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    i noticed where i dance, that a few of the girls especially the yuonger ones,, have these boy freinds that wait aruond or come in every few hours to collect his girl frinds tipps.......ive seen so many girls get ripped off by the boyfreind geezzzz,,,,,, theres a dancer at my club that her boy freind calls the offcie everyday to make sure there and dancing basically making money for him,,,,,,another girl, had paid for anew car a black mustang but her boy freind drops her of at the club in her own car and he take off on it while shes dancing her butt off and offcorse he donsnt work at all.........he looks like a GQ model great cloth,shoes, jelwery,, u name shes paid it for him..........i basically think alot of the daners get pimped by there man or boy freinds,,,,i ve even know of girl that her man advertized her in a local adult magazine as an escort and he would pcik her up after work and take her to do calls in hotels,,, ,,,, can you belive that...... ,, if any dancer here can relate to this thread,,please contribute to it. we'd all like to know what you have to say about this topic,,,,,,,, huggs,kisses and godbless you all ( MADAM-LIZZ)

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    Just another dancer stereotype but I can relate.
    Although I am nothing like the story. I completely support myself on my own now. I dont rely on anyone or give anyone my money.

    There was a girl I worked with and her boyfriend would pick her up after work and she would have to give ALL her money to her bf. He barely have her an allowance. He controlled all the money and basically controlled her. I felt bad for her but thought it wasnt my place to say anything.
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    I have totally seen this. One girl got yelled at by her boy because she couldn't cash her funny money because she missed the window of time to cash it. I can dance and support myself but my guy better take care of me as well. I mean why should he take my money, the money I had to work on another guy for? He would and should be ashamed of himself. He's not a man if he takes your hard earned money ladies!
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    awww well my mom pimped me for all my money for a long while... kept me broke/ in debt its a hard habit to break and it was hard to learn to say no to my mom.... it's still hard. Never could afford a boyfriend because of her... my boyfriend now goes 70 % and I go 30% when it comes to spending on us. I hate men that do that to women and parents that do that to their kids are no better.

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    Why do you guys keep calling them boyfriends? They're not boyfriends, they're PIMPS. Even if the girl thinks that he's her "boyfriend," They are just pimps. The term boyfriend holds more glory than these guys deserve.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Star_bare_elegance
    awww well my mom pimped me for all my money for a long while... kept me broke/ in debt its a hard habit to break and it was hard to learn to say no to my mom.... it's still hard. Never could afford a boyfriend because of her... my boyfriend now goes 70 % and I go 30% when it comes to spending on us. I hate men that do that to women and parents that do that to their kids are no better.
    I've seen a girl who was pimped by her mom before. Her mom brought her to the club and sat there all night yelling at her if she wasn't making money. At the end of the night, the mom would take all the money and leave. Eventually, the girl got fired b/c the mom arranged for her to do OTC extras with a custy, so the girl left with him mid- shift. Now her mom has her working in the sh*t hole down the street. That's so wrong.

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    Yep ! That's crazy but I know too many dancers that does that. I could never understand, your the one doing all the work !! But I guess they are ''addicted'' to the guy or they think they can't find anything better.

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    That is definitly wrong. Giving all You'r hard erned money to some guy. I think that sometimes that guys probley beat the girls up or threaten them or somthing and the girls are afraid so they give them the money so they don't get hurt, And they probley won't go to the police or anyone about it because there probley afraid there boyfriends will kill them or somthing.... *Just a thought* ....

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    Another gal who lets herself be exploited by men in her work life and in her private life too. I'd say she's more like a slave. Too bad she doesn't have enough self-confidence to make it on her own. She doesn't need this anchor pulling her down to his level.

    This creep is probably just going back to her when he needs more money for crack or meth.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    Quote Originally Posted by candie00
    That is definitly wrong. Giving all You'r hard erned money to some guy. I think that sometimes that guys probley beat the girls up or threaten them or somthing and the girls are afraid so they give them the money so they don't get hurt, And they probley won't go to the police or anyone about it because there probley afraid there boyfriends will kill them or somthing.... *Just a thought* ....
    Well there was one girl I knew her boyfreidn didn't beat her up, but he was a real pimp he had other girls also but she was is ''real'' girlfriend. She tried to leave him but she came back because she said she loves him. He didn't beat her up or something when she left, she even found a nice new boyfriend but she left him to go back with her pimp. What can we do I guess those guy's are like Hitler : What I mean by that is he was a charismatic leader that could get some people to do anything for them. But i'm not saying that pimps ARE like Hitler just an example of a charismatic person.

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    The one time I saw shit like that... He WAS her pimp.
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    I know a chick like that but her pimp/roomie/lover is a lesbian go go dancer who never works. She freeloads off her lover and gives her shit about the stuff she has to do to make money. Everyone knows about it but gives her a pass because she is a lesbian and that is soo wrong.

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    ridiculous, I would never give my $$$ to anyone, maybe that's why I'm single! lol

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    As far as being a pimp, I suggest the book titled "Pimp" by Icehouse Slim. It illuminates the realities of the life for men and the women who are blinded by their own insecurities.
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    Ladies this sort of thing is what I call dancers disease, some of us feel the need ( why don't ask me ) to keep a worthless man around. I guess to feed some sort of ego spurred need to have someone depend on and to take care of - no matter how much abuse is heaped on their heads.

    Not only does it not have to be a man, as was stated before it can be a relative ( such as a mother or sister even ) It is indeed very sad and hopefully these women will get a clue and kick these abusive, controlling and manipulative people in their lives to the curb.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Crow
    Ladies this sort of thing is what I call dancers disease, some of us feel the need ( why don't ask me ) to keep a worthless man around. I guess to feed some sort of ego spurred need to have someone depend on and to take care of - no matter how much abuse is heaped on their heads.

    Not only does it not have to be a man, as was stated before it can be a relative ( such as a mother or sister even ) It is indeed very sad and hopefully these women will get a clue and kick these abusive, controlling and manipulative people in their lives to the curb.
    This is not limited to dancers; it is pretty widespread anymore. I am distinguishing between this harmful, slave-like situation and one in which the mate (etc.) inspires her to do what she wants and is happy about, a beneficial relationship.
    I loved going to strip clubs; I actually made some friends there. Now things are different for the clubs and for me. As a result I am not as happy.

    Customers are not entitled to grope, disrespect, or rob strippers. This is their job, not their hobby, and they all need income. Clubs are not just some erotic show for guys to view while drinking.

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    My boyfriend told me about some girl he knew who danced and her bf would yell and scream and get pissed if she came home with $400 and go "How are we supposed to live off you JUST making $400 a night?" He sat around and didn't work and threw a fit if she didnt' make a ton of money. He also had pics of her all over the house in porno star type poses. Weird.

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    Another example of why you have to have a strong sense of self in this business.

    Weak people are just weak and will rely on others to justify their existance.

    I can't feel bad for these girls. They allow it even though they know better.

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    I have met/worked with several girls like this but my favorite was an asian girl at a nude club who used to complain about her bf nightly. He would take all of her money,drove her to work only to get to drunk that night to pick her up(in her own car no less),etc,etc.....
    So one night I ask why he doesn't work and her reply was" he has to much pride to work for minimum wage" To my knowledge the only thing he was qualified for was playing video games and getting stoned!
    Of course I tried to explain that any man who would sit home and do nothing while living off of a woman who has to hustle men for money has no pride period.
    This was about 2 years ago and I do not work at that club anymore but unless he broke up with her they are probably still together. I will never understand!

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    Actually, I'm supporting my boyfriend, and will be for a few years while he finishes college. This is a decision we made together after several years -- in fact, I'm the one who pushed for it. He's a very smart guy who's had to work since he was a teenager and never had time or money to finish school. I love the fact that I make enough money to help him do this. In return, he does all the cooking and cleaning -- much better than I would do it. When he's out of school and has a job, he's willing to support me for a few years while I go back to graduate school. It's a great arrangement, and we're both benefitting.

    I realize there is a world of difference between an arrangement like ours and the typical pimp/ho deal, and yes, those girls are ridiculous and sad. I just wanted to counter the implication that there's something inherently wrong with a woman supporting a man financially, or something unmanly about a man who accepts that support. To me, that's a pretty old-fashioned attitude. Sometimes it's just the smart way to go. Just my $.02

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo
    Actually, I'm supporting my boyfriend, and will be for a few years while he finishes college. This is a decision we made together after several years -- in fact, I'm the one who pushed for it.
    This is a very trusting and optimistic committment by you. Why aren't you guys married if it's this serious and obviously long term?

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    My boyfriend and I dated for 18 months before moving in together, and have lived together for two years now. We've been through job changes, family crises, and health problems together. We're best friends.

    It IS difficult to depend on someone. It takes a lot of trust from both people, the one who supports and the one who is supported. Fortunately, my boyfriend and I do trust each other. Before we started living together, I was in a car accident and was bedridden for two months, then on crutches for months after that. He did everything for me -- cooked, cleaned, helped me shower, entertained me and kept my spirits up. At first I hated relying on him so much; it really went against the grain of who I am. But once I learned to relax I realized that letting yourself be taken care of is part of love.

    I understand what you're saying about never wanting to be in a relationship you couldn't leave right away. I used to feel like that myself. You're pretty young, as I recall, and you'll probably feel like this for a while longer, which is fine. But believe it or not, "respect" is not based on fear of consequences. I respect my boyfriend's wishes, as he respects mine, because I love him and want him to be happy. Who's paying the bills is really beside the point.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Emily
    Another example of why you have to have a strong sense of self in this business.
    -True

    Weak people are just weak and will rely on others to justify their existence.
    -Supporting someone does not justify your existence or mean you are weak.... love and affection is a strong need for many people ... no matter what the cost. look at strip club patrons who give what they earn weekly to be held close by a dancer... some are husbands that work just as hard to support their wives

    I can't feel bad for these girls. They allow it even though they know better.
    - In my case I was young and really didn't know any better or have much of a choice.

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    I'll be honest, I haven't really seen this first hand at the club I dance at, but I surely have seen this outside of there.... It's a shame!

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    Quote Originally Posted by MADAM LIZZ
    i noticed where i dance, that a few of the girls especially the yuonger ones,, have these boy freinds that wait aruond or come in every few hours to collect his girl frinds tipps.......ive seen so many girls get ripped off by the boyfreind geezzzz,,,,,, theres a dancer at my club that her boy freind calls the offcie everyday to make sure there and dancing basically making money for him,,,,,,another girl, had paid for anew car a black mustang but her boy freind drops her of at the club in her own car and he take off on it while shes dancing her butt off and offcorse he donsnt work at all.........he looks like a GQ model great cloth,shoes, jelwery,, u name shes paid it for him..........i basically think alot of the daners get pimped by there man or boy freinds,,,,i ve even know of girl that her man advertized her in a local adult magazine as an escort and he would pcik her up after work and take her to do calls in hotels,,, ,,,, can you belive that...... ,, if any dancer here can relate to this thread,,please contribute to it. we'd all like to know what you have to say about this topic,,,,,,,, huggs,kisses and godbless you all ( MADAM-LIZZ)

    Ok after reading this thread I realize that all of you ladies make very strong points. But,I am curious of what the general concensus if of a situation like ours. My wife and I have been married a year, have a 3 yr old son together, been together five years, living together four years. Out of all this time I have only been out of work for about 3 months. My income has always been sufficient until about the last year. My wife never really had to work much and only worked part time jobs occasionally here and there. She started dancing in like mid jan. of this year. This was her choice. COMPLETELY. I, personally am not bothered by it at all and in fact feel that I am rather supportive. When she decided to start, she took money from our check (my job) every week for a few weeks for tanning, makeup, nails, outfits, shoes etc etc. Basicly everything she felt she needed to get started. No problem! Well, since she has started I have to say it has been nice having someone helping pay the bills (like I said rough times lately). I do not take all of her money by any means. But I have to say it's been very nice to be able to borrow a 10 or 20 spot here and there. Ive spent the majority of our time together supporting us (alone) so the break has been nice. At the end of her work week we pool her money in our joint account with mine then pay bills etc. She holds back whatever she wants/needs though. Somehow though I have been enjoying the help but at times I do feel guilty. There are times when I do feel like one of those slimeball pimp bastards but really, Im not taking her $$$$. I guess my question is: Should I feel guilty accepting cash/help from her or is she just "doing her part" ?? An outside point of view would help. Thanks in advance!!!

    Sorry so long, but I felt the background info needed to be there!!

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