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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us
    My point being you go the bar and break the Benjamin rather than busting the dancer's chops. Hell, maybe you hand her two $20s for the dance, smile and walk away...Nah, what was I thinking...
    If I stop her at one dance and give her 2 $20's, she might think the reason I stopped at one dance instead of the usual 5 or 6 is because I am broke.

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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest
    Yoda,you can visit me at my club anytime you want.
    OTB: You have no IDEA how badly I want to visit your club ! Thanks for the offer but be warned, you never know where I'll show up!
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    Quote Originally Posted by kikin
    If I stop her at one dance and give her 2 $20's, she might think the reason I stopped at one dance instead of the usual 5 or 6 is because I am broke.
    True, but she still wont know you are intentionally fucking with her.

    real nice.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kikin
    But I will say this for now: it is not my aim to hurt anyone.
    Then why do you choose to be so adversarial with dancers? Since when does mindfucking not hurt anyone?
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us
    OTB: You have no IDEA how badly I want to visit your club ! Thanks for the offer but be warned, you never know where I'll show up!
    Oh really?????Any reason why?????
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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythebest
    Oh really?????Any reason why?????
    Lets just say that, in my home clubs, I'm known as "That guy who only dances with Brazilians and Asians".
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us
    Lets just say that, in my home clubs, I'm known as "That guy who only dances with Brazilians and Asians".
    I'm glad I'm Asian in that case.100% at that,LOL!!!
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    I've thought about what I said in the forum yesterday and I realize that it was insensitive on my part and it totally lacked respect for the dancer. I realize now that although it is not my intention to hurt her, my action nonetheless resulted in her being hurt. I should not play these "mind games" and I should have known better that the psychology dancers use to make a living is something that is totally different from the stupid little mind game I alluded to earlier in this thread. I only did it once which is inexcusable. I will not do it again because I hate to think that my actions have hurt another human being. I apologize.

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    Quote Originally Posted by kikin
    I've thought about what I said in the forum yesterday and I realize that it was insensitive on my part and it totally lacked respect for the dancer. I realize now that although it is not my intention to hurt her, my action nonetheless resulted in her being hurt. I should not play these "mind games" and I should have known better that the psychology dancers use to make a living is something that is totally different from the stupid little mind game I alluded to earlier in this thread. I only did it once which is inexcusable. I will not do it again because I hate to think that my actions have hurt another human being. I apologize.
    Thank you for realizing this.
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    Very nicely done Kikin.
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    Just tell her the truth. It's your money and you shouldn't feel bad about wasting it on something you don't want. If she is upset, she needs to get over it. She chose a job like this and not everyone will want her.

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    Quote Originally Posted by scwriter
    Just tell her the truth. It's your money and you shouldn't feel bad about wasting it on something you don't want. If she is upset, she needs to get over it. She chose a job like this and not everyone will want her.
    Posts like this will not be well received in this community.OK newbie???
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    Quote Originally Posted by scwriter
    Just tell her the truth. It's your money and you shouldn't feel bad about wasting it on something you don't want. If she is upset, she needs to get over it. She chose a job like this and not everyone will want her.

    Ha, funny custies don't have the same attitude when dancers don't 'want' them. Next time I have a custie that is upset I'll just say 'well you need to get over it, you chose to come to the strip club for attention and its not my fault you don't have enough money to make me want you
    I believe you Dottie and you have my support

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    any professional dancer can handle you "letting her go". it's something all of us have to deal with in the industry. regulars cycle through different girls -all- the time, and many times within the same club. most girls don't take personal offense to it, but some tend to get catty. i don't see the point in being catty about it because the guys don't come there to be "owned". in fact many of them are there to try and get away from that feeling. also, once a guy has started dancing with a new girl, i think it's embarassing to try and "get him back". another day, another guy, another dollar. the only advise i would give to you, is that it's polite to still be casual with her. tip her on stage every so often and generally be kind. i've lost a few regulars (and gained some.. like i said it's a cycle) and i really appreciate the ones who move on gracefully and are still respectfull. you don't have to give me all your money, but if you're sitting 2 feet away from me and niether of us are talking to anyone, acting like i don't exist is just childish. we're all adults. no one in these clubs should feel like they're being "cheated on", and that goes for the customers too! i -hate- when i have 2 regulars in at the same time and the one who got there later gets angry that i'm sitting with someone else. sometimes i want to get a shirt that says THIS IS MY JOB

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    Let me begin by saying that I have felt really bad in the past for telling ladies, "Sorry, I'm not interested in you any more." It just feels bad. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings.

    HOWEVER, I'm getting really mixed signals from you ladies posting here. On one hand we (customers) shouldn't expect the dancers to 'just get over it'. Yet on the other hand, dancers are pros and the customers don't mean anything to them anyway. Which is it? Should I feel bad because some customers actually mean something OR should I not feel bad because professional dancers should expect this type of treatment?

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    i once had a customer who paid me less and less each time until i started giving up on him. it feels like you've been rejected even though you rationally know you shouldn't feel like that...i found it hard to let go of him...poor little rejected me

    on the other hand i had a regular customer who took me into the private room one day, said we needed to talk, told me he understood our 'feeling' for each other and whenever i was ready to "take the next step" with him. he would be waiting for me,started talking about fate, love, marriage and crap, by the end of it i bolted out and avoided him like the plague ever since.

    declare your love for me and i'll run a mile.
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    Oh man, this brings me to think of a recent story a girlfriend of mine (also a stripper, but works at another club) told me...
    She had a really cool regular that she liked as a person (not just a custy). Not that she would date him, but she actually enjoyed their conversations ITC.
    So one day he comes in and tells her he slept with one of the waitresses...and this particular waitress is pushing 60 and is completely gross. When my friend tried to get a dance from him, he refused, even when the DJ announced they were doing 2 for 1's!!
    And the dances at her club are only $10! So he completely refused to get a $5 lap dance, basically.

    Maybe this would work for your situation...LOL j/k - don't try it for real, she will totally think you are scum.

    My "real" advice is to just stop giving her money - she won't come around anymore if you're not making it worth her time.

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    Actually, on second thought - I like the idea of telling her straight up that you would like to get dances with other girls also. Maybe get one or two from her occasionally but make it clear to everyone involved that you don't "belong" to anyone.
    We have a custy like this at our club. First he was getting dances from one girl exclusively, then found another that he liked, and then bought like 3 from me as well. The first girl still thinks she owns him and won't let anyone else have a chance to be around him when she's there. It's really annoying because he sometimes makes a pleading, "help me" sort of eye contact with me from across the room when she hogs him for hours. I'm sure he does this with the second girl too. It's kind of cute, but sad at the same time. He's actually a really nice person and I hate to see him get too crowded and involved in something that is supposed to be a fun fantasy. I think he just doesn't know how to break it to her that he wants dances from other people.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wysiwyg
    HOWEVER, I'm getting really mixed signals from you ladies posting here. On one hand we (customers) shouldn't expect the dancers to 'just get over it'. Yet on the other hand, dancers are pros and the customers don't mean anything to them anyway. Which is it? Should I feel bad because some customers actually mean something OR should I not feel bad because professional dancers should expect this type of treatment?
    Mixed signals? Well,yeah, they're called opinions. There are going to be dancers that will get pissed, get hurt or just not care. I don't like to hurt anybody's feelings either but, as a customer, I'm reminded every time I visit a club that it's all about money. If you aren't enjoying yourself with a particular lady anymore it dosn't make any sense to keep spending money on her. How you deal with it, and how the dancer deals with it will often vary depending on the situation and the people involved.
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    Say something really gross to her. Sorry --- I had that happen to me. I had a cutsy for awhile and he actually made a comment "I want to f*** you up the a$$ and I want you to suck it clean" I have never run so fast in my life.

    In all serious just be honest with her. Say you would rather get dances from another girl for awhile. I've had several customers do that to me and when they're honest and polite I'll be the first one to send the girl over.
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    I have never had a regular want to stop seeing me. My regulars are my friends and you just don't stop talking to friends with out a reason.
    My regulars also don't just dance with me. They just dance the most with me. It sort of gose like this. If they just come in well then they are there to see everyone. If they ask me if I am going to be there this night at such a time then they are there to see me and spend it with me.

    I didn't make up this rule. This is just the way they act. But right from the get go I let them know That I am more then ok with them getting dances from other girls. In fact if I am busy when they come in , or have to go on stage. I'll send an other dancer over to them. Sometimes if there is a girl I like. They will get a dancer from her for the both of us.

    But if one of my regulars didn't want a dance from me any more. I think it only fair that he tell me. I always treat them like friends and I would exspect them to do the same.
    You say psycho like it's a bad thing

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