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    After the dances are over.... Etiquette ?

    After the dances are over I usually walk over to the curtain, hold it open for him and walk him back to his seat to collect my money(in the light). I never know how long to stay after that. I don't want to leave too soon and seem rude and "only about the cash." At the same time I don't want to keep the other girls from making any money by talking to him until he leaves. How long is appropriate and what do you say to excuse yourself in a nice way?

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    Default Re: After the dances are over.... Etiquette ?

    Excuses: you have to pick out your music/get ready for your stage.... use the restroom... change outfits...fix your makeup... you promised so and so you would talk to them...

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    Default Re: After the dances are over.... Etiquette ?

    I just say I had a great time, give them a hug, and go to the dressing room to freshen up.

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    Default Re: After the dances are over.... Etiquette ?

    Say, "May I visit you later?" Give him a hug and go about your business.

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    Default Re: After the dances are over.... Etiquette ?

    Same here. Hug, kiss on the cheek, followed by, "I've had a lot of fun. *Sigh* I better go work now." Or the ever popular, "that was so much fun, I gotta go change my panties!"

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    I'm glad there are other girls who use the same line.....I honestly felt bad after ever dance.

    "I'm up next on stage," "Gotta freshen up", etc.

    I could never be like those other girls that say "hey money's calling."

    It's like admitting that you just used his time for him money...which really is the truth.

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    Default Re: After the dances are over.... Etiquette ?

    hug, kiss on the cheek, and genuine look like I enjoyed it, sometimes I walk them back, other times i excuse myself, bathroom what other ladies said

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    Default Re: After the dances are over.... Etiquette ?

    I'm gonna provide a link to this thread because it is somewhat similar in subject, and has some suggestions that could apply here.

    http://www.stripperweb.com/forum/showthread.php?t=62587

    There really is no textbook way to end a dance session because I think different situations call for different ettiquette. Are the dances tableside or away from the table? Is this a regular/big spender versus a casual custy that bought just a couple of dances? Do you know if he's leaving when you're finished or is he going to stick around for awhile? (It can't hurt to ask).

    I sometimes say while you get paid for dances, what can make/break a sale are the little personal touches that you don't get paid for. Leading him back to his table and having him pay you there is an excellent idea.

    Whatever you do, don't just up and leave a guy who has dropped a lot of money on you like you're off to a fire. You should always act in a manner as if you can always sell him more dances, whether it be later that night or on next visit.
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    Thank him, say you had a nice time and hope he had too. If he's leaving, thank him for coming to the club and that you hope to see him again. I know, it's the same thing most people might suggest, but you've got to say it with sincerity. It's always about the way you conduct things more than what you say. It'll leave him with a warm feeling and he may leave the club and return or take you for a spin again. Just be courteous and keep jovial.
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    Ok I'm going to use all of the help you guys gave today... so far it sounds like it will work very well. Our club has repeat customers on a weekly basis so i don't want to burn any bridges :-) thank you guys so much. I'll report back asap

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    Default Re: After the dances are over.... Etiquette ?

    nothings worse than when a customer blurts out that line "o, i see how it is, it's all about the cash" i cannot stand that! then you have to make up some lie, forget all that, it would depend on how much he spent for me to stick around.

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    If I really honestly have nothing else to do (semi-empty club and no other money in sight) I might sit and have a drink with him or talk to him a little more, and then excuse myself to smoke or use the ladies room. Sometimes if I flirt a bit more after the dance, they will buy another dance or two.
    Usually, though, they tend to excuse themselves and head back to their table or to the bathroom, bar or outside to smoke....so I thank them, act a bit flustered (like I was turned on or something), give them a hug, kiss on the cheek and a smile and say that I'll be back later to say hello again.

    I've never had a problem with guys wanting to waste my time after I give them a dance. Usually they understand that I'm tired afterwards and need to rest before my next stage set.

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    Default Re: After the dances are over.... Etiquette ?

    Quote Originally Posted by RicanAsianMa
    It's like admitting that you just used his time for him money...which really is the truth.
    I think providing sexual, sensual, fun, entertaining lapdances is worth the money they pay for them...

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    Quote Originally Posted by AngelEyezXYZ
    I think providing sexual, sensual, fun, entertaining lapdances is worth the money they pay for them...
    Ditto on this from the customer perspective, or at least from the somewhat older, reasonably well-financed, casual customer perspective. Reading a lot of the posts here, I think some of the women are too willing to accept the bad stereotypes that others try to pin on them -- like that it is all a scam and if the guy were a little smarter, or the woman less devious, the jig would be up. There certainly are some cold manipulators in the business -- and their attempts frequently are a lot more tranparent than they think -- but there also are a lot of girls who are very good at showing a man a good time, and who work hard to do it. Why shouldn't they be paid well? The fact that the sales pitch is well-planned and persuasive, and the fact that the woman moves on to keep doing her job afterwards, doesn't mean the service is bad quality. In fact, the reverse is usually true.

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    Default Re: After the dances are over.... Etiquette ?

    Something that was said here before and I thought was great was if a guys says it's all about the money, then say something to the effect of "well, a girl's got to her pay her bills, but this is the funnest jobs I've had. I just love dancing and talking to men like you. Anything else either sounds like a lie or just confirming what they thought.

    Some guys are idiots. Can I get a free lap dance? Do you do your job for free!? I hate that!

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