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    Dancers at my club survive mostly on regulars, as there is just very little other traffic in the club. I recently danced for the first time for a customer who has been a club regular for years. He was very inappropriate from the get-go: trying to touch the kitty, trying to get me to "hold it", trying to kiss me, and so on. It was a slow day and he was buying lots of dances, so instead of blowing him off like I wanted to, I just kept dancing evasively. Several times he tried to grab my hand and put it on his, um, lap, and I'd make an excuse to take my hand away, like reaching for my drink. I also told him straight out that the things he was doing were against the rules and would get me in trouble, and got the whole "Its OK, I know the manager" spiel. It sucked, but I ended up making most of my money that day from this customer; if he hadn't been there, I might have made <$100.

    At the time he was telling me how much he "liked" me and "wanted to get to know me", gave me his business card, and has been back to the club at least once asking for me, but I wasn't there. Eventually, I'll probably see him again, and I'm not sure what I'm going to do. I imagine dancing for him would just be more of the same bullshit, and I'm not sure it's worth it. Is there any way to keep making money from a customer like this without getting molested? Would you openly tell a customer that you didn't want him for a regular? I kind of wish I'd just walked away the first day. I might not have made money that day, but I wouldn't have to put up with his crap anymore, either.

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    Default Re: would you tolerate a handsy regular?

    I'd start by just avoiding him. I've dealt with customers like this and if they seriously don't get the hint, I straight out tell them, "Look, I just think you're looking for something I can't provide, and you'd probably be better off looking elsewhere." Then I refer them to aspd. hah.

    But if you feel like you can put up with it for a short period of time, get what you can.

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    For me that kind of behavior would have been from the start stated as not ok. I wouldn't want to have a regular like that, but if you don't want to keep him just next time you dance for him tell him it's not ok to touch and be more firm and not as close as usual he will probably get the message. I don't think there is a way of making money of him without doing anything because that is clearly what he wants and you don't want to give it so just drop him.

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    Wow sounds like you dance at the old club I used to be at. Based mostly off high rolling regular customers. We had one regular who was a friend of the owner/mgmt and he would try to get away with everything but kept spending lots of money as you were pushing his hands away. Royal pain. And the whole 'its okay im friends with mgmt' BS is just that.. BS. If you can handle him just keep dancing ignore his words and advances, slide his hands away and giggle and just keep going till the money dries up or you've had enough.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cally
    If you can handle him just keep dancing ignore his words and advances, slide his hands away and giggle and just keep going till the money dries up or you've had enough.
    Yeah, I guess there's really nothing else to do. Since I really don't mind if I never see him again, I'll just keep being evasive and maybe he'll go away. I get the feeling he's one of those customers who gets off on finding a dancer's boundaries and pushing them. He asked me for my real name within five minutes (I gave him my fake-real name) and then he called me by it for the rest of the day, as if he "knew" me. Some customers really want the extras, but then I sweat there's another class of customer who just likes to see if he can push girls around. Manipulative little piggies.

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    How does your club charge for VIP/champagne room stuff? Can you quote your own price? If you can, I'd suggest jacking your price way up just for this guy. That way it'll seem a little more worth it when you pass the entire half hour/hour/whatever fending off his piglike advances instead of dancing. Work's work. But some of it is a lot harder than others, and you should be paid accordingly.
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    Default Re: problem regulars

    I was explaining this to a dacner to my last trip to the SC.

    There comes a time when you have to make a decision on which is more important... money or your self worth


    Somethings you shouldn't put up with, because you have too much respect for yourself. There is a time when you need to cut the Hustling part of you off and cut the self resepcting part of you on.

    A slow night is wroth your self respect

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    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo
    Is there any way to keep making money from a customer like this without getting molested?
    Um, I would say no. You can probably take evasive action for as long as you can stand it but this isn't going to be a long term regular for you.

    Quote Originally Posted by xoxoGracexoxo
    Would you openly tell a customer that you didn't want him for a regular?
    Yes. After too many gropes, I've wagged my finger in their face and said, "You're cut off! No more dances for YOU!" before flouncing off.

    This is the kind of custy you'd better have your money up front. God, it's a shitty feeling knowing they owe you money but you want to stop the dances.


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    Quote Originally Posted by LoveSexMoney
    flouncing off
    Something tells me I'd really like to see you do that

    Grace, I just wouldn't bother with this type. You're exactly right that some get off on pushing girls' limits. He'll spend on you as long as he feels like he's pushing you further than you'd normally go. It's a power trip. I always dropped these guys real quick and ignore ignore ignore. They're just too much of a pain in the ass for me and like above poster stated, sometimes your sense of self-respect is worth more than their money.

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    Cut him off. Cold turkey. The more you try to play psychological mindgames with a guy like this, the more of a headcase he will become. He'll either succeed in playing you, or will explode when he comes to the realization that you played him.

    I know it seems the mathematically unwise choice for a gal working in a club where regulars constitute a great deal of her money, but these guys have a way of making themselves seem more important than they actually are. Trust me, he can be replaced, and once he's gone, your nerves will thank you.
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