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    Default I Just Don't Get It!

    I want to thank everybody in advance that have been to my other problematic threads (yeah...I complain too much) and gave me the right advice to handle my situations as a dancer....but alas...I come to you with my biggest problem of all.


    I've been doing okkkaaay when it comes to money. I live in a medium sized city, and for me making 150 is good...( I mean I'm not happy especially when some girls are walking away with 4-500 dollars...but grateful that I didn't go home broke).

    But anyways I'm not quite understanding how the customers minds work. I get compliments...I mean I get compliments out the ass ..."Oh you're so pretty! You're the best looking thing up in here! I love you smile! Girl you can dance!" Every custy that I sit down with and chat will do this EVERYTIME.

    Custy: The compliment me.
    Custy: Ask me when I'm going back up on stage
    Custy: Ask me how long I've been doing this
    Song or two passes
    I'll inerject with a "Can I dance for you or Wanna Go Play"
    Custy: Naw night right now.
    I'll get up to leave and they'll ask me to sit back down, and they will ALWAYS want to take me home or exhange numbers or try to meet up later.

    It's driving me NUTS! I can't make any money because every custy....and I can't emphasize the word every enough...wants to take me home and wife me up. I'm not here to be your wife dammit!

    Maybe its my hustle....now I'm just ranting because its so hard making money when they turn you down for a dance but want to take you out....NO NO NONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONONNO!!!!

    Now I'm just mad.

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    Default Re: I Just Don't Get It!

    If the customer knows you're new to dancing, they may try to get away with more with you than with other girls because they may think that you don't know any better. So if they say no to a dance, but then try to get you to go home with them, while this happens to everyone once in a while, it may happen to you more if they know you are new to this.
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    omg.... i get the same shit all the time... soooo annoying... a lot of guys like real trashy girls to dance for them... keep your head up and don't worry about those annoying guys who say that shit.... keep doing what you're doing and everything will be awesome...

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    Quote Originally Posted by JadeEnvy21
    I'll get up to leave and they'll ask me to sit back down, and they will ALWAYS want to take me home or exhange numbers or try to meet up later.

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    If you've already gotten up to move on don't let them talk you into staying and sitting with them still. They're just wasting your time. Just remind them you're at work and that you've got to get wandering around.

    Also, are you sitting with to many young guys? They're usually the ones who try to find a way to meet you outside the club. You might want to try approaching more older guys.

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    Quote Originally Posted by calliope7
    If you've already gotten up to move on don't let them talk you into staying and sitting with them still. They're just wasting your time. Just remind them you're at work and that you've got to get wandering around.

    Also, are you sitting with to many young guys? They're usually the ones who try to find a way to meet you outside the club. You might want to try approaching more older guys.

    This is definitly great advice....

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    I have the same problem. Even though I've been doing this for a year, I still give off a newbie vibe. I think it's b/c my look and demeanor are too innocent. I decided last night on my way home that I would "slut it up" a bit and stop being so damn smiley (still friendly and smile, but not innocent like). Study your club and see what works. The innocent thing doesn't work in my club, so I've just got to adjust if I want to make more (or at least make it easier to earn what I currently do).

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    Try talking about sex more when sitting with your customers. Draw attention to your body parts, flirt shamelessly. Act like you just can't wait to get off shift so you can go home and get laid.

    When customers ask me if I have a boyfriend, my answer is "Oh, yes! Two or Three usually."

    These kind of behaviors make you really attainable as a party girl (read: gives great lap dances) and totally unattainable as girlfriend material.

    With regulars I have a bit of a deeper relationship than the one just described, but I try to start out being really superficial. If I don't care for the customer on an aquaintence level, I can keep the relationship superficial.


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    Okay Ladies! I'm going to work tonight with my game face on! I took everything you wonderful people have said and I wrote it down in my handy dandy stripper notebook. I guess I'm going to stop having to be "TOO" friendly.....so I'll let ya'll know how tonight goes!!

    Thanks! Smmwah!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    Try talking about sex more when sitting with your customers. Draw attention to your body parts, flirt shamelessly. Act like you just can't wait to get off shift so you can go home and get laid.

    When customers ask me if I have a boyfriend, my answer is "Oh, yes! Two or Three usually."

    These kind of behaviors make you really attainable as a party girl (read: gives great lap dances) and totally unattainable as girlfriend material.

    With regulars I have a bit of a deeper relationship than the one just described, but I try to start out being really superficial. If I don't care for the customer on an aquaintence level, I can keep the relationship superficial.
    haha... yup. Wednesday night- by talking about what a slut I am... I have a boyfriend yet sleep with guy #2 and #3 and Im always so horney and blah blah blah... BS BS BS... I got a guy to max out his daily limit at the ATM Machine He also said he wishes we took CCs so he could get more dances (me too.... ) damn my club for no CC processor...

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    Honey, have you read any of the threads here? This is not just you - this is just how guys act. There is no way to avoid it. And - none of them mean it; or at least not in any meaningful way. I work very short periods - about 2 or 3 hours, so I don't "work" customers at all anymore - I'm pretty much "Hi, wanna dance? Hi, wanna dance?" It works all right as long as the club is busy enough. But don't, under any circumstances sit back down. Usually I (because I like to try to be funny) do an exaggerated look at my watch after they say no, and then say "Oh, gosh, look at the time....". Try saying that if they want to sit and chat with you, that you can go to the VIP for $X per hour - "But for you I'll do $x/2 for half an hour". Failing that, walk away. Not your problem. But don't sit around for free.
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