I am in one of those rare situations. I am engaged to a dancer that I met as a customer. I have known her for about 5 years and our relationship has been just OTC a little over a year. I was one of her regulars for about a year before we went out the first time. I know that if it were not for the amount of money I spent on her she would not have spent the time in the club with me. We quickly agreed that it would be best that I not give her money since that was so involved in how we met. For the past year she has had to do without the tips that I used to give her. She also works less so she can spend time with me OTC. That has changed her income by about $50K since she was just my ATF, most from my tips. I know that is by her choice, but I also know that she has a hard time making ends meet sometimes. I get my raise from maxing out SS next month, so I do make a lot more than she does. I do feel bad about how much our relationship has affected her income. I know it will not matter after August, but that is still several months away. Our relationship is much more important to me than the money. I do not want money to be an issue. This question is mainly for dancers. Considering that your job involves taking money from guys, how much risk is there in having your SO help you out financially when needed? I don’t know that she would take my money if I offered. I used to be just a customer to her. I don’t want to offer her money if it would make her feel like she is just a dancer to me.



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