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    There is this dancer at the club I visit often. She was always sititng with me.. even though I really didn't want her to. I never gave her a tip while she was on stage, I never ask her to sit with me... she just does.

    I mean, she isn't ugly, but I am old fashioned at my young age of 22.. I don't like really agressive women, I like the thrill of the chase, I am not very attracted to a woman who throws herself at me without me trying. My first time in there, she didn't even let me sit down for 2 mintues before sitting with me.

    After her pretty much making out with me on the floor, she gives me a couple of dances, which I pay for the entertainment, not a problem. She then tells me about her husband that died and how she is really horny and wants to have sex. I mean, I didn't want to say no, however I didn't want to either, so I gave her my number and told her to call me after she left work.

    So she calls, and of cousre, by the time she calls I am halfway home, and dont' even think about answering the phone... the only reason I gave her my real number is because I knew I would be back.

    So I come in another day.. same situtation.. she doesn't even try to hustle. She just sits with me. I tell her "babe.. ummmm...s houldn't you... I don't know... be stripping?"

    It's so bad, that my regular who I actually come for, won't sit down with me because she is there. It got so bad that one time I literarly grabbed the nearest dancer and sat her down with us and just ignored the dancer that was sitting with me.

    This goes on and on and on.. i mean.. how do I get her to leave me alone? I don't want to be an asshole about the situtation, but, quite frankly, I'm not interested in her or her services.. I might have been if she wasn't so damn clingish to customers.

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    also, it's really sad, because when other dancers sit with me, they all laugh at her, saying stuff like "I got the feeling you didn't want her sitting with you" or "Did you ask her to sit with you, becuase It doesn't look like it" or "have you ever tipped her?"

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    try picking your nose. also, talk about the stuff that you've seen on rotten.com. that will scare her away.

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    Have you tried just telling her the honest truth?Sounds like you really have no choice.Its also faster to tell the truth rather than trying to turn her off. She sounds super horny, it will take A LOT to turn her off.

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    As soon as she comes over let her know that you are there for your regular girl. You don't have to be mean bout it, just say "I'd love to hang out but I promised (insert regs name here) that I'd spend time wiht her tonight.'' Make sure you let your reg know that you want her there, doesn't she do stage? Get you reg when she's on stage.

    You may just have to be upfront with her if that doesn't work. It sounds like she's gotten attatched to you. Her feelings might be hurt but breaking up is hard to do.

    Good luck.

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    breaking up

    LMAO

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    damn susan... your pretty good looking. you'd make a killing down here

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    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    damn susan... your pretty good looking. you'd make a killing down here

    Thanks!

    It is like breaking up though. I've had to do this with a couple of regs that I've had when they start getting to close or clingy. Usually when they start pushing the issue of seeing me OTC it's time to end it. I've always been nice about it but sometimes it's over when they realize that there's nothing more than what goes on in the club. I hate to see the $$ end but I'm not good at leading guys on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    There is this dancer at the club I visit often. She was always sititng with me.. even though I really didn't want her to. I never gave her a tip while she was on stage, I never ask her to sit with me... she just does.
    NO!

    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    I mean, she isn't ugly,
    Thank god for small favors, huh?
    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    but I am old fashioned at my young age of 22.. I don't like really agressive women, I like the thrill of the chase, I am not very attracted to a woman who throws herself at me without me trying. My first time in there, she didn't even let me sit down for 2 mintues before sitting with me.
    Why...are you there? I mean...if that's the case, wouldn't a conventional bar full of taken women more suit your 'Chase' fancy?'

    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    After her pretty much making out with me on the floor, she gives me a couple of dances, which I pay for the entertainment, not a problem. She then tells me about her husband that died and how she is really horny and wants to have sex. I mean, I didn't want to say no, however I didn't want to either, so I gave her my number and told her to call me after she left work.
    Well at least she isn't ugly...

    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    So she calls, and of cousre, by the time she calls I am halfway home, and dont' even think about answering the phone... the only reason I gave her my real number is because I knew I would be back.
    Of course. No mixed signals here at all. Now when you screw her and she asks for payment, your going to pay her out of the money you were using to burn for warmth right? I mean it was useless anyways.

    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    So I come in another day.. same situtation.. she doesn't even try to hustle. She just sits with me. I tell her "babe.. ummmm...s houldn't you... I don't know... be stripping?"
    Oooo you burned her! Nice!

    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    It's so bad, that my regular who I actually come for, won't sit down with me because she is there. It got so bad that one time I literarly grabbed the nearest dancer and sat her down with us and just ignored the dancer that was sitting with me.
    You're spine called, It want's to know if you're still expecting people to read minds, and why you're expecting women not to hawk you at a strip club.

    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    This goes on and on and on.. i mean.. how do I get her to leave me alone? I don't want to be an asshole about the situtation, but, quite frankly, I'm not interested in her or her services.. I might have been if she wasn't so damn clingish to customers.
    Yea... they're the worst...
    I mean you only made out with her
    bought dances
    gave her your number
    ....
    What exactly is she thinking? She MUST be crazy.

    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    damn susan... your pretty good looking. you'd make a killing down here
    Surely you mean she's too good to be a stripper....


    In all seriousness, stop enabling this person's 'annoying' behaviour, then making fun of her behind her back with her co worker. That's called being a dick.

    Just tell her to move on, Trust me, I think she'll get over it.

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    you misunderstood the entire post.

    Firs to all, when i said she wasn't ugly, I didn't mean she wasn't attactive.. she's actually pretty good looking. It's her personality I don't like

    No way in hell I am going to let an ugly woman kiss me.

    As far as kissing, I was a little on the tipsy side, if I was completely sober, it wouldn't have happened... 8 jager bombs and 4 white russians will do that to you.


    About me having sex with her.. I didn't want to have sex with her. At no point in time did I intend on letting her come to my house. I gave her my number so she would leave me alone, however I Knew I coudln't give her a fake because I would be back.



    dude, you have to put it in context.

    I think I bought 1 dance.. no I KNOW I bought 1 dance.. a 20 dollar lapdance, in THREE NIGHTS from her.

    You have to be pretty ugly not to get at least one lapdance out of me, it's just $20 dollars.

    And she has asked more than once, and i have rejected her every other time after that first time.


    I don't know a dancer here that would sit with a guy that has spent 20 dollars, bought her no drinks for THREE NIGHTS.

    I tried ignoring her, turning towards the stage, she just moves where I can see her.

    What am I supposed to do about the phone number? give her a fake, and let her somehow piss me away from coming back to the club by making it a miserable experience? I can hear it now

    "That asshole tried to give me money to fuck him, blah blah blah"

    then no other dancer there would look at me the same.. It's alot better to at least let her hear my voicemail.. I can always say I was on the phone or something.

    About susan.. no, she's freakin hot. There aren't very many women in arkansas in general that look that good, let alone dancers... Then again I have an exotic taste, and she seems to have a sorta extoic touch.

    You think I have something against strippers? My ex fiancee is a stripper.. I actually encuraged her to do it

    How am I making fun of her? If I wanted to be a real dick, I would tell the other dancers to tell her to leave me alone, however I have more resepct for her than that.

    I mean, she isn't a bad person... I wouldn't even mind giving her a lapdance from time to time if she didn't hang around so often. I am just trying to figure out how to a) get her to stop coming to my table in the most respectable manner possible and b) not have her go awol on me... she strikes me as that type at times, her husband died, she told me about her last BF that beat her (showed me cuts and everything) so I'm not joking or taking it lighly, I have just dealt with enough women to know a potential problem when I see one.

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    To answer another question I saw, I dont' go to strip clubs to meet women.. not that there are anythnig wrong with the women there, it's just not a good idea to go with your mind set on meeting the girl of your dreams. I just like the enviorment.

    Not every guy in the strip club is a 40 year old fat ugly guy with no self respect or respect for women

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    and before anyone jumps on me before the GF/Fiancee being a stripper, I didn't make her do it. She always commented on how it looked interesting and all and I went with her one night to amature night and she loved it, and I told her if she really liked it, I don't have a problem with it, she should give it a shot.

    She definately had the body for it.

    Here is a pic of her:

    http://pg.photos.yahoo.com/ph/ur_hac...c3.jpg&.src=ph

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    I feel like I just wasted a good 3 minutes of my life reading this post. You CANT be freaking serious.... I think Mast put it into simple text for you. If you dont understand what hes trying to say then well, then I dunno.

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    ya ... grow some balls tell her the truth... shes not a mind reader quit complaing because ur not man enough to tell her how u feel.. its ur fault not hers

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    or wait did u really not want answers and just wanted to make a thread about how cool u are so guys will write u and say "man i wish i had a stripper that liked me"... stop fishing for compliments pull up ur skirt grab ur sack and be a man... ur acting like a female... leave the woe is me feel sorry for me attention whore BS to women...

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    last time I try to ask for legit advice here... i seriously have a problem.. at least one I think is a problem, and even though it's a tad bit different, I dont' deserve this.

    LIke I said, yeah sure, I could very very easily tell her to fuck off, be an asshole, but lord knows what could happen then. What if she goes lies and tells on eof the bouncers I followed her home or some shit like that, just to piss me off?

    I mean, I am not a mean person, to a fault at times. It's not so much that she is sitting with me all the time that gets to me, it's the fact that she is sitting with me so much that it is hampering my entire experience, because other women won't look at me when she is there, and she wont' leave. When I try to hint that she neds to try to make money, all she does is complaina bout how no body there likes her and she isn't going to make any money.


    And how contridictory can this board be? In one post, you read "be the best customer you can be", and I am. I tip.. I tip well might I add. unless you are an ewalk, I don't have a problem getting a lapdance from you.

    And because I got 1 lapdance in three nights from this girl, I am WRONG and she deserves to sit at my table?

    I will venture to say that in 3 nights, which totals about ... I don't know 15 hours,s he has been there for a good 11 of them.

    And it's a cause and effect. By the end of the night she is complaining about how broke she is.. but she never tires to make any money.


    One dancer, who I seem to be pretty cool with noticed I looked unintersted in the girl, and one of the few times I got away from her, because she was on stage, she came up to me and mentioned that I should try to go to the bathroom and take a long time, and when I get back she will be gone. I was like damn.. that's a pretty good idea. So i tried it, I think I took 5 mintues.

    WRONG

    Sitting in the exact same spot when I got back, and it was too packed to move and sit anywhere else.

    I mean, I have no problem telling here honestly that I am there to see someone else, however I justd on't know (seriously) how she will take it

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    Quote Originally Posted by forbiddenthoughts
    or wait did u really not want answers and just wanted to make a thread about how cool u are so guys will write u and say "man i wish i had a stripper that liked me"... stop fishing for compliments pull up ur skirt grab ur sack and be a man... ur acting like a female... leave the woe is me feel sorry for me attention whore BS to women...

    Show your ignorance why don't you.

    I never said she liked me.

    Not one time in this entire post did thoose words ever come out of my mouth.

    I know how to deal with women who like me that I am not interested in.

    Like i said, this is a stripclub.. what I honestly think is she is waiting on a payday that isnt' going to come.

    Like I said, I have no problem dropping money when I go.. to other dancers, 2 in particular. I guess she figures if she waits around long enough and shows interest that she will be compensated sooner or later, and it's just not going to happen.

    I mean, that even makes you feel bad... because you know she is spending her time with you, but you don't want to compensate her for it, because in all honestly, you don't want her there in the first place.

    Just because I am not a loser that drools at attractive nude women and has nothing going for himself, doesn't necessarly mean I am fishing for comments... It's sad when you expect every guy in a SC, your own customers that pay your salary on a daily basis, to be losers.

    I would have been fishing for comments if I would have asked does she liked me.

    I don't care if she does or not, because i am not htere to to date dancers, I am there to have a great time, and she is hindering me from that

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    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    Not every guy in the strip club is a 40 year old fat ugly guy with no self respect or respect for women
    No, some guys are twenty somethings who act like they have the world by the balls and that dancers should be thrilled to sit and talk with them for free all night before being asked for their phone number. You seem like a nice guy but don't be dissin' us 40 + year old fat ugly guys. Thats a pretty large SC demographic your throwing under the bus and we spend a ton. You are assuming an awful lot about your fellow SC customers. All the ladies want is your money dude. Remember that.

    Everybody goes to clubs for different reasons and jerks come in all sizes and age groups.
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    BTW, just tell her your not interested already...
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    Quote Originally Posted by songofthesword
    Show your ignorance why don't you.

    I never said she liked me.

    Not one time in this entire post did thoose words ever come out of my mouth.

    I know how to deal with women who like me that I am not interested in.

    Like i said, this is a stripclub.. what I honestly think is she is waiting on a payday that isnt' going to come.

    Like I said, I have no problem dropping money when I go.. to other dancers, 2 in particular. I guess she figures if she waits around long enough and shows interest that she will be compensated sooner or later, and it's just not going to happen.

    I mean, that even makes you feel bad... because you know she is spending her time with you, but you don't want to compensate her for it, because in all honestly, you don't want her there in the first place.

    Just because I am not a loser that drools at attractive nude women and has nothing going for himself, doesn't necessarly mean I am fishing for comments... It's sad when you expect every guy in a SC, your own customers that pay your salary on a daily basis, to be losers.

    I would have been fishing for comments if I would have asked does she liked me.

    I don't care if she does or not, because i am not htere to to date dancers, I am there to have a great time, and she is hindering me from that

    LOL... thou doth protest too much....

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    i dont know i think you guys are being to hard on him.
    i never got that he was trying to be cool. sending mixed signals yes.
    just tell her while you like to hang out sometimes you really would like to be alone so other girls can approach you. say it's nothing personal but she knows others cant approach when she is sitting there. simple. thanks for being a young guy that does spend money!

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    Quote Originally Posted by forbiddenthoughts
    ur acting like a female... leave the woe is me feel sorry for me attention whore BS to women...
    Plus you're being an ENABLER.

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