Originally Posted by cinammonkisses
I don't like lying either but I will if it is neccesary to protect the life of a friend or myself.
Originally Posted by cinammonkisses
I don't like lying either but I will if it is neccesary to protect the life of a friend or myself.





I know I have told the story before of the regular who did things remarkably like this, then went home and killed his wife while their infant daughter was downstairs. Then he went and pawned his wedding ring to have more money to come into the club. It was national news. Scary shit, and not anything to be taken lightly. If someone is this borderline inappropriate already, please don't give him the chance to get any more bizarre. And yes, I do understand that many regs are like this....but this one has already crossed the line, IMHO. He told his family about you? Danger, Will Robinson. I'm not a dancer so I don't know the appropriate way to ditch him....but I guess I would try to make it seem like it was something he decided. If you cut him off upfront, it might make him only MORE insane. Think about this situation...this is crazy behavior from anyone, if you remove the "oh i met her in the SC" element. Drop him, posthaste.
Last edited by MrChristopher; 01-23-2006 at 11:58 PM. Reason: YAY WINE
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Get some info about his military situation. Is he really still in? I get the feeling his shifting date of return actaully means he got the boot and won't tell you. If you can find out his full name (get a bouncer to card him) and his unit, you can always contact his CO and have him dealt with that way, assuming he is still in. The military is VERY sensitive about the way thier guys act in civillian settings.
Start a convo about his career (My friend served some time in Korea, in a signal unit. What do you do there? What unit are you in?) or **flash of inspiration** get his dogtag! tell him the earrings are nice, but you want to have something personal to keep with you!
Then you will have his name, and social. If you can also get his unit, you can get a lot of info. If he won't produce, you know you are in trouble.
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^^^ I have his personal card for contact. Like his first/last name, korea station address (in case I want to write him) his army email...the whole 9.
More than likely he'll be coming up to my job on Wed (my off day) since I didn't work on Monday. Ill keep ya posted.
Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"




Does he know you are gay?
If he does, it could be a very good thing. He'd keep coming in for that chance that he very well knows he doesn't have. Problem solved! This is exactly why I tell people I'm married. But if he's really psycho, like criminally psycho, drop him.
I think I'd just get the hell away from this guy... can they ban him at all from the place your working? The more you let him pay you, the more he will think you're also interested.





Yea, I'll keep you guys posted. I don't return back to work until Wed.
Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"





I actually had a regular who seemed so sweet in the club the first two times he came by (not the club I told you about). He was so sweet I gave him my number so we could co-ordinate his visits because he kept missing me. The third time he was more demanding, aggressive, rather bitter and self righteous so I ended our dances early. I was not gonna be cooped up with him and his angry mood! So, he starts calling me. Well, he never called until he started going to CRAZY land. He called three times whispering 'You know I love you. Don't You! I looooooove you. When can we get together again... (breathing). I loooove you...'![]()
Do not continue with this m*therf*cker! They turn on a dime. You just can't predict it. And I won't even go into the custy in NY who tailed me for 20 miles until my cabbie shook him.
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I know you said it's been 3 weeks, but sometimes guys do act like that for a short time (e.g. break up, divorce, lost job depresses them and they want some serious companionship for a short while) and then it blows over so abruptly and you'll never see them again or for a long time and if you do see them another time, they are acting like normal beings. I've seen it happen to girls and it's happened to myself.
However, you're security throughout the whole thing is paramount. If he brings you anything else, do not accept them. Make it clear to him that you are working, not there to make relationships, tell him you will not indulge him in his fantasy any longer if he gets crazy. Whatever you do, do not show fear or insecurity towards him, because some men will encroach on your vulnerability. Be assertive and firm and get your point across. If he gets seriously stalkerish, hopefully security or the police will sort him out but lets not hope it gets to that. I've never had anything get out of control and for that I am thankful.
Whatever happens, just keep safe CK! Let us know how you get on!
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Man, I'm such a punk ass. I coudln't break it to him. Soon as I saw him, he was like "well I"m leaving Saturday @ 4am" He only stayed all of 10min. He'll be back in November...
He didn't come into my job last night, which is somewhat odd of him...I guess he really is gone!!
So I'm free and clear until November I guess.
Some Douchebag: "[Pimp C] 12:43 am: its true we got to stick together the black people on SW CK you is teh condoleeza of SW"




Gone till November? There's a song about this somewhere.Originally Posted by cinammonkisses





some time being in the military is very depressing, this guy seem to have some other issue that are making him more depress! Military men sometimes fall hard for anyone at the time that they feel they have a connection too! Not all military men but a lot! Military people go threw a lot of shit! When you are in the military it is a totaly differant world from the world we live in now! The fact he is going to Korea if he is depress now he will be even more depress when he get over there! Korea is horrible!Well for military I don't know about regular people. I am not saying you should put up with him making you uncomfterable but I was giving you a head ups about some military men. I had a friend in korea that was so depress and wanted to kill himself because if the thing that gose on over there!
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^^^^^^
So true! I noticed that active military get caught up in the fantasy more than others. There's nothing wrong with them. People in general daydream more when they are depressed or lonely. They know not to stalk you because they know the whole thing will not happen, even if they buy expensive gifts.
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