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    Sad I ran away from the club

    Hey everyone,
    I'm a newbie who did all the things recommended on the site. I needed some money since i'm a broke college student living on my own . I read most of the newbie faqs, I visited clubs, talked to dancers, did two amtaeaur night and since I did a private party before i figured I would be okay. Plus every club I auditioned at or went to wanted to hire me.
    Problem is I live in Atl where you need a liscense after going to strokers on amt night i decided i couldn't work there i felt a lot of hate and ALTHOUGH EVERYONE SAID IT WAS THE BEST CLUB IN MY AREA I REALLY HATE CONFRONTATION. For some reason I'm intimated to go into a white club. And my friend who works at Pink pony says it's good money bbut takes atoll on you emotionally. I decided to start in a "dive" something which made sense after reading your posts.

    All the clubs in atl u need 350 for a permit i found this one "hood spot "who said they would front me all the money. I went there my first night and hated it. I was there for all of an 1 hour The manger tried to kiss me in his office and gave me 20 to stay in there with him for a couple songs cuz there weren't that many people, then he precedded to try to bend meover and grind on me so i waas happy to leave when there came a knock on the door, all the girls gave me looks that could kill, and the custy's kept turning me down for dances but wanted to "holla' and did i mention i'm really bad with rejection so every "no" was a blow to my ego. i made $40 bucks and was ready to go. I was on the bus balling out of control and i don't know why and my feet hurt. I didn't know it would be so demeaning and emotionally straining.
    should i try again?I thought i was mentally tough enough but i can't do the whole huistla thing I've never had to, not to be conceited but I'm very attractive and most of the management and male friends said i would make a killing. To make a long horiffic story short i left the club after an hour, basically ran away, had to pay a 25 fine, told them i would be back and i haven't shown up since (that was friday) I signed a promisary note and now i'm 350 in the hole
    QUESTION US: SHOULD I GO BACK, OR AT LEAST TELL THEM I'M GOING TO TRY TO PAY,(the mangaer will probably just try to fuck me though) try to get a job as a waitress. will thery hunt me down? i'm scared and kind of embarrassed to go back, also i don't know anyone out here and i was to ashamed to admit any of this to my friends back home. Idon't know what to do but i need the money

    SORRY IT'S SO LONG

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    I recommend that you pay back the money for the license.

    But you have your license now, and can go work at a better club. Try one that is more stage focused and less hustle focused. You can make okay money just stage dancing at the right club.

    You said you did a party and enjoyed it. Why not just do parties? If you liked working in that atmosphere, there is no reason for you to ever go back to a club. Find a nice agency to work for. Again, you now have your license, so don't worry about trying to get set up that way.

    I hope you kept all of your paperwork from your license. If you left it at the club, then you are not likely to get it back, and will have to apply for copies.

    I'm sorry you stumbled into a bad situation. Not every club is horrible, and not all customers are cheap, sleezy bastards.

    I worked for a club that paid my airfare and housing. When I got there, I discovered that it was very similar to the place that you described. I did what I could and hustled my ass off to get that plane ticket paid off, and bolted out the door as soon as I could. I booked my flight home after only 3 shifts at that hell hole. I basically did mini table dances for $1 all night long. There was way too much going on in VIP for me to want to go back there again. I worked a total of 4 shifts, made nothing, and spent extra money to get myself back home again.

    The club threatened to sue me for not paying my final house fees (I skipped out for my last two shifts), I told them to go right ahead. I never heard from them again. This was in Alaska, and I was living in Montana at the time, so the effort they would have ahd to go through to get me to pay back house fees, was just not worth it.

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    First of all, I'm sorry that you went through that. Don't worry about the initial vibe of the other girls in the nicer clubs...you don't have to associate with them. I work in a "white" club, but all of our ethnic (black, asian, latino, etc.) girls BANK. As a white dancer, I envy them many a night. Don't give it up until you've given it a fair shot. I agree that you should pay them back, but take a male with you when you do it. And can I ask what club in Alaska? I'm thinking of heading that way this summer, but want to make sure that I don't wind up there.

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    hey the club you worked at.. was it Showboat in achorage?.. this question for Paige

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    I meant Paris sorry

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    if it was showboat they actually locked me with handcuffs to a chair and called the cops on me.. lucky for me THEY had STOLEN my IDS out of the room I rentd from them, they rolled them up in there supplied bedding so when I searched for them I couldnt' find them. The cops told them they had to let me look again and that time I found them. I flew out of there that night

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    oh yeah the reason they handcuffed me... I didn't pay my house fees on the last night I had worked

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    Thanks for the tip about the Alaska club. I was planning a trip that way and wasnt sure on what club.


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    Default Re: I ran away from the club

    With all of the clubs in ATL, why would you need to lower yourself and standards to go work in a "hood spot"

    I agree with Paris, give the club their money back (in money order/check) since it's traceable. If you must give it to them in cash, get a receipt. Also, take a male friend with you for backup.

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    I dont think you should be in an environment where you feel uncomfortable at all. I would try to pay the money back asap, so that you don't "owe" them anything and they can't say that you do. Im sorry that happened to you. Good luck

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    I'm sorry this happened to you. I'm moving to Atlanta this summer and now I'm terrified! I understand why you are apprehensive about working in a club where black dancers are the minority. But in a city like Atlanta there must be a few clubs in between the upscale and the dive.

    how many clubs did you visit before choosing?

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    DON"T go back to that club, if you had that many problems there. You're in a big city, so there are plenty of clubs to choose from. The club you described really sounds unusually bad. I started dancing in a "dive", too, but the managers were respectful and no one gave me any problems. At the very least, shop around til you find a club where the manager doesn't sexually assault you. There's no excuse for that. Don't put up with it.

    As for feeling hurt when customers turn down dances, I think most new dancers go through this. You will learn to hustle so that more customers say "yes", and you'll develop a thick skin, so the rejection rolls right off you.

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    You are taking your clothes off for a living.I don't understand why anyone would choose a sub-par place to do this.
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    The manager sexually violated you, and you're worried about paying him??

    Think about that one for a minute.

    I would press charges, but that's just me.

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    Yes, it was Showboat in Anchorage. Myself and another dancer grabbed our stuff and got into the cab like we were going to work, but instead had the cab take us to a mall. From there we got a motel for the night and left Anchorage the next night.

    That place was a hell hole.

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    Dont go back there! That is SO not worth it!!!! you are so much better than that!!!

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    Thanks everyone for the advise.
    I'm definitely going to pay him back cuz he does have all my paperwork and I don't like owing anybody anything. When I go back I'm bringing my boy with me. I should be good, since I just found a private agency and I have a party coming up this weekend I only decided to wok there because they were the only club that would pay everything up front, now i know better, he only did that cuz he thought i would sleep with him.
    Personally if the private party money is good I'm going to stick with that.Clubs just aren't my speed right now. Thanks for all the advise i feel much better.

    By the way the club was called "Babes" also "Wax" acrioss the street is no better.

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    Have you tried Cheetah ? It may change your mind on what clubs have to offer.

    Working private parties is going to be extreem contact and potentialy alot of pressure for sex.

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    You need to use what he did to you as leverage.You can say,"You know,what you did to me in the office was illegal and extremely messed up.I can either pay you back the $350 and then press charges against you,or you can forget the money and remain a free man".Don't be such a tool.

    On second thoughts,I don't understand why you think you owe him a damned thing.He did something to you no amount of money can replace and you're still worried about paying him???Come on now,girl.Get real.
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    Thanks, OTB. I can't fathom the mindset that would worry about paying $350 to someone who sexually violated me, especially if I didn't press charges. There is nothing whatsoever to stop him from doing this (or worse) to countless other young women in the future, as long as he keeps getting away with it!

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    Another thought, did he actually give you the money so you could go get your license yourself, or did you fill out paperwork at the club and they said they would take care of it?

    If you left the whole thing in the club's hands, I would be willing to bet that you have no license. If this guy is as shady as he sounds, I bet he was going to let you work w/o a license, and still collect the $350 from you.

    Before you pay him a cent, be possitive that you actually do have a license.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Paris
    Another thought, did he actually give you the money so you could go get your license yourself, or did you fill out paperwork at the club and they said they would take care of it?

    If you left the whole thing in the club's hands, I would be willing to bet that you have no license. If this guy is as shady as he sounds, I bet he was going to let you work w/o a license, and still collect the $350 from you.

    Before you pay him a cent, be possitive that you actually do have a license.

    good point! i wouldn't be a bit surprised if he did exactly that.
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    No, he gave me the money and I went with the house mom to get it. I had to hand it over to them though. It was the real thing I got finger printed and hgad to rergister at the police stationI really just want to move on, that'as why i don't want to press chatrges i've dealt with worse. At the private parties it's higher contact but the dudes are cool and respectful also they ask which girlas they cvan get extras from later and don't seem to mind that i don't.
    I'm just worried cuz i signed the promissary note and they have my adress.

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    I would just say pay it, forget about it and move on with your life. If you get the court and police involved, this situation could stay with you and haunt you longer than you could imagine. If the guy is ass enough to try that, beleive that he will be ass enough to go to extremes to get his money too. Even though he is the last person u want to give money to, he could try to press charges against you for it. He got u the lisence, so now he needs his money in return. Pay him now before they try to "find you."

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    One more thing, you don't have to go in person to pay this piece of shit. You can mail a postal money order to them, return receipt requested so you have two records to corroborate the fact that you paid him. I am so so sorry you had to experience an assault as your introduction to this business. I really hope you'll give it another try when you're ready. I've worked at least 20 clubs in five states and please believe most managers are not like this.

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