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    First of all I was not engaging in extras. I work in a club where there are grinding lapdances. A good majority of the girls who have been working there for more than a few days have had a mess on them at least once. Anyway, I was dancing for this guy and at some point I noticed that he was kind of humping back at me as I was on his lap. He wasn't trying to touch or grope me or anything so I didn't restrain him. Then I felt something wet on my buttcheek. I immediately got up, said daqnce was over and give me my $$$. He said that since the song hadn't ended he didn't have to pay the whole amount. I said you made a mess on me and I have to go clean up. He wanted the rest of his song I said fine let me clean up and i'll be back. I got the money and ran to the dressing room, to find the manager and tell him that I was refusing to keep dancing for that guy since he had a mess in his pants. But as soon as I went into the light in the dressing room one of the girls is asking me what's wrong. I saif nothing and she asks me why I have blood on me. She pulls me to the mirror and I start freaking out because my butt has blood on it. I was immediately given sanitizer and soap and alcohol to clean up and the manager and bouncer went and got the guy. They came back and they told me that they didn't find any cuts on him but the front of his pants was smeared with blood. They had him pull it out and there was blood on it and it had gone though the cloth.

    Anyway I have a few questions: Does anyone know what could hsve been a medical condition for this and am I at a greater risk for catching something? Does that fact that blood was coming out of his penis mean that he had some horrible desease that I could have caught? I washed the area really well but is it possible I could hve gotten soemthing anyway? How can I go back to work without feeling traumatized? I thugh I was strong but the sight of the blood on me was just sick, I didn't know how I can continue giving dances with the same level of contact? I'm just feeling really scared.

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    Awww hun, how horrible. Id guess you should be ok as long as the blood didnt get near your anus or kitty and you dont have any exterior cuts, open wounds or even pimples on your rear. Dont want to scare you with this but - If youre REALLY worried about HIV (considering there was blood comming from his penis) can get a PCR-DNA HIV-1 test. It can tell you if you have HIV within days rather than months with the regular HIV test most clinics do. It costs around $100.

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    Skin is strong and protects you against just about everything, including HIV. Did they get a good look at his penis? He could've had a scab that ripped off (ew). Most likely, he had a penis infection. I doubt that your butt cheek could have caugt anything. Again, strong protective skin.

    You could start keeping your costume on when you grind. I do this. It makes me feel safer.

    Call Planned Parenthood. They know all sorts of stuff.

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    I don't blame u for being traumatized, I would be myself! HIV can only get in through open cuts, and it you put bleach or any type of sanitzer, you should be ok. There is a drug you can take that kills HIV if you think you have been infected w/ the virus, but there is a small window, get the test done like Audrey suggested for piece of mind. Hugs!!!

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    Thanks for the resposes. They told me they looked at the penis, I don't know how carefully but I was just feeling so sick and disgusted that I didn't even hear the details. I'm scared becuase I remember a few hours before I had a pimple on my butt and I was kind of picking at it. I think it was on my other butt cheek but I'm still terrified. Also, I'm scared becuase I touched it (the mess on my butt) with my hand and what if I had an open scratch from one of my cats on my hand. I'm hoping that any virus would hve been killed by exposure to the air but maybe that's just wishful thinking. i want to get an appointment but i dont know what to say. It's not as easy as saying that I had sex with someone because I didn't. What will I tell the doctor, that I casually sat my naked bottom on a bloody mess on a toilet seat? On a bench? I just don't know how to go in there without being labeled anything.

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    Holy shit ! This kind of story makes me glad I don't do high contact work. I don't think I could handle it if something like that happened to me and I'm so sorry you had to go through this experience.

    In the future may I suggest using a lap dance cloth or something similar so you have one more barrier between you and the customer.

    And it couldn't hurt to go get a full check up for std's. If nothing else it will give you some peace of mind to know your status. I don't think you should have to give any explanation as to why you want to have a full spectrum std test. It is just being a responcible sexually active adult. If asked prior to being tested that is all I would say.

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    lanned parenthood doctors are used to dealing with unique situations such as this. they won't (and shouldn't) judge you. I would give them a call..tell them the truth, and they will tell you what to do. I had a very close pregnancy scare and they were very very understanding and non judgemental.
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    You would know if the scratch was open....try not to worry about what if's. Cause it happened, go on webmd read up on some things. Air weakends viruses,but it can take a few hours to totally kill it. Just go to a clinic, and you don;t have to tell them anything, I would just be honest at this point, don't mess w/ your health, who cares what they think of you. You are probably fine, but you are going to obsess until you do something about it. Talk to a doctor that can advise you correctly.

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    There are retroviral drugs (or something) that can help keep you from getting HIV if you've been exposed very recently. I hope you've found a doctor and explained you may have been exposed. Let us know...

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    Pinkkitten, what the guy had is called hematospermia. You can read about it here: http://www.phoenix5.org/articles/Bur...tospermia.html and here: http://www.emedicine.com/med/topic3466.htm.

    Yes, it can be caused by an infection, including HIV and tuberculosis, but most of the time it's caused by something else. Quoting from that first URL, "...hematospermia can be a very frightening occurrence... but... most of these patients are found to have absolutely no abnormalities and require no therapy. Hematospermia... carries with it no increased risk of any other disease, nor is the patient felt to be putting his sexual partner at risk." So the odds are in your favor. You're probably fine. Go to planned parenthood and get checked though, just in case. Please let us know what happens.
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    This happened to me twice...in one weekend! Both foreign guys, I'm presuming their foreskin got torn from the grinding - maybe caught on zipper or something. Or maybe he came and a blood vessel broke - but that doesn't usually spill so much blood.
    Just letting you know it *has* happened to someone else. For your own peace of mind, I would say go get checked out. You are probably fine, & it will make you feel better.

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    He could also be suffering from prostate problems, which wouldn't affect you at all. I found this http://www.prostatitis.org/blood.html

    You are probably not likely to catch anything worse than you would if there was no blood in his ejaculate. Of course, any semen can transmit the HIV and AIDS virus as well as lots of other diseases.


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    EroticAngel and Paris are both correct. It can also be caused by over-vigorous sexual activity. The guy should be headed to a urologist right away to find the cause. I guarantee you that the guy was scared too.

    You are correct to be concerned about broken skin exposure. But I doubt if the exposure would be much different, risk-wise, if there had been no blood. I hope it turns out to be ok for you. Whatever story you tell the docs, make sure they know that the blood was fresh.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

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    Ok now that's just scary I'd be scared too... I haven't even started dancing yet and now I'm scared about doing lap dances ewww I've been reading everyones threads and horror stories at the clubs and I don't know I'm like super paranoid about dancing now geez

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    Okay let me try to calm your mind. My roommate this summer had HIV. I have another close friend who has HIV+. I have learned a tremendous amount about the contraction of this disease, and based on what you went through, although traumatising and disgusting you are at VERY LOW risk, if any at all. You're fine. Of course, I'm not a doctor, but really, you're gonna be okay. Get a test in about a month for peace of mind. HIV is actually a very fragile disease. The chance of a man with HIV infecting a woman through unprotected vaginal sex is 1 in 1000. You didn't even have sex. HIV does not usually survive oxidization (contact with air). It sure as hell doesn't usually survive contact with air and traveling through at least one layer of fabric (his pants). It is not found in saliva at all. It is only found in blood, semen and vaginal fluid. Okay, let's look at the worst case scenario. Let's imagine the man is HIV postive and also has an extrememly high viral load. Let's imagine you had an open pimple on your ass. Let's imagine he came and it was a combination of seminal fluid and blood. This disease would have to survive the contact with air/then fabric and somehow be present in enough quantity to find itself into your open pimple (which is not a huge gaping wound). You would be the only documented case of HIV being contracted this way in the entire history of the disease. Go on www.thebody.com for more information. I work in a high contact state. Guys make messes all the time (ew). I bring my own sarong to work which I lay down on thier lap before I begin and I tell them it's because thier pant material is sometimes scratchy (so they don't feel insulted). I feel much better knowing there is at least two layers of fabric (thier pants and my sarong) that a disease or bacteria would have to penetrate. Unfortunately we work in an industry where we have to deal with human bodies, and we are not given the training that most health care professionals receive so that they can feel confident and secure, despite thier increased exposure risk. I am telling you, you are probably okay. Sadly, this job is not for the squeamish. But don't drive yoruself nuts thinking you're now contaminated, it is very unlikely. Talk to other girls here, inform yourself by talking with experienced people in the medical community, and take a deep breath. It's gross and I'm very sorry it happened to you, but you will be okay.

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    There's yet another possibility. It may have been one of his first several ejaculations after a prostrate biopsy, a surprisingly common procedure triggered by erratic PSA test results. Those ejaculations are very bloody.

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    Happened to me.. He was a regular too! Not, after that, though. I was lucky, we had to wear shorts during our dances and I have a skirt over them as well. Wow, that was seriously freaky!
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    Quote Originally Posted by SportsWriter2
    There's yet another possibility. It may have been one of his first several ejaculations after a prostrate biopsy, a surprisingly common procedure triggered by erratic PSA test results. Those ejaculations are very bloody.
    Makes sense, and physicians tell me now that PSA tests are quite inconclusive (not the same as they were telling me a couple of years ago), meaning that biopsies now are the preferred diagnostic after DREs done by Dr. Bendovah. (I hate to think of how the biopsies are done and how painful it must be after anesthesia goes away.)
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    Thanks so much to everyone for their advice. I haven't been back to work but I'm going in tomorrow, I"m just a little stressed out. I don't want to steroetype but yes, it was a foreign guy and in the past these guys have been some of my easiest customers to get but now I'm just freaked out. It just bothers me that after he saw the mess on me, it's not that dark in the club he wou;d have been able to tell it was red colored, yet he wouldn' let me go clean up right away. It makes me feel liek he did it on purpose somehow and the idea of him knowing and not saying anything just disturbs me so much. I mean, he should have known I would freak out, anybody would if that happened. Yet he just sat there waiting for me to come back until the manager and bouncer escorted him out. I'm just hoping I'll be able to work as normal instead of having to go look for a club with much lower contact.

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    another possibility is that he was on a medication. I have experiences with guys on various medications *most noteably vicodin* cumming blood. so get tested to make sure you are ok and then hope you never have to deal with it again. But I feel your pain, guys aren't supposed to shoot blood on us its scary as all hell! hope everything works out well for you.

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    You poor thing... I have no advice which the other girls haven't given you, but my dad's a doctor and he reiterates all the advice here. You should be fine. Got get tested now, and then in 3 months, and then 6 months to make sure. Big hug!!

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    When I first started Dancing I had almost the same thing happen , But I didn't have a Zit on my butt or any Scratches. It was everywhere and I was FREAKING Out!!! So I know how you must Feel.. They kicked the Man out of the Club and he hasn't been back that I know of.. Sucks too Because He used to spend$$$

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    You poor, poor girl! I can't imagine how you must feel but I can give you 99.999% reassurance that you're fine! ANother thing to add that wasn't already said above is in order to contract aids from blood, it literally has to be injected into you. That's why people who use IV drugs get Aids because blood that got sucked up inside the vial is now being injected into the person. I'm a dental hygienist and have had my finger poked with a fresh, bloody, sharp instrument before and was fine and the thing is that was said above, AIDS cannot survive air, it's actually quite difficult to contract AIDS. It has to be inside somewhere and get injected and you have to have a large, open, bleeding cut in order to get it. As far as the retroviral medicince, you can get treatment but for it to work, you need to start it within 6 hours and it has very very severe side effects, I've heard you get deathly ill from it for like a month. Don't worry about it too much, I know it's easier said then done, but for peace of mind, go to a clinic where they offer free HIV testing and I can tell you, you're going to be fine and don't let this ruin your job and ruin supporting yourself. As I said, I've been poked with a bloody sharp instrument with latex gloves on and I was fine too, and I know you will be too. Take care of yourself, hon, and go back to work and make a shit load of $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$!

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    Definitely go to Planned Parenthood. They will never ever judge you and you can go without insurance or proof of income.

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    First and foremost, I am not judging you or anyone who has ever caused this (or any type of "mess") to happen. It's happened to me, too.

    I work in Las Vegas (which I consider to be a pretty high-contact place), but I seem to be able to get away with less and less contact as I become more experienced at giving dances (and as a salesperson). I incorporate some grinding into my dances, but I do it VERY SLOWLY and GENTLY. I make more $$$ now than I ever did when I caused guys to come. I also get compliments on my dances all the time. Slow and sensual sells (for me, at least).

    I am not sharing this to brag or try and make myself sound like I'm a better lap-dancer. I simply wanted to share this idea because I don't think dancers have to get guys off to make a decent living in this business. In fact, I think we actually have the potential to make more money using our brains and people-skills than we give ourselves credit for. We are not prostitutes - we do not sell sex (in literal terms). We sell a FANTASY. In fact, the top earners in my club consistently spend more time talking than dancing.

    So, here are my questions and thoughts:

    1) Can we, as exotic dancers, leave the sex, blowjobs, handjobs, and everything else that involves the release/exchange of bodily fluids to the pros (i.e. prostitutes)? Hell, why not team up with a few local prostitutes and send them some business. Could we get in trouble for this if there is no monetary compensation for this referral? I bet some prostitutes would be happy to bring their clients into the club for us to warm up (they'll have to do less work). Everybody wins in that situation: the pros get paid while doing less work, we get paid and don't have to deal with bodily fluids, and the customer gets 100% satisfaction.

    2) Can we still make a good living if we refuse to become prostitutes ourselves? Is the fantasy/illusion of sex worth more than the act itself? I think it is - just about every woman can fuck, but it takes a special kind of woman to turn men on with a flirtatious glance, touch, or with her sheer beauty.

    3) Can we unite as a community to phase out "extras" and still demand as much, or even more money? If we all refuse to do extras (or at least keep them out of our strip clubs), guys will not expect it... but will they stop coming to the strip club?

    Maybe I have lofty ideas here, what do you think?

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