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    Men reveal: 'Why I date younger women'
    By Tobey Grumet

    Ever feel like all the men your age are dating women half your age? OK. Maybe not half your age. But you get the idea. What makes men drawn to younger women? Is it just about looks and our youth-centric culture? Well, that’s part of it. But you might be surprised that the real reasons go way beyond the physical. Men, it turns out, are a bit more complicated than that!

    It’s about math…
    “When you reach your late 30s, it's not so much that dating a younger woman becomes more attractive, it's just harder not to. The law of averages means that proportionately fewer women your age are single. But dating a woman in her 20s when you’re approaching 40 is also less demanding; you’re not faced with the same requirements to make a decision about your future. When your new girlfriend is 36, she expects you’re thinking about the next few years, not just the next few dates.”
    —Colin, 38, Chicago, IL

    Have it my way
    "I'd say the allure is that younger women are less judgmental and less set in their ways. They don't (yet) have a laundry list of what they want in a partner, in a career, in a life. Younger women are more user-friendly, I suppose. I think that kind of attitude appeals to thirtysomething guys who want a relationship to really be on our terms."
    —Larry, 35, Edison, NJ

    The fun patrol
    “Honestly, younger women are sometimes more open to goofy good times than a women who has a few years on her. You can invite them to Kung Fu Hustle without getting a skeptical look.”
    —Mitchell, 39, Baltimore, MD

    Check all baggage, please
    “The appealing thing about younger women is their outlook on life. They tend to be untainted by experiences that have hardened older women. Like when a woman’s been lied to a lot after years of dating, she always thinks you’re lying to her. And that’s a turnoff. Younger women are less cynical and that’s a big draw.”
    —Alan*, 46 New York

    Marriage-minded…not!
    “What makes a younger woman a good catch? She's not itching to have a ring on her finger. She's interested in the here and now, in going out, in having fun. It may sound like a cliché, but it’s reality. I'm not anti-marriage, I'm just anti-agenda. A younger woman seems more willing to let things take their natural course.”
    —Roger, 35, New York, NY

    The age-defying principle
    "When a guy reaches a certain age, he worries he sees his youth and vitality wane. A younger woman reaffirms for me that I’ve still got it going on."
    —Mike, 40, Orlando, FL

    Let me lead…
    “One advantage of dating a younger woman is that you can play ‘cruise director’—show her all your secret favorite places that she probably hasn’t experienced yet. They’re easier to impress and very willing to be escorted around. Women like it when you have a plan and it’s well-executed.”
    —Bill, 33, New York, NY

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    I guess all the reasons the guys gave for dating younger women would also apply to older women dating younger men.

    It all comes down to a big ego boost. Sure, you genuinely like the person, but it really makes a late 30's gal look like a real firecracker to be dating an early 20's man. She may be the biggest hit at a party because she isn't afraid of looking uncool. She'll make big points with the guys.

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    Default Re: "Why men date younger women"

    Also if they're young enough (over 1(eighteen), they probably don't have babies hanging onto them. Of course, some do.



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    Default Re: "Why men date younger women"

    It seems most women want to date an older man than a younger man. So a fella's options are a bit limited by what the other wants.

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    besides, most of the women my age look like they could be my mom. Women just don't age well, in general - which might be ok if you're growing old together, but....

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    Quote Originally Posted by dlabtot
    besides, most of the women my age look like they could be my mom. Women just don't age well, in general - which might be ok if you're growing old together, but....
    Hey now,my mom is 57 and looks 35.I'm gonna go through that same thing.
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    My mom is 55 and looks pretty good for her age I think.

    Significantly younger for me would be sub-21 year olds, and that is not what I'm interested in. I like women currently that hover around 30, with one exception that is jut a smidgen over 21.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t
    My mom is 55 and looks pretty good for her age I think.

    Significantly younger for me would be sub-21 year olds, and that is not what I'm interested in. I like women currently that hover around 30, with one exception that is jut a smidgen over 21.
    I think I know who that is.
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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest
    Hey now,my mom is 57 and looks 35.I'm gonna go through that same thing.
    Different aging rules for Asian women.

    My 40 year old Chinese neighbor could pass for 25.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Silverback
    Different aging rules for Asian women.

    My 40 year old Chinese neighbor could pass for 25.
    I got carded once buying NyQuil.

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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest
    I got carded once buying NyQuil.

    Don't be sad little girl. It beats the alternative.

    What's the legal age for Nyquil?
    "He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"

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    Quote Originally Posted by Silverback
    Don't be sad little girl. It beats the alternative.

    What's the legal age for Nyquil?
    Yeah,you're right.

    The legal age for cold medicine is 18.
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    My soon to be hubby is 43 here in a few weeks and I turn 29 this summer. (I still get carded for everything) I never see the age thing and really never have I guess. He is good to me and my best friend. Although sometimes you'd think he was younger than me since he acts like a kid now and then. Yes I knew he was older when we first started going out but I prefer older men for my own reasons. He knew my age but constantly tells everyone I am the brains of our group and the mature one. I cant really explain it.


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    Hmmm, one of the LAST things I need to know about a woman I am interested in is her age. Of course, lets stay above 21, but even still. I just want someone to keep me interested and that isn't affected by age.
    People are not ruled by their memories.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t
    women currently that hover around 30
    ...yes, i know quite a few girls that have been 29 for some years now.

    As people get a little older they may get a little more jaded or bored with the "routine" of life. A younger person can help bring back some of the excitement.
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    So, I have a joke that goes with this...

    A man is going to a garage sale and he finds an old lamp. He rubs it and "poof" out pops a genie.

    The genie says, "you have one wish".

    The man says, "Don't I get three wishes?"

    Genie, "Well, I am not that good and I got kicked out of genie school, after I spent all of my study time in strip clubs."

    Man, "O.K. well.... I'm 40 years old and so is my wife..... I want a wife half my age."


    Genie, "Poof, you're 80 years old"

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    Quote Originally Posted by dlabtot
    besides, most of the women my age look like they could be my mom. Women just don't age well, in general - which might be ok if you're growing old together, but....
    Biggest crack of poo. Puhlease.

    It's all in genetics, not gender.

    Men age disgustingly if anything. They get hairier, bald, pot bellies, ball sack droops, fart up a storm like nothing(& they smell worse when older). Um, yeah.

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    Aside from bio-genetic explanations, it generally comes down to one word: ego.

    Mentor-student relationships are interesting and useful for both parties. But older people also know this harsh truth---these relationships typically breakdown once the novelty wears off or, less frequently, morph into a platonic friendship. (At the outer edge of possibility they end very, very badly. Think "Kill Bill.")

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    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka

    “When your new girlfriend is 36, she expects you’re thinking about the next few years, not just the next few dates.”

    "They don't (yet) have a laundry list of what they want in a partner, in a career, in a life... I think that kind of attitude appeals to thirtysomething guys who want a relationship to really be on our terms."

    “ You can invite them to Kung Fu Hustle without getting a skeptical look.”

    “ A younger woman seems more willing to let things take their natural course.”

    “They’re easier to impress and very willing to be escorted around.”
    Speaking as a "younger" (25) woman with some experience dating older men: a lot of it is about control...controlling the activities the couple does together, controlling the course of the relationship, controlling the sex, and on and on. Many men want to feel like they're "in charge" of the relationship. The older women get, the less bullshit they'll tolerate. Men for whom bullshit is the currency of relationships must flee to friendlier ground.
    At this point in my life, I want a relationship between equals, so am mostly drawn to men around my age, as long as they can keep up with me. But plenty of young girls want to be controlled, taken care of, and led around by the hand, so I guess everyone wins.

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    Why is it many women seem to feel men can't "keep up with" them?

    That must be one of the more absurd things I hear coming from women.

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    As for me... I know why I like older men! (Okay, not gross older... you know what I mean!) It's because they're usually more mature and are more likely to have their stuff together... But I still always end up with someone at least half a year younger than me. I guess older men are a little intimidating, too?

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    [QUOTE=Bella21]As for me... I know why I like older men! (Okay, not gross older... you know what I mean!) It's because they're usually more mature and are more likely to have their stuff together... QUOTE]

    Yeah, who can argue how attractive confidence is? I think older men seem to know what they want and also know how to treat a woman. Not like I have some daddy complex, I mean they just seem to go the extra mile (like holding doors, pulling out chairs, etc.) and be more appreciative. But that does bug me when an older guy goes, "baggage on older women is such a turnoff" well duh, you've got the same baggage!! Life experiences, that's all...

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    OK, my phrasing was a little ambiguous. What I meant was, I like to date guys around my own age, as long as they aren't immature idiots. I meant "keep up with" mostly in an intellectual sense. Although it helps if they walk as fast as I do, too.


    Quote Originally Posted by Sh0t
    Why is it many women seem to feel men can't "keep up with" them?

    That must be one of the more absurd things I hear coming from women.

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    wow spelled upside down is mom.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dlabtot
    besides, most of the women my age look like they could be my mom. Women just don't age well, in general - which might be ok if you're growing old together, but....
    You crack me up!!

    Aging well has a little to do with genetics and a lot to do with the persuit of vanity. Eating right, exercise, and persistant beauty care is esential (gotta hide those gray roots!). Plastic surgery, staying up on the latest fashions, and expensive undergarments don't hurt either .

    Of course you do live in an area known for ranching and logging. I've not seen too many ranch women that would win beauty prizes over the age of 24! (I have met at least one, however, she's 46 and looks just like Heather Locklear!). Vanity is not persued to any great degree, and a lot of people in the area are proud of their unflattering aging process. I was chatting with a relative in the area, and explained that I needed to "conceal some flaws". Her response was "God forbid you should have visible flaws!" Offering me an eyeball roll in the process.

    But even Arnold Schwartzenegger, who dedicated his life to healthy living, still looks like crap in a swimsuit. The clock catches up with us all eventually.

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