is it easier to see inner beauty in someone who's considered physically unattractive than in someone physically beautiful?



is it easier to see inner beauty in someone who's considered physically unattractive than in someone physically beautiful?
"The herd walks off the cliff because the herd are not a group of individuals - the herd is a mass of followers and followers follow the path of cowardice."





The physically attractive often lack inner beauty.![]()
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Since I'm Mrs. Elephant Man,my inner beauty looks like an angel in flight...
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lol, OTB!
Silverback, dunno if you're serious or not, but that's my point, are there usually 2 ways people go, either assuming attractive are spoilt, conceited and shallow, or that they are just as beautiful on the inside? do we see what we expect to see more often than what's really there?
does anyone really see another person as they are... totally bypassing looks... i only dated someone really good looking twice. the first one is not worth the mention, but the second time i really was into him, and thought i saw beyond his looks, that he was so amazing and looks were just a bonus. he turned out to have a personality disorder, so i still don't know to this day whether i really saw the beauty of his spirit or got blinded by the outer shell...
my first love tho, everyone was saying how ugly he was, and flat out asking me what i was doing dating him, but i honestly didn't see anything ugly, because he was such a wonderful person, there was this kind of innocence about him that i knew i won't come across often... not naivete or ignorance or stupidity. something that "knows", but cannot be tainted. this light was just shining thru him and i was amazed no one else seemed to see.
"The herd walks off the cliff because the herd are not a group of individuals - the herd is a mass of followers and followers follow the path of cowardice."





That's my charm.Originally Posted by pissymissy
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"He will come in one of the pre-chosen forms. During the rectification of the Vuldrini, the traveler came as a large and moving Torg! Then, during the third reconciliation of the last of the McKetrick supplicants, they chose a new form for him: that of a giant Slor! Many Shuvs and Zuuls knew what it was to be roasted in the depths of the Slor that day, I can tell you!"
A lot of good looking people skate by on charm and don't need to develop a personality.
And I mean a LOT of good looking people do.





I think that inner beauty shines through no matter what the person looks like...although it seems to shine more often from those who don't know they're beautiful as opposed to the ones who do.
I used to have people tell me how nice I really was and when they first saw me, they thought for sure I'd be a complete shallow bitch. I wasn't sure if I should take that as a compliment...
That "inner light/peace" shines through whether the person is ugly or good-looking...some people choose not to see it because it's not important to them. Looks are important to them. If personality or the "inner beauty" is important to someone, they will never notice how "ugly" the person is.
I had a girl friend who was not considered pretty at all. But, she was so warm, and gentle, and loving...we became best of friends...and even to this day, she is one of the most beautiful people I've ever had the honor of being friends with.It's all a matter of opinion...
Originally Posted by pissymissy
Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly is to the bone.....
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Beauty isn't and never has been about looks. It's about perception.
"Beautiful People" who are "Ugly inside" may in fact be that way, but that is how they are percieved.
People in general put out an appearance as a reflection of themselves, if they themselves change, so will their appearance.
I know some seriously gorgious women, but it's never segregated by looks/personality. It's always a whole image. I want a beatiful woman who is intelligent enough to take care of herself and entertaining enough to keep me interested. This defines a whole set of actions. If she keeps me entertained, then she must be intelligent, if she's intelligent, in my perception, she knows that proper control of her body is essential to health, and if she does that she'll be pretty in general and hot as hell to me. Her attitude will make her be stunning when she wants to be...in short, it's all a definition of character, not in what the look like/how they are.
I always have found this a fantastic topic because people are so often worried about what others are seeing and not what they look like.
This doesn't mean that a good person can't be a complete bitch, or vice versa, but what they truly are shows in their actions and their lifestyle. Look around the person to see the person. Heh, why do you think I go to SCs? I like seeing beautiful intelligent women who are intouch with their sexuality, which doesn't mean sex at all. It means confidence, independance, assurance, empowerment, control, power. And these exude from their every move, their decisions, their approach etc etc etc. AND they have no problem being A-CLASS freaks
So blah blah blah, there are superficial bitches and assholes out there. But remember to the right person, they may not be so superficial :/.
So in answer to:
Neither. It's easier to see the whole person if you're looking for attributes.is it easier to see inner beauty in someone who's considered physically unattractive than in someone physically beautiful?
People are not ruled by their memories.





I've seen people who are both unattractive and are even ugly on the inside. I think when you are beautiful/attractive, whatever it shines through before you even say a word. You can see it in someones eyes.Originally Posted by pissymissy
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I think it's largely in the perception. Most people seem to automatically assume an attractive person is shallow, unpleasant, unintelligent, etc - so they will LOOK for those qualities in that person and when you look hard enough for something, you will find it. Most people also seem to believe less attractive people are 'better' people, so they look for those qualities in those people, and once again, look hard enough and you'll find it.
What's this called? Prejudice. Plain and simple. And if you think I'm wrong, you should look up the word for its correct meaning.
I don't think looks and personality are truly related in any way.



thanks for the thoughts!
there were many talk shows in mid/late 90's themed "too beautiful to get a date". and while the general opinion was that there's no such thing and if you can't get it, it must be your personality, i didn't completely agree and didn't think it was fair that maybe a girl is gorgeous, but is naturally shy and quiet, yet many lump her into stuck up category right away and don't bother getting to know, and expect to be proven that they are down to earth etc. someone homely can just be themselves and if they're quiet that's just fine and no one feels threatened. Of course on the other end pretty ones can get away with a lot too.
i'm sure everyone has heard this phrase "such a pretty girl and no boyfriend?" I think it's one of the most moronic things to say, yet i hear the most educated people say it and mean it. because whenever they say it to me i grill them to see if they are actually serious. yesterday this guy said it to me, so i inquired whether he'd be ok if someone wanted to be with him just for his money and he had to hear for most of his life, "such a wealthy man and no girlfriend!" guess what, he goes "yes, what's wrong with it?"
so next question is, do shallow deserve to live? lol, j/k.
"The herd walks off the cliff because the herd are not a group of individuals - the herd is a mass of followers and followers follow the path of cowardice."



nevermind. it kinda dawned on me where that particular "pretty; no boyfriend?" comes from. if nature gave us certain attributes to attract a mate and procreate, that's what people are responding to. got an hourglass figure and symmetrical features? - spawn.
"The herd walks off the cliff because the herd are not a group of individuals - the herd is a mass of followers and followers follow the path of cowardice."





Originally Posted by DylanAngel
I agree! Not all people who are physically beautiful are ugly in the inside! You inner beauty will shine no matter how you look!
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my biggest thing about someone being attractive is that people always assume and judge that bc you're "hot" you're a stuck up snobby bitch. i get it all the time and its really starting to become an issue.... i mean no one is perfect but i believe i am a genuinely nice person who isn't just all about myself.... you can not get by in life solely on your looks... eventually it will catch up with you... what happens if your 40 and you're looks have diminished (not saying anyone 40 isn't good looking), but what do u have to show if all you went by your whole life is the way that you look.





I'll admit. I'm fucking shallow, and even more when I got played the fuck out by an ugly guy who I was head over heels for. LOL. I have to be attracted at first, & no...I wont deal with a shitty attitude. He's gotta have inner beauty, of course. I got my package.![]()
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