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    Oh wow, I used to love school, and now it just seems increasingly pointless. I've totally lost my drive. I have a paper due in 12 and half hours, and it's not even half way finished. The last paper for this class I did the same thing and somehow managed an A, but I doubt I'll pull that kinda luck twice. It's not that school is any harder, or that I find it less interesting, I just can't concentrate on it anymore. All motivation is lost. I feel like my degree will only lead to a Starbucks career anyway...(philosophy major, in third year).

    Last week I kinda lost my mind a little and dropped down to two classes...I have no idea whether I am even going to register for next fall, or if I should take a year off? I feel like this degree is a waste of time...and I'm making sooo much money these days at work, I feel like maybe my time would be better spent working/ traveling...

    I'm only 20, so maybe this is just immaturity...and I've been so godawful sick for almost a year now. My guts literally bleed during finals. My doctor said I need a better coping method for school stress. Well, I've managed to control it slightly, but it's just one more thing I'm sick of dealing with.

    Yeah yeah I know, whine whine whine. Sorry. My bartender buddy at work said "you were the smart one, the one actually in school, the one who didn't drink- and now you're becoming a stripper".

    My marks haven't dropped- yet. I still have a 9.0 Canadian GPA (outta ten- it's pretty good). But I think I want to switch programs...except I don't what else interests me...I was thinking law, but I don't even know anymore. Is "taking a year off" to work/travel really the kiss of death? Should I just finish this three year degree and then be a free bird for a while until I get my shit together?

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    If I were You I would stick it out and finish it. Because when You'r 40 or older You probley wont be able to strip anymore and having You'r degree would be a great thing to have to fall back on....

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    You run into people all the time who passionately declare, "Damn, I sure wish I had stayed in school and finished", but it is pretty rare to find ones who say, "Damn, I sure wish I had dropped out (or taken a year off) instead of finishing."

    Or how often do you hear a parent declare that she/he intends to make sure her/his kids finish school even though she/he didn't vs how often you hear a parent saying that she/he hopes her/his kids drop out even though she/he got a degree?

    Imo, those facts speaks for itself.

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    You run into people all the time who passionately declare, "Damn, I sure wish I had stayed in school and finished", but it is pretty rare to find ones who say, "Damn, I sure wish I had dropped out (or taken a year off) instead of finishing."
    Well said.

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    Take six years to finish your three year degree, but don't drop out.



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    Honey, take it from someone who spent like 10 years wasting her life - don't. You're bored in third year. So is everyone. Then again I suppose I wouldn't know that if I didn't spend the 10 years wasting my life. You can A) find a new major B) find new classes or C) plow through. If you want, stop up here some time and we can talk about school. But seriously - unless you are taking the year to go and innoculate penguins in the Antarctic you are going to have unexplainable gaps. If you want to take time off, find something good to do. I mean it doesn't necessarily have to be wildly onerous, but there is no point to just pissing around.

    Oh, and PS - I wouldn't bother with a three year degree. In terms of grad education it generally isn't good for much. I would suck up the fourth year.
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    Don't stop now. Change your major if you want but don't quit. I was almost dead by the time I finsihed school but looking back I'm glad I got it over with. It hasn't done much for me really except that I have the satisfaction of having finished! And if I want to go to law school (which I might if I can save the $$$) I have my undergrad degree. If you are a philosophy major and are thinking about law school that is a good undergrad to have. Maybe things work differently in Canada though where you are but when I took my Kaplan prep test for the LSAT the guy teaching the class said philosphy majors were the best prepared. School is hard but just make yourself do it.

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    Molly, I totally know how you feel. I am having this exact same problem right now. I am questioning what my first priority is in my life--dancing (how I pay my bills) or school (very stressful and draining). I don't know what I want to do with my life career-wise, and because I love dancing and can make enough off it I don't feel any drive to study towards a lower paying job. At this point I feel like I could be happy and fulfilled being a dancer the rest of my life although I know this is not a reality. It makes it very difficult for me to study.

    I have been thinking about seeing one of the counselors at school--they do career counseling and emotional counseling. The only thing holding me back from this is I don't know if they will be supportive and not judgmental about my job. Are your finals this week as well? Mine are stressing me out!

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    thanks everyone...I guess I've moved too far away from my mother, because usually she just guilts me out of these funks. I suppose having no direction is even more reason to stay in school. Is part time a bad idea though? It's soo much easier, and I'd be willing to pick up summer courses if I'm kicking around here anyway. I don't know why I'm so lazy these days.

    but this paper is actually flowing now...i procrastinate because they terrify me, and then they're never quite so bad...and thanks Jenny..I think of Toronto, and remember dreams of taking grad courses with Mark Kingwell, and that's pretty good motivation right there.

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    Bleh...I totally hear you! I got to the point during my sophomore year where I didn't even care if I showed up for classes. I switched to taking classes online (which I LOVE compared to "regular" school), but I've been behind since the move. It's stressful making up three to four weeks of work, lemme tell ya.

    I know for me a semester break is in order. Now before I start getting the hate mail here (oh God, I can't believe I typed that) let me say this: with online classes there is no spring break or summer break. I know my place needs work, and I need some time to get that settled without having a ton of added stress- plus, I'm only a year or so away from my four year degree...I'll be able to just jump right back in.

    Anyway, my point is...maybe drop your course load (like I did...I went from taking 16 hours to 12), or take a break- but only if you REALLY need to. Don't just do it because dancing is making you good money now. If you feel like you're about to lose it, then taking a one semester break could really refresh you...you need to be a really self motivated person to handle doing that, though.

    Good luck with whatever you do!

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    I barely made it through the year and half of college I took but I throw it up to angry mostly. When my husband and I split for the first time I wanted to show him that I didn't need him. It's amazing what anger can do, lol. Then once I finished I nursed for a couple of years then wanted to go back to get my RN. I was accepted into the program but ended up having to have surgery again and took an incomplete. Since then, I starting dancing to pay bills off orginally but have yet quit despite the fact everything hurting me is paid off. Now, I am almost 28 and plan to start some classes this summer at least.

    You are 20 years old, don't burn out and take some time off if need be. Don't lose you vision though like I did and go back when you are getting to the end of your "dancing career". Don't do like a lot of friends of mine and myself did and get married and lazy either, lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Wwanderer
    You run into people all the time who passionately declare, "Damn, I sure wish I had stayed in school and finished", but it is pretty rare to find ones who say, "Damn, I sure wish I had dropped out (or taken a year off) instead of finishing."

    Or how often do you hear a parent declare that she/he intends to make sure her/his kids finish school even though she/he didn't vs how often you hear a parent saying that she/he hopes her/his kids drop out even though she/he got a degree?
    Okay, I'm going to be a dissending opinion here so nobody jump on me too hard. For me, dropping out of college was one of the greatest life-altering decisions I ever made and I dropped out my senior year with 3 classes to go before I got my bachelor's degree if that means anything. While I do think that college is very valuable to someone using it as a means to an end (such as to become an engineer or a doctor or an attorney etc.) for the other such degrees, especially Business (which was my degree along with Marketing) the university system has been absolutely obsolete for, I'd say, about the last 25-30 years. I remember the day I dropped out. I was sitting in the department head's office and he was giving me this long lecture about why I was making a big mistake. I had to inform him that one of the professors I had for three upper division business classes had never worked for a corporation. Never owned his own business, and never once worked anywhere near corporate America. He went to college, got a business degree with a minor in post-secondary education and has been teaching business for 20 years. This, in combination with the fact that I had three job offers on the table paying more than he was making pretty much made this department head admit that I was wasting my time in college.

    I remember telling my parents about my dropping out. While my mother was a bit disappointed, my father (the entrepreneur in the family) backed me on it completely. I'm not saying this because I think you should drop out. Quite the contrary actually. Rather just understand that if it's not something you are passionate about, there is no reason to continue spending the valuable time of your life pursuing something that may not benefit you in any way. Maybe college is the right thing for you and your major doesn't interest you at all and you may want to consider switching majors. Keep in mind that most college students switch majors at least 1 or 2 times. At least think of this as a possible option if you feel you are burning out a bit. Perhaps you are just realizing that the field of study you have chosen is not for you? That's all part of growing up.

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    Jesus Molly.i feel the same way as you. I just can't think nor create a coherant sentence anymore. Everything is so stressful. I'm getting a degree in Art History, which I love, but lately I feel so hopeless and drained. I too have a huge essay due in 12 hours but I'm coming down with a cold, feel like crap, and am thinking about telling my teacher some sort of sob story about being sick. I'm an A student, and have taken classes with her before, and hopefully she'll understand and give me an extension, if not, major marks will be deducted.

    Fuck, I'm so upset with myself. I had so much time and now it's all gone. I just want to sleep, die, and forget all about school.

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    Have you ever thought about just taking a semester off? Or just taking a half a courseload? It wouldn't be for the long term, just something temporary.







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    Take time off and figure out your priorities. When I took time off and just worked I literally went stir crazy...ha ha but thats just me. My mind races all the time and I find school helps channel all my energy into something productive. You might realize that you love school and want to find a career from your studies or you might find something else during your time off that you would rather do with your life. Taking time off was the best thing I ever did...it might be the same way for u.

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    Oh, no problem hon. One of my roommates is a professional academic - she's up for her first tenure track job, big, big deal, we're all very excited - in the arts, and I'm sure that she would be delighted to share her experiences in an academic grad school, if you were interested in emailing her.

    Like I said, if you really feel you need time off, go on ahead, but really I don't think you should take it just to dance; that is not going to do anything good for your life. You probably already know French (being from Ottawa. Actually, I haven't got a summer job yet, so right now learning French is going to be my project); maybe you could learn an Asian language? Go on a school exchange? (For all intents and purposes, that is "off"). Do some kind of international internship? Domestic internship? You work with animals - if you are interested in law, and animals; would your school fund an internship? (Clayton Ruby is handling the Ontario Pitbull Legislation challenge - I don't know if they hire undergrads, but a lot of people make exceptions for free labour.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Wwanderer
    You run into people all the time who passionately declare, "Damn, I sure wish I had stayed in school and finished", but it is pretty rare to find ones who say, "Damn, I sure wish I had dropped out (or taken a year off) instead of finishing."
    Yea, after my first year of school, I decided to take a year off. It got pretty old pretty quickly and I'm back in school now after just one semester of being off. I never thought I'd miss school so much and now I just feel like I wasted time. I'm your age also (well, 19, 20 in July.)

    If it's getting to you, drop down to part-time next semester. That'll help ease the stress, but you wouldn't be losing much time.

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    Leave.
    Yeah, a lot of people say that was a huge mistake because they didn't go back. But that doesn't mean you won't. And if you don't, you'll probably have a reason.
    I left and now I'm back. That's just the way it worked for me. No reason to burn out and get a meaningless degree and have to go back and start over...



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