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    You know the guys you try to hustle, and they want to make the convo all about you? Like "so, why did you start dancing? What was it like the first time? What's it like back there (in the CR)?" blah, blah, blah. The sociology report. Like the "signs they won't spend" thread, I know it's a good indicator that they don't want to get a dance, but I hate the questions.

    First, is there a good comeback to this crap? Because it's not human interest, it's thinly veiled condescension, and it really gets under my skin ("hi mr, why are you here?"). And when the bar is slow, is there anyway to turn this line of convo around into something I could use to sell a dance? I'm getting better at avoiding getting trapped in conversation, but it's harder to get away when they keep firing questions at me.

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    It's tough to tell the difference between the time-wasting condescension and the (relatively rare) genuine interest in you as a person. A few guys really are just trying to make conversation. I tend to give them the benefit of the doubt for one or two songs, and then if they start getting too personal or rude, I ask them if they're ready for a dance. If the answer is no, they get a smile, a wink, and a "Well, I better get back to work, then. You let me know when you're ready!" Then leave.

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    Honestly, I think it's because some of them don't know what to say, but I agree that a lot of them are condescending. Also, a lot of them are trying to figure out some way that they're not like the other guys (right, they're not, they're more annoying!).

    Anyway, I wrote a list of comebacks years ago, but most of them are only appropriate for customers who you know aren't going to spend:

    http://www.gstringsforever.com/comebacks.html
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    ^^^ lol! Thanks for sharing that Jo. I really like your website.

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    The last was the best! Lethal as it is, I think I'm gonna smack somebody with that one tonight.

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    I usually will answer their questions, because I take it as small talk. I hate it when they get too personal though, like "How much do you make". Customers seem to think that it is their right to know. I won't answer that one and I'll usually ask them "Well how much do you make" or something like that.

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    That website is awesome.I love the story about the hotel room key...Thanks I needed a good laugh.

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    Thanks! I have fun with the site.

    I keep planning to tighten it up and organize it but I don't think the chances are any better of that than of my closet getting organized...
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    i enjoy your site also!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by twisterinAZ
    That website is awesome.I love the story about the hotel room key...Thanks I needed a good laugh.
    Reminds me of the movie 'Joyride' with LeeLee Sobieski. These kids did it as a prank on this rude guy and a psycho trucker.

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    Well, maybe they just have certain questions stored up that they regularly ask that makes it SOUND like a waste of time and automated... Otherwise, just kinda giggle and steer the convo towards the way you want it to go.
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    I will ask for a dance at that point. If he says yes then we can all the fun we want while Im getting paid for sitting on his lap having his little worn graze my fully clothed body.
    If he declines this a good time to excuse yourself...no point in sitting on his lap for free and letting him touch you with his baby boner for free.

    When they start talking my head off or asking me a trillion questions I will direct the conversation in my direction...for my benefit of course.
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    >Reminds me of the movie 'Joyride' with LeeLee Sobieski. These kids did it as a prank on this rude guy and a psycho trucker.

    Ha! I have to see that.
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    Just tell them to be quiet. Some guys love a girl that takes charge

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    I say, "We both know this isn't the church social. Let's go have a dance."

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    haha, I like that ^^ one. Thanks for all the comebacks everyone! I think I'm just a tad more bitter towards customers lately, and my lack of patience gives me overly cynical reactions to their chit chat (ie- assuming they're all talking down to me when, as pointed out, it might be just to make conversation). Definitely time for a vacation, but the snappy responses will help in the meantime.

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