depends on the guy.
depends on the guy.
i've never danced in a club, but am extremely intrigued by the business: the excitement as well as extra cash.
i've been with my bf for a year, we want to build a future together. Recently, i mentioned to him that i am considering stripping 2 nights/week. Wow - he got angry, his eyes filled with tears - we didn't discuss this topic for a long time..
i work as a designer, my bf in finance. it was him who suggested visiting a strip club ages ago. i was shocked first, to be totally honest, but after researching on my own, i find it to be empowering rather than exploitative of women.
i am very fit and can turn heads if i want, but i'm not young enough to be launching an exotic dancing career. i'd strip at weekends for maybe 2 years for extra money and thrill.
but i think if i start dancing now, we would split.
Feeling a slight pang of regret now, that i didn't audition at 23 when i was offered it.....
Should I / shouldn't I?? would appreciate any of your comments
i dont know if i would consider it if my bf didnt seem comfortable with it from the get go. as all the other people have stated, it probably has alot to do with trust issues and comfort zones. id say try discussing him with him some more and if he still seems uncomfortable about it....then you have to decide if its important enough to lose this guy over.
YES, it will change YOU AND YOUR VIEWS. Dancing WILL change how you view yourself and how you view men in general. After being looked at and liked for how you look rather than what is really deep down inside you, you start to develop the idea that men only want you for your sexuality and that there isn't anything more interesting for them besides that. Also, because of the type of men that come into clubs being that they are usually married, in a relationship, or perverts of some sort, it makes you start to not trust men because after all, these men are in your club spending all their time and money on strippers, not their wives. It also makes you think that most men are perverted and gross. It took me a long time out of the business to try and change my messed up views about men. I didn't have these views before I went into stripping, but I certainly got them while I was there. Also, both boyfriends that I had during the four years that I danced didn't care that I was dancing.... but the wonderful man I have now wouldn't dream of letting me do it again... not because he would be jealous, but because he knows how much of a psychological curve ball it throws at you. I would STRONGLY caution you on doing this. If you do decide to dance, do it right... get in, make your money and get out. Go to school and plan ahead because this isn't a full time job, but it has full time repercussions.
EMILY!!!! Are you getting your boobs done on the 24th?!? I'm getting mine done then!!
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If you want to talk to Emily specifically,try starting another thread or PMing her. I thought that was kind of disrespectful to the original poster to make your shoutouts in her thread where your comment was totally OT.Originally Posted by *Alexis*
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Honestly it really depends on your man and your relationship. I've been married forever, and started doing this to get my cofidence up (yeah I know, know. Everyone will tell you that it destroys confidence, not build it. But lucky me I started at a good club)
Anyway there was a period when he was a complete a-hole and I have gone to work crying. He admitted he couldn't handle the idea of other men. he quietly believed the stripper streeotype (even though he knew I wasn't like that at all), and especially hated that I could make more than him.
I took him to clubs to get the real picture on what it is like. I agreed not to talk about work to him, and I never keep customers numbers etc.
A few years down the track now he is quite cool about it. I talk to him about all the goings on in the club now, he enjoys the extra money, and is very supportive. He still won't come into the club because he says he would punch someone.
Marriage takes a lot of effort but it is the best thing when it works.


Oh I might mention I've been married 19 years and been dancing casually for about 5, so it can work if you weren't a dancer to start with.
I do so apologise Feit, i came over all excited and didnt mean to crash the threadOriginally Posted by Feiticeira
But then should'nt you have contacted me directly Feit?
However, i apologise...back to the relationships...
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