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    I've only been to a strip club once, and that was only for a few minutes, so I don't really have a good sense of what is allowed, etc. Can you pay a stripper to cuddle with you, or is that a no-no? I assume you would pay more than for a lap dance, because there is more contact involved.

    I can see how a stripper would object to getting that intimate with a customer, especially after reading about a few of the horror-story-customers on this forum. Is there typically a club rule about this kind of thing, or would it be up the stripper?

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    Default Re: rules regarding cuddling with strippers?

    The rules depend on the club, but I think the VIP room is perfect for that It's way more intimate, which is kind of the point, right??

    I can't imagine many dancers would object to it, so don't worry.

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    Just make sure you have good hygein. You want to smell pretty.. I know i cant stand cuddling with someone who has wicked bad BO and breath. So take a shower, use a yummy after shave and pop a breath mint

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    It depends on where your at.Here in L.A. you'd only be able to do that in VIP or an extra club.

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    Not to be a beotch, but it would kind of freak me out if somebody wanted to cuddle and be all lovey dovey, but then again it's a hell of a lot better than having to ride the hell out of 'em. Sorry, just my opinion :0

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    I have a couple of customers who want me to just 'cuddle' and talk with them. They will rub my back and generally are kinda sweet guys. Just dont pin me to your body... that aint cool. But sitting talking and just hanging out over champagne, hell why not! Beats the hell out of dancing

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    i really dont feel comfortable with that, i dont think a customer should be allowed to touch you at all. i think the whole point is to be their fantasy.

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    I love cuddling with strippers, but only if they cuddle with my cactus plant and my pet porcupine as well.

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    Cuddling can have many different contact levels.... all our dances are done on couches at my club(love seats to be exact) he will sit there, I will sit beside him, toss my legs over his, or lean on his shoulder...
    I work in a contact club, so to me this is better then giving a lap dance. I get to take it easy and chill out with a customer. How am I breaking a fantasy? Its LIGHTER contact then that of a lap dance in my club. And besides...some guys are just lonley and want the closeness insted of me grinding naked on his lap. I find it relaxing and sweet, and im making a guy happy.

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    Default Re: rules regarding cuddling with strippers?

    well thats not exactly my definition of cuddling. i do think though that even if you do do contact lapdances its still less personal than cuddling . however from what you say your definition of cuddling is i dont think thats too bad.

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    There are different ways. Most guys just want the contact.... so if you just kinda snuggle up a little bit and they have their arm around you and dont have you in a vice grip its ok. Or you sit close and have your legs over theirs they can rub your neck/back or legs. When most customers are looking for cuddling they just want a little closer more personal contact then a lap dance. When you work in a nude high contact club this is a breath of fresh air

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    Default Re: rules regarding cuddling with strippers?

    yah, the cling-ons creep my out....but there are worse guys that I tolerate

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    I wouldn't advise using the term "cuddle" with the dancer, it sounds a little creepy to me. Like Cally posted though, just offer rub her back/shoulders for her, and tell her you don't want her to dance. Advice: if you give a woman sincere compliments, she will typically warm up to you quickly. Also, tip the lady for being congenial!
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    I agree with Cally.My club is a bit on the high side as far as contact goes, so this would be nothing to me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    yah, the cling-ons creep my out....but there are worse guys that I tolerate
    It's spelled "K-l-i-n-g-o-n-s"!


    "He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"

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    Default Re: rules regarding cuddling with strippers?

    I had a girl "cuddle" me once when I wasn't expecting it. We were at a fairly high contact club in VIP. Just when I thought she was gonna start her dance, she latched onto me like a giant octopus. It was actually really nice, but completely unexpected. I figure that since I'm a woman, she thought I would like it better than grinding. It was nice, but I'll stick with the grinding, thank you very much.

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    Fwiiw, a bit of comfy cuddling to warm me up, along the lines Cally describes, will sell me some private/VIP dances far more effectively than any lines (verbal sales technique).

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    Just say something beforehand. Guys who are cuddlers are usually pretty sweet when they're the kind who ask or let us know that they just want some gentle physical contact or to be held; it's when they try to put a big old bear hug on us and hold us in place that it feels creepy. My club has weird dances that are very cuddly in their nature and I don't have a problem with them at all, but it's only one-way contact. So ask. Believe me, you can ask a stripper anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Silverback
    It's spelled "K-l-i-n-g-o-n-s"!
    yeah, I know....talking about something else, and that's what I call them and how I spell it

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    Just ask one - if she doesn't want to, she'll let you know. If it freaks her out, maybe she'll tell some other gals (do you girls chat about custy's ITC?) and you'll find someone willing will show up pretty quickly.

    One of my favorite clubs keeps the AC turned down low. For some reason, I have gotten the reputation for being a good warmer - so I get a few extra cuddles from cold dancers looking to warm up for a song. They always ask first, and I usually ask them if they want me to buy them a water (Phx here, dancers can't drink OTJ) and point out the new custy's. If I'm in the mood, I'll get a dance or two - if not, ask them who's their favorite dancer.

    Definitely be very well kempt and polite - keep your hands to yourself.

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    Default Re: rules regarding cuddling with strippers?

    Interesting that this was brought up; on my recent Vegas trip I spent a lot of my time with a particular dancer, and in an extended VIP session she spent a lot of time just straddled across me, her head on my shoulder. Oh, and wearing my jacket (while topless underneath). It qualified as cuddling, I suppose...a first-time experience for me, and a very nice one at that!

    What was great was that it was spontaneous (it probably helped that it was also the end of her shift), and we were both into the moment.

    And ITA with what everyone above has said
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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    yeah, I know....talking about something else, and that's what I call them and how I spell it
    OK, but which one's creep you out more?
    "He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"

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    Default Re: rules regarding cuddling with strippers?

    Many dancers say they are selling a 'fantasy'... well when a customer wants to 'cuddle' he is pretty much explicitly buying a fantasy, as a opposed to a guy who just wants someone to grind on his cock, which is not a fantasy but a physical act... yet wanting to buy a fantasy is somehow considered 'creepy'.

    interesting

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    ^^^The reason, I suspect, is that it is actually easier to grind impersonally than it is to cuddle impersonally. In other words, the cuddling may well feel more psychologically invasive than lap dances that involve more extensive or directly sexual contact. Mood can trump action.

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    the dancers are not selling a fantasy, they are selling a dance and this may make the man fantasise about them. thats the beauty of dancing, you give the men something to fantasise about but you never give them their fantasy. if you actually think that cuddling is the mans fantasy, then thats the perfect reason as to why you shouldn't give him it. Guys who want cuddles from dancers are trying to get much closer to them than they are supposed to be.

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