollars or less a night with her in there because i was to busy babysitting her dumb drunk ass

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    Extacyindaytona:

    You call this person a friend but you say nothing but friendship compromising comments to her. Do not let loyalties from 4 years ago eat at you today. I know this personally. It sounds like you're looking to distance yourself from her but your loyalty and general care is making you concider bearing the burden longer.

    Don't

    Your friend will sooner respect you for kicking her out on her ass for abusing your trust <not immidiatly, but in time> than would she find this respect for you enabling her situation. I'm sure she probably doesn't realize what she's doing, but sooner or later you will come to hate this woman if you let this continue. If you don't already.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
    Extacyindaytona:

    You call this person a friend but you say nothing but friendship compromising comments to her. Do not let loyalties from 4 years ago eat at you today. I know this personally. It sounds like you're looking to distance yourself from her but your loyalty and general care is making you concider bearing the burden longer.

    Don't

    Your friend will sooner respect you for kicking her out on her ass for abusing your trust <not immidiatly, but in time> than would she find this respect for you enabling her situation. I'm sure she probably doesn't realize what she's doing, but sooner or later you will come to hate this woman if you let this continue. If you don't already.

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    you know you are exactly right that is the only reason i put up with her shit from the begining i guess i just never realized why
    thanks

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