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    Default I might be done.

    So this is the 3rd (4th?) week in a row I skipped out on dancing. I had gone to working only Friday afternoons since going for the dayjob, but now it seems I can't even do that. I like the new job alot. I can live on the money and I have some savings - not as much as I'd wanted but oh well.

    Each week I think I'll work this weekend, but then Friday comes and I just don't want to dance. I may not ever. This is not like burnout. When I experienced burnout once a few years ago, I didn't have anything to fall back on but had started to hate dancing - partly because I was so dependent on it. After a few months I was eager to go back. This time is very different - I have something to fall back on and I wasn't hating dancing, just felt it was time for a change. Like I woke up one day and just wanted to do something different.

    I don't know if I'll want to go back this time. I'm older now and the business has changed so much for the worse, and continuing to get worse - I don't see myself wanting to put up with it anymore. I was still making great money, in fact a bit more than usual, so it's not that either.

    A wise woman once told me one day I'd simply wake up and not want to do it anymore. Maybe that day has come. Funny, I guess I expected it to be more dramatic. ha

    I dunno what's the point of this post really. Just expressing I guess. It's a little weird to think I might not ever dance again, after doing it so long. It's the only thing I've done for any significant amount of time.

    I must say though, I do feel alot better about alot of things in my life now, and it's because I haven't been dancing. I can tell my grandparents about my job! I don't feel uncomfortable when people ask the dreaded "what do you do" question. It's suddenly much easier to get credit. I have regular hours. I sleep better. I eat better. My hair looks better. My skin looks better. I have waaaaay less stress.

    But it still feels a little strange to think I might actually be a "retired" stripper. Anyone else quit this way and felt a little strange at first?

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    When I quit about 2 years ago. it was like that. I wasn't really in a slump .. got along with everyone ..life was actually pretty decent

    but one day i woke up and thought " god i am just over this "..no real reason.

    I did quit for 2 years. The only reason I came back was literally because I had zero choice in the matter at the moment ( opened a buisness ..it failed very badly and i was left with nothing trying to pay a house payment. ) otherwise i would have stayed gone.

    I think I felt "healthier" like a weight was lifted when I quit. even my skin as you mentioned looked better..younger even. Nothing really changed except I wasn't dancing.

    Stress does odd things to you , and you get so use to a lifestyle you dont even notice it till things ease up. and then you go " wow i feel different ". Also factor the cig smoke at work, the lighting and probably all that damn bodyspray floating around

    If you ever come back, I will say this much ( as far as my situation is concerned. ) its easier this time around. I dont take things as serious and that 2 years did me well.

    I wish you the best, hope you get all that you want

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    I am headed down that path myself.I know the feeling.I have absolutely no desire to do this anymore after 11 years.
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    Default Re: I might be done.

    i haven't even hit the two year mark properly and i already am planning my exit in late 2006. i was totally hoping i could do this for 3-5 years and save a lot, but i just can't. it takes too much away in the current environment. i'd rather take my chances on the clothed job market, heh.

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    Bridgette,

    I'm a newbie regular at your club. Learning the ropes. Haven't had the chance to meet you at the club yet. I have very much enjoyed your posts and as such will miss you much. If you decide to bail on us, best wishes and good luck. Although if you postpone it a little, I would enjoy sharing one last hurrah!

    Do what's going to make you feel the best.

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    After seeing what I have seen, I never try to talk anyone out of doing something else for a change.

    There's about 4-5 dancers at least in my club who periodically say it's their last night or whatever--and then show up again a few weeks or months later. But in your case it sounds different--plus there are few prospects for employment worth a damn in this town. I am glad to see them back if they are good dancers, but I hate seeing them suffer through doing what is not much fun for them anymore.

    If it's no fun anymore, why do it? Especially if there are other ways of making good money available.

    I say, more power to you...
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    Ahhh, I know this isn't about me. But do you realize that I will NEVER get to experience a dance from one of THE most infamous strippers ever. This is like watching baseball and never seeing Babe Ruth hit the big one.
    Who will paint them self up like a big tiger as well as you did??? NO ONE.
    Who will be our MOOO girl? NO ONE. ]
    Who will be blind as a bat with their glasses off so I will look good?

    Who will spank my ass and make me bark like a dog?? O.K. lot's of girls, but I digress.

    I am now incomplete. and depressed.

    I better get my ass to NOLA before OTB retires.

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    Bridgette....that's really interesting what that lady told you about quitting.....it might indeed be what she suggested . as for the lack of a dramatic exit....perhaps your passive actions (like avoiding going in rather than going in and leaving early) and the lack of a traumatic event that would cause you to leave will keep your final memories of dancing neutral, making it easier to go back if you need to. plus it's all about your choice. you're stopping because you want to, and you can return if you want to. all about you.

    i don't know if that made sense...waiting for coffee to hit bloodstream. anyways, like Tart, i felt such freedom after quitting, and "the weight being lifted up off my shoulders" feeling too. i didn't dance nearly as long as you, only off and on for four years, with decent gaps. as for feeling "strange" about being a retired dancer....attaching the term "retired" to one of my past careers was a bit weird at first. i don't have a walker or an AARP membership...but labeling myself as such also gives me permission to look back on that part on my life and smile at what it helped me accomplish (the means to suppport my other career choices), and laugh at the....shall we say.....um...lol... "interesting"...things i saw/heard. plus saying i'm "retired" keeps my head and my energies focused on my other career...

    the fact that you're not going into work says something, and since it's not burnout, it might be plain old lack of motivation. like DJoser said, its "not fun anymore" for you. if you don't need the money, then all the more reason to spend your free time doing what you want (personal quality time or time with your bf)...so congrats to you whether you dance any more or not....it sounds like you're in a really cool place

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    Quote Originally Posted by azcustomer
    Bridgette,

    I'm a newbie regular at your club. Learning the ropes. Haven't had the chance to meet you at the club yet. I have very much enjoyed your posts and as such will miss you much. If you decide to bail on us, best wishes and good luck. Although if you postpone it a little, I would enjoy sharing one last hurrah!

    Do what's going to make you feel the best.

    Regards,
    azcustomer
    This is just kinda creepy.

    Anywho...yeah, I felt that way. I preferred to stay home with my daughter. I made a killing the weekend before my last weekend...and I just couldn't STAND to go back in. So, it's been a 1 1/2 since I "retired" and I don't see myself ever going back. If I could find a good stage club...and just do stage/pole work, I might consider it...but I would never do the whole "lap dance/VIP dances" anymore. Too many strange needy customers out there I would rather not ever deal with.

    Look at it like this...at least, if you ever needed to, you could just walk into the club one day and make some cash.

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    you know I can understand what you are saying about not wanting to dance. I say quit dancing and live the regular lifestyle for a while it might to you some good.
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    Good luck with whatever endeavors you pursue; if you just can't stand the rigamoror of it all anymore, than so be it- your time has come where your life has gone a different path and it may just be a must needed change. But I must agree with Sitri, what a damn shame to be retiring a most fine, fabulous, hell of a woman. Good luck mama!!!!!!!!
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    There is something to be said for not having to dance to get by. Enjoy your time away from the clubs !

    You can always work some shifts here and there if you want to earn some extra cash or get the performance itch. That is what I do now and it works out wonderful for me.

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    It's a very goood thing! Your mind is hungry so go feed it all the new experiences it wants. I've found that when I leave I'm afraid of what life will be like and then I get excited about improving myself and wonder why I waited so long. You'l love it. If you come back you'll be even more confident and settled in your skin as a performer and sole proprietor. ENJOY

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    go with your gut instinct. dance time is such a finite window - everyone has to exit eventually. if everything goes pear-shaped at some point later, the dance family will always take you back...

    i remind myself of that all the time - and secretly wish that if shit was going to explode - dictating that i return to the fold - it would do it now before my bits all sag and crinkle.

    i'm also with VG on the stage/pole only though, should there be a comeback tour. the rate at which the extras and VIP thing is getting out of hand is quite off-putting.

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    IMHO, it sounds like you realized that you've gotten what you want from dancing, and/or dancing has gotten you to the point where you're ready to let it go.

    Sounds like the new job (career?) is working out well for you, Bridgette, so for that you deserve kudos! (except this isn't MySpace so I can't give them here)

    Most of all, you can say you went on your own terms, and that you weren't pushed before (or after) you were ready.
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    I tried to start dancing while at a day job and was so exhausted the few times I dance I didn't see how I could do it and be productive at my day job. I may still try again but who knows.

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    I know how you feel, Bridgette!! Though I haven't danced nearly as long as you, I was feeling the same way as you a few months back. I have a 'regular' job that I actually like and make decent money from. I still made good money in the clubs, but just could never get myself to go, kept putting it off. I kept going back and forth and finally just stopped and started modeling and have loved that ever since....
    I think you should take the time off and enjoy life as a non-stripper (crazy isn't it? lol) but I think that you'll find that you won't miss it. I don't, at least right now anyway. There's too much bullshit and the business is gearing towards the worst and it sucks. but thats how it is. I say just quit and enjoy the other aspects in your life. its great that you have a career thats really rewarding to you, and i think that you're just in that place where you're done. and it's not like you can't ever go back if you want to.....IF you want to. I would say as far as the retired thing, don't say your retired if youre not ready to yet. I always say "i used to dance" but not I'm retired...cause you never know...

    I wish you the best of luck in whatever you do!! Enjoy it, you deserve it girl!!

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    Well thanks everybody. I've been working on selling off most of my stripper gear, and was thinking I'd go to the club this weekend and get rid of the majority of it. Think I'll keep a handful of outfits and a pair of shoes in case I want to sneak in for some extra $$, but I think I'm over it.

    I've already figured my new budget based on current job income and I'm totally fine. I didn't save as much as I'd wanted but I'll be fine without it.

    I thought I'd buy a home soon but I think I'll put that off for a bit longer - housing market here is retarded and I'm thinking it's about due for a "readjustment" soon. Waaaaayy too many people buying houses they can't afford with "creative financing", many of whose interest-only loans will be converting soon.

    Anyway, thanks for the well-wishes. If anyone wants to buy some good used stripper gear for cheap, PM me

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    Best of luck to you B, I'm guessing you'll do great in anything you decide to do.

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    I'm sorry that I didn't get to enjoy a few dances with you Bridgette before you disapeear from the stage for the last time, but it sounds like you've really thought this through, and I'm happy for you.

    While a couch dance might no longer be available, perhaps a couch might be. Best of luck ma'am.
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    good used stripper gear, eh?

    what do you have that would work for a no boobs, 5'2" petite girl with a size 7+- shoe size?

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    i always feel like i dont wanna work. i know that i can only take short breaks... because i know that i can make the monry and take cae of myself independantly. im only 23, i have only danced for about two years... it gets old really easily for me

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    Holy moo-cow, that freaked me out. Until I looked at the date.



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    wow this is old lol

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    I was like, "Wait a fucking minute!" haha. You people who resurrect old threads are teh suck.
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