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    yes, no, thoughts?

    i tend to agree with the statement. does that make me a sociopath in a way, lol?
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    Default Re: "Regret is an illusion"

    While deciding to remove regret from our lives doesn't ensure being a sociopath, it can have the unhealthy side effect of curbing any future or onward growth.

    We learn from our mistakes, and as being human, we're going to make many of them! It's part of our nature. Regret is the initial catalyst that spurs us into action- one that better hones us into a "better me" for the future.

    On the flipside, when we've identified our mistakes and chosen to grow/learn from them, we MUST dispense with the regret if we're going to move forward with the "new us." Having left-over regret or remorse for our mistakes after we've made the radical changes to be better/stronger from them only gets in the way. It actually causes us to replay history as we truly haven't moved past the issue. In this way, regret will hamper change as we continue to penalize ourselves for the prior mistake and therefore stay locked-in to being that person.

    So yes, regret is important.. but needs to be moderated and regulated so we're using it as a tool to encourage growth rather than self-injury and future self-sabotage. Any feeling we have is always going to be natural and for a purpose. The real key is to learn what those feelings are for and how we are best to learn/grow from them.
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    Default Re: "Regret is an illusion"

    Regret is an emotion. All emotion takes place inside our heads and has absolutly nothing to do with reality (most of the time) but perceptions of the individual.

    That is why as young people we need to learn to master our emotions, otherwise we become a slave to emotion.

    Acknowledge your emotions, take the time to feel them fully and use them as tools to aviod painful situations and learn how to accomplish what you need through emotional reward.

    Yes, it may be painful to dance around all night long in 6" heels, but the emotional reward of seeing the fist full of cash is enough to motivate us beyond that particular pain.


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    Default Re: "Regret is an illusion"

    Quote Originally Posted by polecat
    While deciding to remove regret from our lives doesn't ensure being a sociopath, it can have the unhealthy side effect of curbing any future or onward growth.
    Same can be said of guilt. Although, I recall hearing the occasional tirade from someone asserting that "guilt is useless".
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    As I get older, I have seen more & more that most things happen for perfectly logical reasons, and there are few events that could have turned out differently to the satisfaction of all involved.
    One of the best words in English is ACCEPT. Then regret shrinks.

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