So a my best friend is going through a dilema... I promised her I would post this for feedback (she is currently going through internet mishaps so...) Anyone with advice or sugggestions your input would be greatly appreciated... I hope this isn't too long...
She has a five year old daughter... The father has been gone since the baby was two months old... He has been in random (but seldom) contact with the mother... Usually over the phone, a few face to face meetings... Mom wants to protect her daughter from having a "dad" who is in and out of her life so she hasn't allowed the dad to see her, or talk to her on the phone... The daughter always talks about how she wants a "dad"... Tears mom up... The "dad" has paid probably a few hundred (over five years) in child support... Mom can't stand it but doesn't take "dad" to court since she is able to take care of her daughter well... Several months ago "dad" and mom hooked up and met for lunch... "dad" expressed interest in meeting with the daughter... Mom told him that if he could be consistant in meeting with her (keeping appointments) then eventually she would allow that... "dad" was able to do this exactly twice, then disappeared again... Now, "dad" is trying to get back in...
Mom, was going through a bit of an emotional something and ended up sleeping with "dad" the other night... The first time since daughter was born... She has no desire to get back together with "dad" but she really wants him to be a part of her (their) daughters life... He seems to be finally expressing a desire to want that... But she is still extremely cautious... He has promised to start paying child support (we shall see)... But more than the $$ she really would like for "dad" to be a part of daughters life...
So, anyway... She is thinking about letting "dad" talk to daughter on the phone... But is hesitant since daughter has never spoken to her "dad" and know little (if anything) about him... Mom hopes that if "dad" talks to daughter he will want to be part of her life... She is afraid though of the consequences to daughter if they meet (even if just on the phone) if "dad" disappears again...
If anyone (male or female) has experienced anything like this any input or suggestions would be sooooooo appreciated...



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