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    So, I had a plan (like usual) and it got all f*cked up (like usual).

    I had an apartment all set up to move into on Feb 1st... all I was waiting for was my Ch7 discharge paper to come in the mail. It did, yay!

    I was to move into this apartment because its just a couple blocks from school and most places said no to my proof of income (bank statements) altho my Ch7 was ok as long as it was discharged.

    So, I go to the school - super excited because they told me they have financial aid and I know being in school 40 hours a week with bills etc I cant afford another $700 a month for Cosmo school too.

    Well, school DOESNT have financial aid - they have STUDENT AID which I cant get because of my credit and I have NO ONE to co-sign - blow #1

    Then I go to the apartment. Funny, they got a new manager TODAY who said she wont accept my statements as income and gave me my deposit back - blow #2

    So after crying so much that my eyes were red and my head hurt Im trying to see a bit more clearly.

    I live 1 hour from the school i was going to go to and 1.5 hours from the other cosmo school here. Such a long commute... and work is an hour from here so that means straight from school to work 3 nights a week to be up for school again. Which isnt sooo bad but... blah

    So Im totally frustrated and trying to figure this thing out. I swear I went to 30 apartment complexes and couldnt get in anywhere 2 weeks ago and I am NOT doing that again.

    Now my plans have gone down the drain (like usual) and Im at a total loss. Totally trying to stay positive but its so hard when I try so hard and keep getting smacked back down...

    Now my choices are - stay here and try to commute an hour and a half each way 5 days a week and go to the school that DOES have financial aid OR sit on my ass eating bon bons and being depressed because i totally WANT to go to school NOW!!! I had it all planned out!

    I was thinking I could rent a room from someone - which I know I could BUT problem with that is that 1) I hate living with strangers. 2) my daughter comes back in June so Ill need my own place anyway

    Im tired of putting off going to school. Ive been planning, wanting to go but it just NEVER happens. Theres always SOMETHING.

    Im so sad - I was soooo excited this morning to get my place and set up school and all that and then I come home wanting to curl up and cry... blah

    I seriously need some happy thoughts... Im over the crying my eyes out part - Ry went and rented Dolemite which cheered me up - how can you NOT laugh out loud at that acting...lol... just trying to figure out what to do next.

    And thats another thing - hes so sweet, caring, loving but I want my own place, I need space... but I think if Im in school full time rather than sitting on my ass our relationship will improve. Not to mention actually DOING something with my LIFE will improve my self esteem which is pretty crappy right now and I look at him and hate him but i know its not really HIM I hate, Im just upset with myself and taking it out on him (know what i mean?) dunno

    This on top of all my other stress is really bumming me out.

    Not to mention I miss my daughter sooooo much - damnit - Im getting all teary eyed just thinking about her... boohoo.

    Well, if you made it this far in my post I applaud you - I dont think I could have...

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    Happy Thoughts- go have some sex with Ry while you've got it on hand! Heh.

    I suggest you check if you can split a place with someone who won't be there too often. I know of plenty of room mate situations where a visiting child can be worked into the arrangement (I did it for a couple months, not my kid though- I had to do the disappearing act, LOL.)

    I am trying to move up to Sacramento for school but have to do it all on my own, which does not surprise me in the least. I also hate the strip clubs up there, which further messes up my plans. BUT I live by a couple sayings: Where there is a Will, there is a Way, and, When God shuts a door, He opens a window.

    Give it a couple days & brainstorm, or "sleep on it." Something might come up.

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    I know it - Im just gonna do it - go sign up - have a hell of a commute but Im tired of letting myself make excuses. Its ONLY 12 months of school - I can do this - EASY... right?

    Ry will be here to watch Katy when I work and can pick her up from daycare when he gets off so shell only be in daycare an hour or so a day. And hopefully sometime in the near future we can find a house to rent from a private person (closer to my school) who doesnt care about HOW I make my money.

    Seriously - Ry makes $3200 mo after taxes and I make good money - why WOULDNT people want to rent to us?

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    Go Audrey!! Good for you for making the plunge! Stay strong and try and keep it together. Its one of those just do it moments. *sigh* I wish those things didnt happen to you. What a let down but at least theres a way out.
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    i'm sorry that that apt didn't work out audrey......i know they can be insane sometimes. a few years ago, before i found the place i am living now, i was applying to certain places. at one, i offered to pay the entire lease (12 month's worth of rent) plus security up front, and had the bank statments to prove it. didn't get it.

    keep looking....other people in other threads suggested renting from private owners rather than complexes....maybe something will work itself out. i hope you find a good solution....

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    I drive an hour each way to school, and then go to work right away after. It sucks, but right now I'm living with my boyfriend and don't pay rent. I don't want to move closer to school and have to pay rent, and he doesn't want to move out of town. So I'm driving back and forth. It gives me time to be by myself and just relax, but it is a pain in the ass having to get up an hour earlier for the drive. You could just drive back and forth, or maybe stay in a cheap hotel room a few times a week to cut down on the number of days you have to drive back and forth. You could also try to find a club to work at that is closer to the school you want to go to, so that after school you can go work, then stay in the hotel. That way you could stay all week and just drive home for the weekends.

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    Hey Audrey, go to school now or you will just keep prolonging it, the satisfaction you get from going will be worth it in the end, even if it sucks right now, keep looking something will work out, it always does

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    Quote Originally Posted by AudreyLeigh

    Seriously - Ry makes $3200 mo after taxes and I make good money - why WOULDNT people want to rent to us?
    Does Ry have actual paystubs? Get the apartment in his name Audrey. Hell, have him go back to the apt that turned you down.

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    I think your plan on finding a place closer down the road is a good plan , now cheer up you will be fine .

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    Mabe look for some one who would be willing to sub lease..some one who will get it in their name, then lease it to you, for say 20 bucks a mounth. Costs a little more, but it works.
    Susie

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    Thanks everyone! I found ANOTHER school - its closer - 1 hour from here and has financial aid. Classes start in March... going to orientation today at 630 - yay!

    Quote Originally Posted by MadisonM
    I drive an hour each way to school, and then go to work right away after. It sucks, but right now I'm living with my boyfriend and don't pay rent. I don't want to move closer to school and have to pay rent, and he doesn't want to move out of town. So I'm driving back and forth.
    Same here - Ry has me contribute $225 towards bills each month... then I have another $700 in other things - car, phone, etc. so its not that bad. If I move my bills will go up by around $700 a month or so...

    Quote Originally Posted by MadisonM
    You could also try to find a club to work at that is closer to the school you want to go to
    The club Im at IS the closest to school - its actually right next to school... I already have an hour commute which means no shower between school and work.. blah. Maybe my natural pheremones will help sell dances (i.e. stinky me) LOL

    Quote Originally Posted by cinnamonkisses
    Does Ry have actual paystubs? Get the apartment in his name Audrey. Hell, have him go back to the apt that turned you down.
    This is another option were considering - Ry doesnt want to live in an apartment because he has all his tools and stuff (hes a mason) and doesnt want to have to haul them in and out of the truck daily so he wants a house with a garage. A house with garage here is about $1400 a month! I am seriously NOT going to pay THOSE bills - if I was going to pay that much in rent (half) Id rather live in a place near school/work!

    Ahhh - the dilema... well figure it out... I just want it all NOW! Ya know? I procrastinate on everything (hence the New Year Res to QUIT PROCRASTINATING) and now that I have my mind set i want it all to happen NOW- not tomorrow or in March - NOW!

    Think thats what Im so frustrated about - having to wait! LOL

    Wish me luck at orientation today!

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    have you considered not living in a complex? They have really strict stupid rules sometimes. I know when I was going to move to Pensacola nobody would rent to me because my chapter 7 was less than 2 years old. didn't matter how much I made, they wouldn't rent to me. Here in Tampa I rent an apt. from a realtor but not a complex. they didn't even verify my income. I just paid a deposit and rented the place.

    glad to hear you found another school. sometimes things can be so frustrating. I have thought about going to law school but the only one near where I live is like $80k and that is not a debt I want to take on. But everything usually works out in the end. good luck with cosmo school!

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    Damn school isnt Federally financed like the girl said when I called. They have student aid but its private.

    Blah - so Im going to be going to Federicos - LONG drive... guess its meant to be...

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    It sounds like god/fate/-insert higher power here- is testing your detrimination. I've felt like that before, and just kept going, and everything just fell into place because I didn't give up.

    Good luck to you, and just keep trying until it happens for you. The most successful people are also the ones who fail the most but just keep trying.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    It sounds like god/fate/-insert higher power here- is testing your detrimination. I've felt like that before, and just kept going, and everything just fell into place because I didn't give up.

    Good luck to you, and just keep trying until it happens for you. The most successful people are also the ones who fail the most but just keep trying.
    Paris is right...

    Just read a short biography of Ghengis Khan--arguably the greatest conqueror in history--and you might be able to take heart. That guy went through more body slams than you can imagine, and kicked everyone's ass in the end!

    I have had a very hard life, due partly to my own bad procrastination, and partly due to an overoptimistic nature. Intelligence and/or talent isn't what makes for wealth and success--it's shrewdness that does it.

    Well, maybe I'm learning, because 9 months ago I had no car, not a dime to my name, was headed back to the last place on earth I wanted to be (Daytona Beach, the crab-infested crotch of the nation), and possibly worst of all, was forced to stay with my mom and my stepfather--who gave me one week to do so before I would get tossed on my ass!

    Well now I have a nice reliable van, I'm head DJ making great money, and it looks like I'll be able to keep this oceanfront condo suite--though I might have to pay a lot more for it than I have been.

    Sometimes bad things happening can have a hidden positive effect, too.

    Like 5 years ago...

    I was kicking ass in a nice club which I had turned around in three weeks time--but then because the other DJ was in a band and chose to tell me at 5AM in a bottle club he wanted me to cover for him three weeks later, I forgot. So then, being deathly ill for the first time in years, I didn't answer the phone when neither of us showed, and we both got fired!

    Well, so what--I had my 'real' job, and my regular client in Orlando had a bunch of work for me. But because my mechanic's brother didn't know my oil light was lit even with oil in the engine--because the oil pump was broken, my car ate itself up and stranded me in Orlando.

    Well, fine, my roommate knew a guy with an old truck and would loan me the 400$ to buy it. Except it never once got me anywhere I needed to go!

    Finally it refused to start at all, and sat out front, my roommate bugging me for payment, until the city towed it. There went the real job--my client wouldn't think of ever bringing the work to me. Without a vehicle it took me a few months to get another DJ job.

    Well, that was a bad enough setback that it took me, really, until now to catch up. I have had times of success since then--but not enough to get out of that deep hole. I was always trying to do too much with too little, and gambling on more success than I got, and always had a shitty car, too.

    But (sorry) to make a long story short--that useless truck broke down a few blocks from my mom's house one day.

    I was so mad I went into their garage and started throwing shit around and cussing really loud, so that the neighbors had to have heard some seriously creative profanity.

    Suddenly I heard my mom yelling from way back in her bedroom. I assumed that she was pissed at me for raising hell in her garage, and shut up, but ignored her and kept looking for useless tools, lol.

    Then she yelled again and I knew from the sound of her voice that something was really very wrong.

    Sure enough, she was clutching the bedframe, trembling with pain and fear. She had broken her femur, but was afraid to fall down because her body was so ravaged by her disease that she would have been badly injured again--you can imagine this if you know she broke the femur by merely walking back to bed from the bathroom!

    So I thank the powers that be that all that bad shit made it possible for me to be there right then, pick her up and put her on the bed--and then carry her out to the car when my stepdad got there to drive us to the hospital! She would have been truly fucked up if I hadn't been there at exactly the right time.

    Sorry this is so long, but I also wanted to add some encouragement--maybe you could find a roommate situation where the other person wasn't around much--or maybe a garage apartment--until June when your precious daughter gets there. By then, if you keep looking, you'll find somewhere to live closer to school.

    You have a lot of spirit, I can tell from reading your posts. You'll get through this, I know.
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