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    Okay. I am not dancing right now, I stopped when I started dating my current boyfriend because I didn't know how he would handle it. We've talked about me dancing and he said that he would be okay with it, now i'm just working on losing the weight I gained during the holidays, I can not believe how much I gained!! So, I'll be going back to dancing in about a month, hopefully, unless I become crippled.

    Anyways, I don't even know how the subject came up about strippers when I was at my boyfriend's sister's house, but it did. She was talking down on strippers so bad, and my boyfriend knows that I use to do it in the past, and planned on going back, he didn't say anything. i was defending the stripping industry saying stuff like there are only a few girls that do extras that ruin the rep of the rest of the girls and what not and she was just talking about how its morally wrong and stuff. I didn't tell her that i use to be one, but I told her that I have thought about doing it and she was just like well, I think that's a stupid. Still, my boyfriend says nothing as she's going off on how wrong it is.

    I wanted to slap her, but kept my cool because my boyfriend and his sister are close, but i don't see why he didn't say anything, the only comment he made about the situation pissed me off, he said 'haha, yeah, my friends only fuck strippers, not date them" I confronted him about it later and he appologized.

    I guess it made me mad the most because she was talking about how morally wrong it was, she goes out EVERY weekend and gets wasted, leaving her son wherever she can leave him, and even during the week, she gets wasted right in front of him, some times she drinks for 3 days straight, even during the week, no sleep, just drinks. So apparently its morally wrong for me to want to make money so my son can have nice things, but its not morally wrong for her to spend her son's disability money on booze!! She has no right to judge anybody!

    Anyways, not really looking for advice, just had to get that off my chest!

    Thanks for your time reading my rant!!

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    hmmm...my advice would just be to let this rest unless your bf's sister starts attacking you on a regular basis. by all means, then defend yourself. however, it might cause conflict between you and your bf...is it really worth it? your dancing is none of her business, and what she doesn't know won't hurt her. is it really important to defend the dancing industry to someone who doesn't know anything about it? argue with a stranger, sure...but think about long-term consequences. sometimes it's best for people to be left in the dark if they're set in their ways (i went through this with my family...my parents know nothing about my former dancing career....but my siblings do).

    in short, pick your battles. her negative views of dancing are of no consequence to you right now (unless i misinterpreted your situation).

    as for why your bf was quiet...he was put in the middle of a discussion....kind of being asked to side with either you or your sister, an uncomfortable situation. maybe he didn't want to hurt either with you.

    good luck, and be wary of creating tension where it needn't exist

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    Shit! If I were your bf, I'd keep my mouth shut, too!

    People say stupid things... and stereotype us allllll the time... But, pick your battles! In the long run, you'll be better off dropping it... You won't be a stripper forever... But you dont' know how long you'll be involved with his family... Just recognize her hypocracy... but dont' throw it in her face.. it's not like she' gonna be like, "Oh, yea... I never saw it that way. You're totally right! I'm sorry."
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    I'm sorry, but I would have reamed out the boyfriend! Screw the sister, ignorance is bliss to some people, but your boyfriend knows better!
    I have been in that situation MANY timesand my boyfriend has defended DANCERS, he knows there's a difference between a stripper and a dancer to me and says that we prefer to be called dancers.
    Wow, I am sorry but this just made me mad! Some bf/gf's are so insenstive sometimes!
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    Quote Originally Posted by gypsy_girlchild
    I'm sorry, but I would have reamed out the boyfriend! Screw the sister, ignorance is bliss to some people, but your boyfriend knows better!
    See and that is exactly how I felt. Shit, he knows better, and he TOTALLY played you by making that comment: "haha, yeah, my friends only fuck strippers, not date them"

    Shoot, if I was you, I would've brought up everything you just wrote to us about how she leaves her son on people, and drinks up HIS money!







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    ^^^^^^^^ Oh yea, and you should've asked him right then and there after this "comment", "well honey what would you do if I were going to be a dancer?"

    THERE YA GO!







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    ^^^^ Exactly, Super Grrrrrrr.... Wow, would I have been insulted! I guess I am just lucky that my guy truly respects (not always likes) my job. He made get a little uncomfortable when he thinks about guys touching me, but he would never insult me like that.. wow wow wow. What some people have to deal with!
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    Quote Originally Posted by LusciousLyzz
    Okay. I am not dancing right now, I stopped when I started dating my current boyfriend because I didn't know how he would handle it. We've talked about me dancing and he said that he would be okay with it, now i'm just working on losing the weight I gained during the holidays, I can not believe how much I gained!! So, I'll be going back to dancing in about a month, hopefully, unless I become crippled.

    Anyways, I don't even know how the subject came up about strippers when I was at my boyfriend's sister's house, but it did. She was talking down on strippers so bad, and my boyfriend knows that I use to do it in the past, and planned on going back, he didn't say anything. i was defending the stripping industry saying stuff like there are only a few girls that do extras that ruin the rep of the rest of the girls and what not and she was just talking about how its morally wrong and stuff. I didn't tell her that i use to be one, but I told her that I have thought about doing it and she was just like well, I think that's a stupid. Still, my boyfriend says nothing as she's going off on how wrong it is.

    I wanted to slap her, but kept my cool because my boyfriend and his sister are close, but i don't see why he didn't say anything, the only comment he made about the situation pissed me off, he said 'haha, yeah, my friends only fuck strippers, not date them" I confronted him about it later and he appologized.

    I guess it made me mad the most because she was talking about how morally wrong it was, she goes out EVERY weekend and gets wasted, leaving her son wherever she can leave him, and even during the week, she gets wasted right in front of him, some times she drinks for 3 days straight, even during the week, no sleep, just drinks. So apparently its morally wrong for me to want to make money so my son can have nice things, but its not morally wrong for her to spend her son's disability money on booze!! She has no right to judge anybody!

    Anyways, not really looking for advice, just had to get that off my chest!

    Thanks for your time reading my rant!!
    *sigh* It's called hypocrisy, and it's the make-up people wear when they are afraid to look at their own lives in the mirror.

    Don't do anything. Let her have her misery. If she doesn't approve, that's her issue. You do what you need to do and that's the end of the story. The only drama here is the one you'll make if you get involved.

    Just walk away...show your son how to walk away from fights no one wins.

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    It seems to me your boyfriend was smart not to say anything. What's the point? Why should you or he care what his sister thinks?

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    I can understand what everyone is saying about not caring what the sister thinks and he was smart not to say anything. I guess I was thinking how I would personally feel if my own boy friend didn't defend my job. Sorry, I guess I am lucky that my guy truly doesn''t care what others think about my job, but he cares about how I feel toward it and how I would feel if he said nothing and let the profession be insulted.
    I'm not saying that he needs to completely defend it, but I think if a guy truly believes that not all dancers are sluts, then he should say so in front of the girl he is dating who happens to be a dancer.
    And the response on strippers would be grounds for me to deck him, if not now then later. Just my own opinion..
    And now, I think I am repeating myself. Sorry..
    Hope everytihng works out and glad he apologized.
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