I just found out recently that my mom has stomach cancer. She's been told by the doctor that she has less than a year left.
My mom had an ongoing digestive disorder since last autumn. She constantly felt full/bloated, never hungry, lost a lot of weight, got sick and began vomiting. When the doctors did X-rays, they discovered that there was food fermenting inside her stomach and not getting passed through the stomach to the other intestines. They put her on medication, but it had really bad side effects and eventually my mom had to go off it. She kept losing weight, going from almost 130lbs to barely above 100lbs. Then about a week and a half ago, she went to the hospital because she was vomitting black bile constantly. They put her on IVs and told her they would have to perform surgery to remove the distal portion of her stomach. They did THREE tests for cancer and ALL of them came back negative. But when they were performing the surgery, they found cancerous tumors in my mom's stomach and a few more in her surrounding organs, including the pancreas, small intestine, etc. This has been such a shock to my family, esp my 4 siblings, the youngest who is only 14.
I've been calling my mom frequently and visiting about twice a week, but it is hard because I work constantly and I live 2 hrs away from my family and the hospital. I feel in a way that this is my fault, because my mom and I argued a lot when I was younger. Whenever we fought about stupid stuff, my grandmother would scold me and say "you'll miss her when she's gone." I feel like I missed out on spending time with my mom during periods of time that we avoided each other due to various incompatibility. I do not know what to do or if I can even go to work tonight. I called out last night and I don't think I can hold myself together if I go to work and people start asking me about my mom.
I don't know what to do. I am moving soon, and I do not know if I should move closer to my family so I can spend as much time with my mom as I can. Thing is, this would mean cheaper rent YES, but I'd be much farther from my club and some of my friends. Luckily though one of my best friends lives not far from my family, so I'd be closer to him, but he might be moving to Florida soon so I guess this doesn't matter. Meanwhile, my sister's dropped out of college temporarily so she can be there for my mom. I am worried and have been crying nonstop. I've been on edge ever since my mom went into the hospital last week, and as a result have been overreacting over dickheads/bullies. E.g., the other day my ex-bf's white-trash mom, Colleen Gill, hotly insulted me, and I was already upset about my mom, so I freaked out on Colleen Gill(heh I can't say she didn't deserve it though).


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My thoughts and prayers are with you & your family, PhillyDancer. As for the past relationship with your mother, it's best left there, in the past. Focus on the time ahead with your mom, so you may make your peace with her.


I believe you Dottie and you have my support


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