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    Hello ladies.... I am feeling SOOOO confused and anxious right now. PLEASE put in your bestest motherly advice. I could *really* use it right about now!
    {sooo sorry that its long!}

    --> I started dancing at my current club "casually" for about 6 months now... I am young, and have rendered alot of critisism from some of the old, dusty, washed up, burnt out meanies... WELL, I noticed a particular gentlemen who visited quite alot when I was working... (according to my friends, he asked them if i was workign that particular day/night, my schedule for the following few days, etc.) He is young, hot as hell, and quite wealthy. Everytime he comes to the club, he makes sure to tip me extra nicely on stage, buy me the most expensive champagne bottle avail., and slip me a lil extra before he leaves. WELL, one sloooow night, we ended up talking for 4 hours straight ( out of my 8 hour shift!)He confessed that he has had a MAJOR crush on me since the first time I sat down and we had our first convo. We *really* hit it off, and i was finding myself >FALLING< for him! We talked about EVERYTHING, and realized that we had more in common than I though! He asked if I wanted to take his card and give him a call sometime, and i readily accepted! I was soo excited that I had won him over, it was practically too good to be true.........it WAS!!!

    Come to find out, he used to FUCK the MAIN meanie (bitchy washed up dancer) that I have problems with!!!!!!! My neighborhood friend, who has been dancing there since high school, told me that the "Meanie" had fantasized of having a real relationship with *mr. Wonderful*, but was constantly crushed because he made his intentions of just casual sex with her clear...

    MY PROBLEM: I dont know if I should follow up with our plans of going on a date this coming weekend... ALSO, im worried that this is some kind of sick set up. Ive heard what you ladies say "dont trust anyone in the club"... Ive heard some HORROR stories of how far people will go just to cause harm to someone! SO PLEASE HELP ME YALL! Should I even be talking to anyone I meet in a club?? (In case this helps, he has regularly encouraged me to quit working, and just intern somewhere and pay off college in that way... so basically, he doesnt want me to dance out of necessity, and is willing to pay any and all costs that i might be making if i was dancing...)

    PLEASE LADIES..... YOUR ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO ABOUT *MR. WONDERFUL AND THE "MEANIE"!!!

    ~My deepest thanks in advance, for looking,and/or reading, and/or posting...
    ~*No grave is deep enough to bury the truth*~

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    Quote Originally Posted by MzGigi
    Come to find out, he used to FUCK the MAIN meanie
    what more do you need? he just wants to bone the new thing!

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    Find out what happened between him and the meanie.

    I'm betting that whatever he did to her, he'd do to you too in a heartbeat.

    You don't want a "stripperizer" bleeding into your real life... imagine how it'll feel if things don't work out, and the smug prick's sitting there a month or two from now, right where you met him, chatting up the pretty new girl that doesn't know her head from her ass yet and has "easy target" written all over her face.

    Gross, right?

    Don't do it. Get this guy's money, and buy meanie a drink, cause she probably needs one after watching this whole thing go down.
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    you said it yourself, doll.. its too good to be true. Don't get involved; he wants a fuck buddy... and he's most likely depending on your youth and naivete to prey on.

    Been there, done that

    Not worth the drama, not worth the heartache... it's just a penis

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    That's why you steer clear of guys you meet in the club. When they express interest, you have no way of knowing whether it is really because he thinks you're a cool chick or because he thinks you're easy (being naked and fliratatious--what else could a guy want!). Some pathological strip club atendees tend to lose their sense of reality in terms of dealing with women and agressively pursue strippers as a result. And from what you said about him, having a thing with the mean girl really doesn't help his case. This is a clear sign that he's not into women he meets for the individuals that they are.

    As far as his intentions, I doubt he wants to cause harm to you, but the actual fact that he is pulling that bullshit about you getting to quit stripping is a MAJOR red flag. Guys who frequent strip clubs and disapprove of the way you make money to take care of your finances are total hypocrites. Don't believe a word this guy says.

    I've worked with girls who've had guys take care of them "to stop dancing" (this really only ends up being a break for the girls who take these offers, because they are right back working a few months later when their "benefactor" aka johns end up losing interest).
    All offers to help you out in any type of money competasory (sp?) way should be considered highly suspicious. And ultimately these situations are temporary and definitely require sexual favors in return.

    Just the fact that dude is in your place of work to begin with and feels the need to try and talk you out of your job is incredibly uncool. Obviously he appreciates what our profession offers or he wouldn't be there.

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    NONONONONONONONO!!!!!!!

    You are begging for a nightmare to ensue. You pal around with him, he will probably treat you the same as he did Meanie AND she will have a bug up her a*s to get you for this. Whether you say anything or not, this looks like "Naa naa naa naa naa...I'm f*cking your man..."
    I'm embarrassed to admit I had a micro-version of this happen. I worked a short booking at a club where one of the older top girls was after a friend of the bouncer. I got friendly with this guy and she was really upset about it. She did a few things to pester me, but nothing too bad because I wouldn't be there long.
    He will not pay your way out of dancing. He will make you dependent on him then dump your a*s. It's true, you can't trust anyone in the club.

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    Default Re: The MOST Horrible Mistake ever....

    You obviously already know better.



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    Quote Originally Posted by MzGigi
    WELL, one sloooow night, we ended up talking for 4 hours straight ( out of my 8 hour shift!)
    Just wondering, and maybe I missed this somewhere in your post, but did he compensate you for this time? I think that if he did not, he obviously doesn't understand your situation as a dancer.

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    I like to see people find good realtionships, and being a dancer makes finding those even harder, but...

    He has already had a "fling" with another girl at your club. Is she the only one or are there more?

    He is young hot and rich?? Is he truly rich or is he doing something that might be illegal? Or maybe he got a nice insurance settlement recently? Or inheritance? In any of those cases his cash will quickly be gone if keeps dating strippers and buying expensive champange.

    The last major flaw I see in this situation is that he has asked you to quit dancing, AND YOU HAVEN'T EVEN GONE ON ONE DATE! That seems a tad pushy for a guy to ask a pratical stranger (aquaintence at best), don't you think?


    Promote yourself and earn more money! This is a business that is owned by strippers for strippers. Let's make that money!


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    Don't ever date a customer... Treat this guy like any other customer. Hold him off and treat him like a regular... Until the money's gone. He's not worth it.
    If you think school is hard, try being stupid.

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    Oh no. He used to do the meanie. Don't bother. The meanie will get worse when she finds out, and do you really want her leftovers. I would not let some guy up in it knowing that he got up in one of the other girls in my club... you get me? You don't know him well enough to take the risk.

    I once started dating a custy who used to hook up with one of the other dancers on a casual basis. She threw a fit, and I ended up leaving the club (for that reason and others). Then, this same guy, started dating a few of the girls in my new club when he and I stopped dating. It caused so much trouble for me (and it still is 3 months later). And when he wanted to get back with me (as he still does), I couldn't imagine getting with him knowing that he'd hooked up with more than one of those girls. It's not jealousy, it's just gross...

    Anyway, don't do it

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    This can be answered very simply.He obviously has no qualms about going to the place of work where the person he used to "see" is still there.Now,would you be comfortable knowing the fact he boinked both of you and then broke things off with you and then tried this same,sick sh*t on a another dancer at the same club???Don't let this fool "infect" you.He has a problem,majorly.He apparently gets his rocks off wooing dancers into sleeping with him and then saying it was just a "casual encounter".Don't be stupid.Break off these plans NOW!!!!!

    One more thing I wanna add.He is NOT Mr.Wonderful and she's probably a "meanie" because she's pissed at him and now sees him pursuing you.Think about it chickie.
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    Quote Originally Posted by calliope7
    ...And from what you said about him, having a thing with the mean girl really doesn't help his case. This is a clear sign that he's not into women he meets for the individuals that they are.

    As far as his intentions, I doubt he wants to cause harm to you, but the actual fact that he is pulling that bullshit about you getting to quit stripping is a MAJOR red flag. Guys who frequent strip clubs and disapprove of the way you make money to take care of your finances are total hypocrites.
    God, how many times I have seen this shit!

    Listen to the voices of experience above...

    The one and only thing I will say for the guy (well not really for him) is that there is a chance he might actually believe the line of shit he is feeding you--these are the very worst kind of bullshit artists. Actually believing in your own scam makes it much more effective--and dangerous.
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    i agree with the above poster....this is a bad idea. he's asking you to foresake your personal power and to rely on him financially and otherwise. there will most likely be huge expectations placed upon you, should you accept. the whole scenerio sounds fishy. there is a small possibility that he really likes you (and was just using the "meany"), that you're different, etc., but it's a very very small chance. if you want to get to know him, keep talking to him inside the club and get to know him better. explain that you want to establish a good foundation first, and so on. if he really cares, he will be understanding and patient. and don't become dependant on him.

    there are some questions you have to ask yourself: did he make his intentions for YOU clear? what would you want, ideally, from the situation? can he match that? did he lead the "meany" on and make her think that a relationship was possible? you say he was clear about his intentions to her, but what is her side of the story?..it's good to get her perspective at least, whether or not it's the "truth."

    his past doesn't give him a good rep. be really really careful. it sounds as if he wants a paid-for-mistress on the side. be careful.

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    Okay, listen to THEM.. Geezus, I hate to repeat what they said so nicely in my own fashion..

    BUT FOR FUCKS SAKE STOP BEING STUPID. Hello? Obviously he used to bang the woman your having a problem with.. well gosh I wonder why your having a problem with her now. Christ. Once again, obviously you know whats going on or else you would not be asking for advice.

    Listen to the voice of experience young stripper-girl so you don't fuck up worse than you already have. Take the mans money, smile be nice .. but for God's sake don't date him and PLEASE don't sleep with him.

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    It's a scam to get in your pants! Just tell him you found out he was seeing a girl that works there. Then explain that you're not ok w/ that. But, he can always come in to spend time w/ you. String him along till the money is gone.
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    ugh, once again a guy that likes to screw "strippers".. I thought I met Mr. Wonderful one time until I asked him if he had ever taken out another dancer, as soon as he said, a few, I lost interest. Some guys are just interested in sleeping with dancers, it's not worth the effort to me.
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    he's working his way down the list.......sounds like a real loser

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    THANK YOU ALL SOO MUCH! You all have been extremely helpful!

    I read all this, and thankfully, ive been seeing him at the club, STRICTLY at the club. I have been smiling, flirting, and OBVIOUSLY taking his $$$$!!!!!!!

    He IS very handsome, young, street-smart, and charming. Simply because of the fact that Ive met him in the club, im not going to be dating him or seeing him outside of the club. I know better, I guess I was just temporarily blinded by his gorgeous-ness!! so THANK YOU ALL soo much for your thoughts and comments and advice... much appreciated!
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    Gorgeous guys and cloudy vision are synonymous!

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    Good luck honey, I hope it all goes well for you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MzGigi
    THANK YOU ALL SOO MUCH! You all have been extremely helpful!

    I read all this, and thankfully, ive been seeing him at the club, STRICTLY at the club. I have been smiling, flirting, and OBVIOUSLY taking his $$$$!!!!!!!

    He IS very handsome, young, street-smart, and charming. Simply because of the fact that Ive met him in the club, im not going to be dating him or seeing him outside of the club. I know better, I guess I was just temporarily blinded by his gorgeous-ness!! so THANK YOU ALL soo much for your thoughts and comments and advice... much appreciated!
    LOL,thank God we didn't lose another one.

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