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    I havn't let on to my boyfriend about any of this.
    A few weeks ago because of some bullshit ( another post, another day ) he got let go from his job because of me. it was a shity job but he was understandably mad at me, but still nice to me. He got over it fast, and with in a week a friend got him a really great job as a waiter. Because of school I stay at my moms all week, and spend weekends with him, but when i'm with him insted of us spending a little "us" time i get to hear stories of all the fun he's had over the week, including hanging out with female co workers ( not in a bad way, but still kinda pisses me off ), and stories of what he and his friend ( a guy that hates me and wants him to leave me ) have been doing. I'm all for having your own life, and i in no way try to control him or anything, or even ask what or where he's been or any of that kind of stuff, but I feel kind of bad about all this. I think it's worse because I recently cut out all the people in my life that are dramatic, or unhealthy for me, and I only have about 4 friends left, who I never hang out with. I hate feeling this way, and i'm trying to find new friends to hang out with so i can do my own thing during the week, and maybe have some stories to tell him, but nothing is working. You can't force having friends, but it seems to just happen to everyone around me. i don't want to lower my standerds and start hanging out with the unhealthy people again, but that's my only options if i can't find some new friends.
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    hang in there girl...you will make new friends. but it does take time, just be friendly to people and make conversation, it will happen naturally.
    you said you don't hang out with the friends you have left, why is that?

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    Best way to meet people is to find a hobby. Community colleges have classes like aerobics, pottery, art, etc where you can meet people with your same interests.

    Why dont you mention to him how you feel about it?

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    have you tried talking with him seriously, when he is open and not busy?
    Don't worry about new friends, they will happen. I am just now making friends and I have lived here since august '05...

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    Get a job cocktailing or waitressing. It is usually young fun people there. I just moved here a year ago and I only have 1 really good friend and my boyfriend. So you have more friends that me. Don't worry friends will come naturally. Good Luck =)

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    I don't hang out with my friends much because they are either away at college, busy with work all the time, or live too far away. <<< All five of my friends. I have a couple other people I see but nobuddy i really hang out with. It's like I can't call someone to say " hay lets do lunch" because of all the reasons above. I'm already in classes at a community college and I tried to enroll late in a bowling class but the instructure wouldn't let me. Next time I'll make sure to enroll in more open classes. All my classes are lecture so we can't really talk. I would talk to my boyfriend about this but he's not doing anything wrong and I don't want him to feel bad about it. Even if I explain to him the i know he's not doing anything wrong, he'll still feel bad, and try to do things differently. Then even though i said he was fine, he'll start to feel like he can't hang out with his friends because of me and it will stress him out.! He should have his own life, it's just right now when mine kinda sucks he's the only person I can hang out with. My life doesn't suck, I am a lot better off them most people, just i'm going threw a slow state. There are a lot of mixed feeling about it, but I might talk to him after spring break. I'll ask him for help on how I feel.
    Thanks so much for the advice everyone. I kinda look like a depressed dork now, but I'm not letting this stuff get me down. you wouldn't know there was a problem is you saw me in person.
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    I know many people are skeptical of meeting people online, but it seems like everyone under 40 is online these days, so chances are the people you meet online are pretty normal. I have met a couple cool chicks on craigslist personals. It's free, there's a 'strictly platonic' section, and you can post pics or not. No huge forms or signups, just make the post and wait for the emails. Or answer someone else's ad.

    I've had a really hard time meeting friends here, worse than anywhere I've ever been (and that's alot of places), so the personals are helping me. Wouldn't hurt to take a cruise through the ads and see what you find. Most of the ads are from people new to the area or looking for activity partners. You may not find your best friend there, but it's a good way to meet new people to hang out with.

    Also, what about SW??? We have so many people on here now, there's bound to be someone in your area you could hang out with. Come to think of it, alot of people meet up through here already - why not have some sorta personal section or something? I'm sure there's more than a few of us who could use another friend or two and we already know we have something in common if we're members here

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    I feel you girl. I have a hard time trusting people to become friends with too. I have a few pretty close friends, one really close one and of course my husband. I have been a loner most of my life and I am an only child so I don't mind being alone. I always find something to do. Whether, I come on here and chat, play with my dogs or cook. I try my best not to rely on others for my happiness, if you do you will be dissapointed a lot. Try finding out what it is YOU like doing. I love my shih-tzu. I have three and I show one for fun. I also like cooking and plan to take some cooking classes this summer. Just like someone else mentioned when you find things you enjoy you will meet others that share a similiar interest.

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    I don't care about getting a best friend or something, I don't care if I even hang out with them more then once, the hanging out once would be good enough for me. Just meeting someone new to talk to would be fun. I'm not trying to rush things with people and I have kind of looked online but guys are only looking for ass, and chicks think I'm looking for ass when I contact them. I talked to my bf about this lastnight but it ended badly. It turned into a fight about the friend of his who is a peice of shit that tried to talk my bf into breaking up with me. ( don't comment on that, it's not the point of the thred and it's all been worked out) , and how my bf still hangs out with him. I'm trying to be a beter person and not make him chose but this guy keeps pushing him to chose. I grew up being taught if you push someone, you lose. So it seems so unfair to me that he's still hanging out with this guy.
    Then ontop of that some chick from his work text him just a random friendly tex, but it pissed me off. He's been working there a week, and h had told me he gave her his number. I trust him 100%, and I have no idea why that pssed me off, but it did. < ranting
    See this thred is called bf trouble but it's really Angel trouble
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    Stick around here for a while I am sure you will find someone to chat with . Friends are trully hard to come by these days ( for me as well ) so take your time .

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    It's just people looking for friends / hangout buddies. Much better for this kinda thing than regular personals. Give it a try.

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