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    Just wondering if any of you know of someone or you have MARRIED a custy?

    Did it work out?
    Did you keep dancing?
    How'd he handle it?

    Any other comments around this?

    I guess it's most guy's dream just to see a girl outside the club, let alone sleep with her , let alone marry her . . .

    Just wondering if this ever happens and what the outcome has been

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    o wow! well...... ive never heard of anything like that happening, but ive heard of girls marrying the doormen/bodyguards..... thats STILL crazy!
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    My uncle married a dancer. He met her on one of his trips to the club, and they eventually started dating, and they got married after a little over a year of dating. She stopped dancing and went to nursing school after they had been together for close to a year. This was about 6 years ago and they're still together.

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    Yep I married my regular,quit dancing, hated being a housewife divorced and started dancing again...Five years later met "the one" at work,quit dancing ,moved in with him in another city and again I was miserable so I broke off the engagement and started dancing again. I don't know of too many happy endings out of the strip clubs .

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    In a sense yes I did. He was my first lap dance and "custy". He doesn't go in anymore, and I didnt meet him there, but he WAS a custy for a while. He encourages me to do whatever I want, whether it be me dancing or not. I just dont go into details of my lapdances and he doesnt care.

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    Quote Originally Posted by twisterinAZ
    Yep I married my regular,quit dancing, hated being a housewife divorced and started dancing again...Five years later met "the one" at work,quit dancing ,moved in with him in another city and again I was miserable so I broke off the engagement and started dancing again. I don't know of too many happy endings out of the strip clubs .
    You quit dancing in both cases, was this your idea? Do you think things would have gone better if you'd kept dancing while married?
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    Sure, I married 3 of 'em. They're now my sex slaves, chained in my basement...


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    Quote Originally Posted by Widget
    You quit dancing in both cases, was this your idea? Do you think things would have gone better if you'd kept dancing while married?
    Yeah, obviously dancing is good for you....my husband never thought of asking me to stop because it was part of who I was when he met me.

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    Hi, I'm currently typing this with my one free hand from whirlerz' basement. I am currently enjoying life and would suggest this to anyone!

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    I know a couple of girls who met their BF's in clubs, neither are married yet though one is retired for three years and will be heading down the aisle shortly. In both cases, the BF was never a customer, never bought dances from the girl.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mastridonicus
    Hi, I'm currently typing this with my one free hand from whirlerz' basement. I am currently enjoying life and would suggest this to anyone!

    All though you may not get fed often.
    Oop, sorry, dear<throws scraps. Thought that free hand was busy...


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    To answer your question Widget , I think it was a mutual decision in both cases.The first time it would have been silly to keep dancing because he made A LOT of money and the second time the plan was to have a family...I guess I'm just not that type of girl.I will say that even though they both met me in a strip culb, they both threw the fact that I was a dancer in my face when we would fight.....and I don't think things would have gone better because both men were sort of the jealous type.I'm not saying it can never work out ,but I won't ever date let alone marry anyone I meet at work again.

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    I havent done a survey or anything like that but from what Ive seen custys are not, for the most part, dating material for stippers. Once a guy hands over money he becomes part of their income stream rather than a potential romantic interest. Its no different than those of us in the real world. We have customers and while we may like them OK ultimately they represent money in our pockets and we have no interest in drawing them into our personal lives.

    I know dozens of strippers, a few of whom have actually dated custys. But to a woman, the story is the same...when they first met, the guys may have tipped them onstage as a means of chatting them up but assuming they click the LD's and further business transactions are off limits. From what Ive seen, dancers dont have romantic interests in guys that pay them. Kind of the "if you have to pay for attention you must be a loser" thingee. Nature of the business, I think.

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    I am curious how did you get to know your custy that well to married him! How did it started? Since we are on the subject!
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    Quote Originally Posted by FBR
    I havent done a survey or anything like that but from what Ive seen custys are not, for the most part, dating material for stippers. Once a guy hands over money he becomes part of their income stream rather than a potential romantic interest. Its no different than those of us in the real world. We have customers and while we may like them OK ultimately they represent money in our pockets and we have no interest in drawing them into our personal lives.

    I know dozens of strippers, a few of whom have actually dated custys. But to a woman, the story is the same...when they first met, the guys may have tipped them onstage as a means of chatting them up but assuming they click the LD's and further business transactions are off limits. From what Ive seen, dancers dont have romantic interests in guys that pay them. Kind of the "if you have to pay for attention you must be a loser" thingee. Nature of the business, I think.

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    All so true FBR! However, there are definetly some mutual ? "sugardaddy" type relationships OTC between dancers and custies...

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    Quote Originally Posted by laplover69
    All so true FBR! However, there are definetly some mutual ? "sugardaddy" type relationships OTC between dancers and custies...
    Right, and wouldn't those be fee-based?
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    There is 1 girl at my club that met her husband at the one we work at. Funny because this is the same girl if she sees or hears of you meeting your customers outside of the club ( even for dinner ) she runs and tells mgmnt . They do NOT dig the girls meeting customers.

    A few others met their husbands at clubs. One has been married 15 years .

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    I met my hubby at my club. He was a regular custly for a while. Then I started running into him everywhere. (leesville isnt very big). Eventually we exchanged email and he gave me his phone #. We got to know each other. I was going thru a divorce at the time and he really helped me get thru it without cracking and going back to my ex. My hubby is in the army and we have been married 1 1/2 years. He wanted me to stop dancing, but i told him, I have been a part of the club for 2 1/2 years (at the time), i have only known you a few months. If you cant handle it, there is the door. he met me dancing. He wont change me. IT is what I love to do. Plus I am too lazy to work for min wage. there isnt anything else here for anyone w/o college. His job has him gone from 6am unitl 4pm. We spend lunches together and evenings that I dont work. We have no problems because of my job. But he also knows that it is my JOB and I know how to distinguish between the two. There is a difference between meeting cutsy just to fuck and getting to know one that you are making a future with. I love my hubby to death and he is the best thing to ever happen to me. After my surgery, I am going to start traveling and he is gonna be right there with me. HE is the best!

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    These OTC threads are interesting. I've been seeing my ATF outside the club for about 7 or 8 months now (known her for almost 2 yrs). She comes over to the house and hangs out.. stays all day. It's easy for me to take days off to spend time with her. Neither of us really anticipated having feelings for one another.. I can tell she's been fighting it for a while. But yesterday was our first "moment". She starting balling which made me also tear up and we just held each other for what seemed like forever. I adore her beyond belief, but now she's tugging at my heart strings and this is starting to become a very confusing situation. It's confusing because when it comes down to it, I'm paying her to spend time with me. She has started to tell me not to give her money any more, but I know she's flat broke and NEEDS it, so I put it in her purse when she's not looking... and I know she appreciates it. Our relationship is turning into something serious, and I have no idea how to handle it. I'm single and 34, and she's 28 and stuck in a bad marriage, if you know what I mean. I feel sorry for her because she's never been with a guy who treats her well. It breaks my heart to see bruises on her body. But she knows she can always escape and seek refuge at my house. I think knowing that, eases her mind a bit.

    Anyway, it's getting to the point where it's going to get weird. I kinda saw this coming, but I think we're at the tipping point to where we'll either break it off entirely or the other extreme is she'll move in with me. The next few days should be interesting....

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    ^^ You're problem is, you're still forcing her to look at you like a custy when you give her money because you still see her as a dancer. You're paying for her time, thats the fantasy, if she's asking you not to pay her, it's not cause she doesn't want the money, it's just she wants the fantasy from you to stop so she doesn't feel guilty about it.

    There is a depth of problems there that cant be covered, but perhaps, if you want to treat her like a girlfriend you can try to help her sove her problems on her own and she, in turn, could do the same? As if you where significant others?

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    I started this thread out of curiosity so I might as well do full disclosure, my wife of 4 years is a dancer, we met in a club, she still dances at a bikini club (although not as much), mostly cause the money is so good. Where else is she gonna work 2 days a week and make $6,000-$7,000 a month tax free?

    I divorced my wife of 10 years to be with her and we are very happy. I can't say I like the dancing thing, but I trust her and it doens't affect our relationship much. The biggest thing I worry about is when she occasionaly has too much to drink at work and has to drive home.

    So I guess to all the guys out there, the fantasy can happen, I did meet the hottest girl in the club, did sleep with her and did marry her. Took several years from when I first met her to getting married, but we are both very happy campers these days.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kinda_normal_guy
    make $6,000-$7,000 a month tax free
    Call me crazy, but I don't think it works like that.

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    I learned recently that exact dollar amounts offer little to most conversational topics trying to convey on a point that doesn't involve actual dollar amounts.
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    I was just trying to point out her reason for continuing to dance, $700-$800/night twice a week; over $6,000/mo tax free is somewhere north of $60K/year which would have to be over $80K if it was a regular W-2 job with taxes taken out.

    As some of these other posts point out, it's all about the money and she figures she might as well take advantage of her ability to make "easy money" working only a few days a week for a few years while she can. She's not gonna find any "corporate" job I know of working 2 days a week making $80K . . .

    And while I don't like that she still dances, I'm not gonna "demand" that she does what I say and its hard to dispute with her "financial" arguments

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    Quote Originally Posted by kinda_normal_guy
    I was just trying to point out her reason for continuing to dance, $700-$800/night twice a week;
    she really averages that high? what club is that?

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