I need advice badly on what the hell I should do...
I have this male friend named Dan. Dan is a great guy, buy unfortunately, he is so madly in love with me it's scary. And I don't feel any attraction to him whatsoever.
I met him when I was working at Wendy's in 2002. He's really goofy and sweet, so we became friends quickly. For a very short time I started to like him so I asked him out. We went on one date and it was fun. After that he pulled me right into a relationship. AFTER ONE DATE. Meaning after the night was over the next day he was saying I was his girlfriend.
The day after the date I realized I wasn't attracted to him at all. So I told him we had to "end things". He said fine, so we proceeded to go back to being friends. But he was obviously still falling for me. It got really uncomfortable for me and I started to pull away. I told him how he was making me uncomortable and such and told him we needed to stay away from each other for a while.
So a couple months later we started talking to each other again and decided to go to a concert together(Deftones)since we both loved them. It was fun. But a couple days later, he was making it all too clear that he was still into me. He finally confessed that he was madly in love with me, that I was the perfect woman, etc.I told him yet again that it just wasn't happening and that I couldnt force myself to love him. So he agreed that friends would be OK again. But it got so weird that when he had to move to Florida in February 2003, I was relieved. We kept in touch for a while, but lately it had turned into once a month if that. About 2 weeks ago he called me and we had a nice long chat. I hadn't talked to him for months, so we had a lot to talk about. He is trying to pretend that he doesn't like me anymore, but it is painfully obvious. Now he won't stop calling my house 5 TIMES A DAY and the last time was at midnight last night! I don't answer most of the time so that he can take the hint, but he doesn't. My husband has even tried to "give him advice" by telling him to let me come to him when I "miss" him. I haven't called because I am busy and it's still a little weird to talk to him, but 2 days after my husband told him this, he must have got restless and started calling again. I just want it to stop!
I am not a mean girl, but no matter what I say(and yes I have been very harsh to him) he still wont take the words that are very well laid out in front of him! I have given up being vague and just telling him, but still he persists!
Help!.![]()




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