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    i have to talk to someone about all of this.. so here goes im very afraid that my man is cheating on me. i have been finding out a few things and putting it all together and it seems like he is. He has cheated on every girl he has been with if im not mistaken.. So i asked him why would you not cheat on me and his response im 27 and getting to old its time to settle down. i mean what do i do with other guys ive just always been like well if you do you do oh well, but with him its different. i cant quit thinking about and im afraid that its going to cost me my job.. i mean i havent been in like 3 days ive called off sick. because all ive done is lay in the bed and cry.. someone please help me!!

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    Cheaters never stop. A few or alot.
    How bout cut yourself off from this asshole and go out with some friends?
    If life is hard now try loosing your house to a giant hurricane. Your problems are minescule (sp?) compared to what others are going through. No need to waste your life in bed "whoa is me" about life. You pick yourself up and get on with life. If life is hard now then just dont get older.
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    i know that there are other things in this world that are worse and i feel for the people that are having to go through it.. i just needed people to talk to and get there theory and what they would do about it..

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    Quote Originally Posted by blueyegurl_05
    i know that there are other things in this world that are worse and i feel for the people that are having to go through it.. i just needed people to talk to and get there theory and what they would do about it..
    Take a chainsaw to him, cut him open, and count his rings. If he has 27 rings, then he is being true about his age, and he might really want to settle down. You might try to trust him then, on the off chance he lived through being eviscerated.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blueyegurl_05
    i know that there are other things in this world that are worse and i feel for the people that are having to go through it.. i just needed people to talk to and get there theory and what they would do about it..
    Obviously laying around in bed because someone cheated on you isnt the thing to do... get out of bed, lose the loser, and move on.... sure, it's easier said than done...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Prester_John
    Take a chainsaw to him, cut him open, and count his rings. If he has 27 rings, then he is being true about his age, and he might really want to settle down. You might try to trust him then, on the off chance he lived through being eviscerated.
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    Every person and relationship has its individuality; there are no useful hard and fast rules, and SW-ites who have never even met the man, or you either for that matter, aren't going to be able to tell you whether or not he will really stop cheating or what you should do. However, all of that said, I think a lot more men start cheating after they are 27 than give it up if they already starred. So, I don't think the odds are on your side. Sorry.

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    i stopped cheating at 28. granted i'm a guurrrrrrl but i still cheated on ALL but 2.

    it's out of my system. even in my evil saucy dreams when presented with the opportunity i say no!... (you know it's true if your unconscious mind is even behaving itself)

    it is a choice.

    doesn't guarantee anything but that's life.

    love is about diving in despite the odds being against you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by blueyegurl_05
    \ He has cheated on every girl he has been with if im not mistaken.. (
    sorry but i dont think you're s pecial. i mean, sure you can be great and special and all that, but you're not special enough to be the one girl ever he's NOT cheated on. no one ever will be.

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    ^^ You ARE special. Dump him and get on with your life, because you are. In my experience, when trust is gone from a relationship, it is VERY hard to get it back. Just how much of yourself are you willing to give to try and make it work when ultimately, he might just be a loser and isn't worth it? How important are you to yourself? That's just my opinion.

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    thanks for all the input.. just wanted to know what some of ya'll would do... thanks again

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    Where there is smoke there is fire. If you have reason to believe he is cheating then he probably is.Go with your gut and trust your instincts.They are rarely wrong. Most cheaters never change and I doubt yours is an exception. Sorry if that sounds harsh but if I were you,I would jump ship.

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    my suggestion:

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    people will change when they are with the right person.... when they find that person they'll just know..... mabye thats the situation thats going on with you and him... one out of the two isn't satisfied with the relationship, therefore they're venturing out to seek other options....

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    Sorry but he did it to all of them he'll do it to you too.

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    Well, they all think he is cheating. Could well be. Put yourself in his shoes. If you were not really cheating and your bf/gf thought you were, what would you do? If he's not doing something real to reassure you, he was. And if he was, he'll be doing it a lot more.

    I think most young people (who were not abused, but likely highly protected by parents, siblings etc.) come into adulthood with the thoughts that their life will be rosy and sweet. But they have no idea what is waiting for them out there in reality. Chances of finding a good mate are getting slimmer with every passing generation, permissive society and all that. There is a social price to pay for trying to satisfy hedonistic urges and others' expense.
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    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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