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    My husband is making me nuts !

    We have our house up for sale because he has accepted a regional sale rep position that requires us to move from the east coast to Albuquerque. Both of us are very excited about starting this new phase of our lives but he has our property over priced and refuses to reduce the asking price.

    Homes in our neighborhood sell VERY fast and we expected to be preparing to move by now but we have only had about 10 people come to look at our place
    (no offers either) and it has been on the market for over a month.

    The house is an absolutely perfect 3 bd 2 1/2 bath with a loft and swimming pool on a waterfront lot. It is almost new too, built in summer of 04. I keep the place spotless due to a touch of OCD so it shows great. The last person who viewed the place was surprised when our agent told him that we were still living here. He thought the place was so clean that no one must be living in the house.

    I have some real estate background and have done LOTS of research on homes in our area and I have determined that he is asking about 15 grand more than similar homes. Despite this my husband just won't listen to me and refuses to reduce the asking price. GRRRRRRRRR!

    We had expected to be moving about now and I am quite sure we would be if our home was fairly priced. I think he is being greedy and stubborn and it's making me crazy

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    Default Re: Why won't he listen to me ! ( rant)

    Don't blame it on your husband. Seriously, overasking by 15 reeealy isn't that much. Buyers come in and make an offer. This is a slow time for homes to sell, anywear, because of christmas. Over pricing is actually smarter, because then you can drop the price and constantly keep your home on the top of the selling lists.
    If homes are selling that quickly, then people are UNDER pricing them. Average home sales take 90 days, because it takes time for people to make an offer. Like the home I just bought, we looked at it last Augest, stalled, looked at it in November, and now we are buying it. Thats 5 mounths. We've been looking for the right home for over 2 years.
    It takes time, the buyer will find you eventually.
    Good luck, I know it is frusterating.
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    Actually people in this area are not under pricing and the houses are selling in about 30 days. The reason for this is that we are in a newly developed section just outside a large metro area. It is the hottest area around us right now. We had this house built in 04 because we knew that it was the up and coming neighborhood at the time. We got in early and would be making nearly 100,000 profit even if we sold at 15 grand less amount than is set now.

    I just want him to drop it by 10 grand. That way more people will be interested in taking a look and we will still have a 5 grand bargaining range to work with.

    We have to be settled out west by mid April or we will lose the job offer. And that would suck because the plan is that the company owner wants to retire within 5 years and my husband and the other sales associate ( who happens to be a childhood friend of my husband) are set to buy out the company. If all goes to plan it would mean we would be co-owners of a very lucrative business.

    I am afraid he is going to miss out on the "American Dream " over a couple thousand dollars.

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    Default Re: Why won't he listen to me ! ( rant)

    When people do searches they look in increments of $10,000's. That's why houses always list for $xxx,900 instead of rounded up another $100. And the current housing market is not the same as it was even a year ago. Prices are flattening out and depreciating in some markets.

    The days of the bidding wars are gone for now. Being overpriced will cause people to not look at the house. It may not even show up in their search, and if it does they will compare it to other similar houses. Price is one of the first things people use to exclude a house when they are ready to buy. Another thing to consider is that a bank will not loan people money if the price can't be justified by an appraisal(I ran a mortgage company for 2 years).

    Go onto the Multiple Listing Service and look at current asking prices in your area for similar houses. Then check the records to find the 3 most recent sales of homes within 5 miles of your house that are approximately the same square footage as your home. If your asking price doesn't fall within those ranges, you are overpriced and won't get enough showings to sell your house. Get this data together and show your husband. He will have a tough time argueing against the facts.

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    Default Re: Why won't he listen to me ! ( rant)

    Exactly ! And I did that but he still won't listen. Arg!

    He is usually a very smart man and I have never seen him be greedy before now, thus my rant.

    Thanks for listening.

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    Well possible comprimise - you can stay in the house and he can move and rent an apartment and look for a home when he transfers to his new job . A month doesnt seem that bad but after two he might want to rethink the price .

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    Default Re: Why won't he listen to me ! ( rant)

    "why won't he listen to me..."

    Because we are men and want to be correct....even if we are idiots.
    "The problem with the world is that everyone is a few drinks behind."
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    "Sir, if you were my husband, I would poison your drink."
    -Lady Astor to Winston Churchill
    "Madam, if you were my wife, I would drink it."
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    That is a pretty good suggestion , CuriousJ. Thankyou for posting it.

    Mojo, tell me something I don't already know, lol !

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    I know someone who sold a house in Atlanta. She had it on the market for MONTHS and finally dropped the price a LOT, a lot more than what you are talking about. And she happens to be a real estate attorney so I'm sure she's knows something about what she's doing. He really should drop the price I'd think if it's way over the others in the neighborhood.

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    Default Re: Why won't he listen to me ! ( rant)

    What is really throwing me off is that I have never seen him behave like this before. I wonder if it some sort of passive aggressive way of dealing with nerves or fear of change ?

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    Default Re: Why won't he listen to me ! ( rant)

    Quote Originally Posted by TarynJolie
    What is really throwing me off is that I have never seen him behave like this before. I wonder if it some sort of passive aggressive way of dealing with nerves or fear of change ?
    Y'know, I was going to say...Maybe it isn't greed. Maybe it's fear. Or some other emotion. I mean, there's a huge emotional component to the whole real estate market. In buying or selling a home, few people employ reason and rationality alone. It could be that he's just emotionally attached to the house, or reluctant to sell it and make such a big change for some other reason. Maybe the new job is freaking him out?

    I would definitely sit him down and try to drag it out of him....Make him talk about his feelings; you know how much guys love that shit.
    "Doc still loved true things, but he knew it was not a general love and it could be a very dangerous mistress." - John Steinbeck, Cannery Row


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    UPDATE !

    My husband returned home today from a 3 day business trip and after some discussion he agreed to meet me in the middle and drop our asking price by 5 grand.

    It's not 100% of what I wanted but it's a good start.

    I also told him that if he had changed his mind about this new job offer that it was fine with me. I explained that I was more than happy with things where we are now. I told him that I would support his choice to stay with the current job or the new one and that what matters most is his happiness.

    He looked puzzled and asked me where this was coming from and after I explained he suggested the compromise of a 5 grand reduction. My first thought after he said that was "now there is the man I know & love !"

    We are doing another open house on Sunday so we'll see how things go

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    Well congrats for that little breakthrough!!

    I hope you do sell youtr house on Sunday and get to live that American dream you want!!!
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    You have to let him keep his macho pride by subtlely suggesting that it's his idea to lower the price, and a wise one. He'll know of course it wasn't, but letting him play the manly decision maker will make him happy.

    Say something like, "You were so right to be conservative in lowering our asking price. I was crazy to want to jump to 10K lower. You are right that we should at least wait a week after lowering it 5K. You're so smart honey, I love you. *kisses*. How did I ever get so lucky? All those brains, and a huge cock! *grab his package*."

    Quote Originally Posted by nicolina
    .Make him talk about his feelings; you know how much guys love that shit.
    Better yet, tell him you were watching Dr. Phil and think you should both go see a couple's therapist. Next to witholding sex, I've seen no stronger motivator for a man than avoiding therapy at all costs. One drawback is that once you do this, the sex will really suck for a while.

    Personally I prefer the package grabbing routine.
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    Default Re: Why won't he listen to me ! ( rant)

    Oooh...good luck! There's nothing that get's a buyer's attention more than, "DROPPED PRICE!!!" LOL

    Let us know what happens with the open house!!

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