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    Okay, so, tonight I go into work and the building is freezing again. And when I say freezing I mean at least 50 degrees F in the building, not 60, not 58. 50 degrees at least easily. We have hardly maybe 5 custies so their is virtually nothing to do. The game was on so everyone there was drinking. So, I am freezing my ass off and can't have anything to drink (still on probation). Btw, my husband told the boss to put me on alcohol probation for getting drunk one night three weeks ago. It was getting to be 11pm and I was not making any money and shivering cold. I was feeling very tense and uncomfortable so I left. The boss requires we pay 100 fee if we leave early. I didn't pay it because I didn't make it and the working conditions were miserable. My husband informed when he got home that the boss suspended me for two weeks! I finally get a little money in the bank and when I do everything goes to pot. I feel like my husband might have told him to do this as well. Since, he didn't admit to telling him to put me on probation until later. I feel like leaving. I feel like I don't have control over my life anymore. Maybe it's all my fault. I feel lonely and don't know what to do anymore.

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    Why is your hubby doing these kinds of things to you???Does he have merit in doing these things or is he just being a colossal jerk?????
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    I wish I knew only, I feel very frustrated and confused. I feel like having a nervous breakdown.

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    ^^^ Agreed. You and hubby should be a team. Why is he selling out?







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    Well if you have your drinking at work under control then I dont see why you should try out different clubs in the area. This would be a good time to do that.

    Sorry you got suspended though as seeing 'someone' could have motivated your manager to do so. Not cool in my eyes. Its hard to see from your posts if your hubby supports you or doesnt.

    Try some other clubs of course where he doesnt work and see where it takes you. Besides you might find a good club where you can work w/o your hubby influencing people.
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    that sucks about your job, but it's easy to find a new one

    it's REALLY bad that your husband puts you on probation as if you were his child and that you think he had something to do with you being suspended. Nice display of trust on both parts.

    It doesn't sound like finding another club will help. You husband seems determined to make your working life difficult.

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    Quote Originally Posted by greenidlady1
    I wish I knew only, I feel very frustrated and confused. I feel like having a nervous breakdown.
    Well,the only way to find out is talking to him.He owes you an explanation as to why he is doing this.You shouldn't be in the dark in your own marriage.
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    The only club in this area is two hours away and a high contact club. I just don't want to do that if i don't have to again. I was hoping with some of this extra money I had I could afford a down payment on a car since mine is getting high mileage and old. I guess I will just have to use the money I made to support myself for the next two weeks. I had planned for us to go the mountains this weekend for our anniversary. I already payed for us to stay at a B&B. I can't cancel or I won't get my money back. I feel so hurt right now and don't know what to do. My husband tells me I am acting crazy.

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    I think I will get up and clean the place up tommorrow and leave while he is at work and leave him a letter.

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    Letter about what???I am extremely curious about your situation.I am worried about you.
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    A letter telling him that I have left. I can't stand it anymore.

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    I am worried too. I know you haven't mentioned alot, but dam this sounds like what I would witness going on between my mom and dad as a child (they are now divorced). It's almost as if you're walking on eggshells for this man.

    You keep mentioning "I, I, I" in dam near every sentence. It's almost as if you have no husband. Don't you too work together to get things together?

    Why do I get the feeling there is more going on than you are letting on?







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    I'll pray for you...







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    Wow. Sounds like you need some time alone to yourself to figure if you want to work at this marriage or just get out. Marriage is a unconditional bond and must be worked on until all avenues of solutions have been taken. I dont know how long youve worked at this with him.

    Though going to the b&b by yourself would give you that time to sort things out and see which road is best for you. Im sorry you feel you have to leave.
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    We've been together since I was 19. I am 27 now. We have been married for three years. We have tried everything but counseling. And I myself alone have been to enough counseling. Plus, I am just now recovering a bit with my finances since Christmas.

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    Gee, I really don't know what to say. Question: did you find out for sure that you're suspended, or did you just take your husbands word for it?

    Either way, if you'd planned to go to the mountains this weekend with him, go alone. A weekend alone in some place quiet will help you to clear your mind and decide what to do next.

    The good thing about savings is that you can always use the money for something else if you really have to, and you can save again. Don't despair, everything you need will come in due time.

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    i feel for you. when a marriage is pissing you off it is tempting to bail off to acapulco or such...

    if you must leave a letter - leave one saying you are just going to your gf's place for the night or something. don't be rash and cut it all off, give yourself time to think clearly.

    we call it "10 minutes". i need 10 minutes. (which might be 3 hours or two days).

    you sound like you need your 10 minutes to organise your priorities in your mind.

    "marriage is the hardest thing you'll ever do" (quote of my sister after 20 years of marriage this year... yikes)

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    it sounds like you really need some time alone to evaluate your happiness. I'm not married so i don't feel like i have the right to give you advice but i know that if my boyfriend did that to me(went behind my back and treated me like a child) we would be taking a break.

    *gives a hug*

    i really wish i had some advice for you hun!! But all i can say is take this weekend for yourself. You deserve to be happy and have a husband who is supportive. You are an adult and deserve to be treated as one.
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    Poor thing, what a crappy situation.

    We are all here for you, I'll tell you like I do everyone else. IF YOU NEED something, even just an ear to blab into - a shoulder to cry on. PM me. It helps to have a total stranger to cry to. Besides, we all have to stick together!

    I wish you the best sugar..

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    Sorry to hear about this situation. I wish I could offer some advice but not only can I not even manage my own disfunctional relationships, I have never been married.

    I'll be thinking about you. Good luck.

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    Well maybe your husband put you on probation because he may think you have a problem and it's is way of caring for you ? But if he did tell them to suspend you that would be mean. I mean caring for your safety and health is one thing but getting you suspended is another.

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    I really don't have any advice everyone has covered it, sorry that this is happening, but it seems like you have been having problems w/ him, thorugh reading your post, everyone is here for you

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    I see complete jealousy on his part ruining everything. You're his wife, not his child. I haven't seen you write a single positive comment about him. What's keeping you with him??

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    what i dont understand. is why you say you will take that money to support yourself. what about him?
    take that money, go to the club two hours away. get a room. make some money and LEAVE HIM FOR GOOD. if you want to work in fla for awhile pm me.

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    ^^ same here. If you feel like getting away and giving Tampa a whirl, let me know. My puppy and I will host.

    You don't sound happy green, you have made so many posts about this lately and its sad You're young, beautiful and sweet... you don't have to put up with what seems to be very immature antics. I believe that marriage is work, (I'm not married, thats why! haha, kiddin) but I also believe that once you're static in complete misery with a man, it might be time to call it quits. Also, why hasn't HE gone to counseling with you? It sounds like both of you are cashing out of the relationship...

    You don't have children, do you?

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